Brides Helping Brides ™ - I am starting to FREAK out...help!!! Please!!

aliciahelene Posted: Dec 06, 2003 07:37 AM

I am starting to FREAK out...help!!! Please!!

I havent been on here too much, most of my wedding is planned and I have 33 days to go, Ive been so busy with finishing up school and planning my sisters baby shower, that I hadnt had too much time to think about my wedding, now Im realizing how close it is, Im excited, but sometimes feel so nervous, I feel like I cant breathe...How will I ever make it through my wedding day, or the week before? Should i take sleeping pills? Seriously, any advice???? PLEASE!!! If I cant sleep, I may be a baggy eyed uglyy bride!!!

ChristineC68 Posted: Dec 06, 2003 07:43 AM

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Take a deep breath.

Take a little personal time for you - even if it's just a manicure or a quiet hour to read abook. I know that's easier said then done since you have sooooooo much going on at once. You will feel recharged.

Trust all your decisions, hard work and your vendors that they will far exceed your expectations.

Sorry, I don't have any sleep advice. Maybe limit or eliminate caffeine when you get closer to the day?

You will get it all done and it will be wonderful!!

aliciahelene Posted: Dec 06, 2003 07:45 AM

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Thankyou, I will try and take time for myself, I have one week of school and then Ill have more free time on my hands, Im just afriad though that teh more time I have, the more I can stress, Im kind of sick like that!
I feel like Im going to explode!!!!

ChristineC68 Posted: Dec 06, 2003 07:51 AM

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I know! It's just SOOOOOOOO exciting and you have been planning for so long it almost feels unreal to be this close - Finally!!!

(at least I felt this way)

Jen_n_Dale Posted: Dec 06, 2003 08:30 AM

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Sneak in cat naps whenever you can..... Take a you do, and do what YOU want!!! Did I hear someone say... SPA?????

RedHead Posted: Dec 06, 2003 08:45 AM

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Try other things first. I have problems sleeping all the time! And have used sleeping pills. It will work for a while but if you continue to use them you will just end up building a tolerance. Plus if you take them the night before you could be VERY SLUGGISH. You don't want that either.

Your problem is that you are thinking to much. When you go to bed you have to try to stop worrying!

Things to try (some may sound corny but try it anyway):

1. listen to soft soothing music. (ex. for me that was chicago's greates hits) But i also got new age music too..Enya, yoga music.

2. stop looking at the clock and realizing you are not asleep yet.

3. Try counting slowly. YES THIS CAN WORK... trust me, try it. I never get past 20-30.

4. try deep breathing. Slow deep breaths in through the nose and slow exhales through your mouth.

Try these first before you go to sleeping pills. Like i said i know they may sound corney but i have had sleep problems for a while and did the pill thing and nothing works the best then the things i have said above. For me that is

kathleenmarie Posted: Dec 06, 2003 08:50 AM

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exercise in the morning to help you sleep at night....this works because it helps you get all that stress out, make sure you give yourself and hour of YOU time to have a cup of relazing camomile or sleepy time tea or a glass of warm milk a few hours before bed. Breathe deep sweetie you'll be fine!

aliciahelene Posted: Dec 06, 2003 09:04 AM

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I excercise every day, but unfortunately doesnt help my sleeping habits, the tea sounds like it could work, so would the spa and listening to soothing music too( and No it doesnt sound corny )..they are all great ideas, thanks. I knew I would freak out, but i didnt know it would be this bad. I still have a month and I know this is only going to get worse..I am making myself crazy!!!

shelly3950 Posted: Dec 06, 2003 09:19 AM

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Things are going to be great- and you are going to look beautiful!! You have every right to be excited!

I am a big fan of taking baths. They always are relaxing and make me sleepy. Spray some lavander or jasmine on your bath or under your pillow. Listen to soft music and make sure you have 1 hour of relaxing time before you go to bed.

Things are going to be great!! You have nothing to worry about!

Maribelle7777 Posted: Dec 06, 2003 10:28 AM

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Alicia,

Everything is going to be OK!!

Can someone help you plan your sister's baby shower? I think you may want to 'hand over the reins' for the baby shower planning to someone else for the moment - you have alot on your plate right now! Ask your FH to confirm everything when it's time to do that. Ask your MOH or other bridesmaids or good friends to do things you don't HAVE to do (IE: you have to pick up your own dress but you don't have to go with the girls to get theirs).

School you just have to deal with. You'll do fine! I think you're like me - start thinking of all the 'what if's'? Please don't - that will make you crazy with worry. Just take it one day at a time. Don't cram or pull all nighters - those don't really help. Getting your sleep and thinking clearly is better.

As for sleep - I would try other things before sleeping pills. A warm bath? Even for 10 or 15 minutes, it can relax you.
No coffee after 3pm. Try to cut down on carbs and sugary stuff after 5pm too. Even fruit or fruit juices.

Please dont' worry - that is not going to do you any help. Delegate work to people and concentrate on the things you absolutely have to do yourself (school, dress, seating arrangements - someone else can write out the place cards after you figure out the seating arrangements)

Just remember others have done it and survived, - so can you! xoxoxox

Mary

aliciahelene Posted: Dec 06, 2003 01:03 PM

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mary..you are absloutley right, people have offered to help me, I just havent taken them up on it..I may start asking for help. Im overwhelmed. School is just about done, my mom and I are having the shower, and she is outof state, so there is only me to do the running around, it just happens that her shower is five days before my wedding, we had to plan it like that so that out of state family could come for both the shower and the wedding..but its hectic..once school is out, Im sure I will breathe easier. I just panic THINKING of my wedidng day, Im afraid Ill get a zit, my makeup wont look right, hair will be crazy, Im just a panicky baby these days, I need to get over it. Im thinking about tryin a masseuse, maybe that would help relax me!!

palebride Posted: Dec 06, 2003 01:11 PM

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Relax......just try to thnk, will worrying really help me?
I know it sounds silly, but put things into perspecitve....if you stay uup all night worrying about your wedding, is it going to change anything? probably not.
Maybe you can write in a journal, or read a book before bed.
I've been having trouble sleeping lately due to worrying about where tom and i are oging to live once we're married, so i can completely understand.....if you want, i'll give oyu my phoen number and we can talk while we're both staying up later worrying!

Smolokoff Posted: Dec 06, 2003 08:27 PM

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First of all, you are beautiful, and will still be a beautiful bride, even with bags under your eyes. And that's what makeup is for anyway. LOL.

Second, you've taken care of everything. There isn't much left to do. Just try to enjoy this time. Don't think about the wedding too much, and you will see how easily it happens.

At least I hope that's how it will be for me. LOL.

TESS Posted: Dec 07, 2003 03:42 PM

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I understand what you are going through. School is such a huge stress but it is over in a week. After school you really need to definitly do the Spa thing. You some relaxation time. As for sleeping I have this tea it is called Vanilla Chai by Lipton. I heat up milk and mix it with the Chai.....within a hour I am passed out. You should try it , it works for me and my mom. Good luck and breathe!

smilingbride Posted: Dec 07, 2003 03:52 PM

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I know...our wedding is still almost a year away and sometimes I get so anxious just thinking about it!! I told fh I will seriously need meds to get me through the week before and the actual day!! ha,ha I would say just make your confirming calls and re-check every last detail...if everything is done, just relax and what happens, happens!

ps maybe just a gentle sleeping pill (tylenol pm) if you cant sleep??

Jess2 Posted: Dec 07, 2003 06:24 PM

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Hi Alicia!

Everything will be fine. My mom told me something that I'm am trying to go by - worrying won't do anything except make you crazy. So, you can't worry!! Things will be as they are, and no matter what everything will be beautiful!

If you ever need help with anything or just want to hang out let me know!

HearzBellz Posted: Dec 07, 2003 08:10 PM

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Alicia honey........don't loose it now...you've been soooooooo good!

OK, for the sleeping. Take a 1/2 dose of nyquil liquid. It will help you sleep, but will not make you groggy the next day.

For the eye bags. Jacqueline willl cover them, don't worry. If you are still freaking, try preparation H under your eyes - I am not even kidding, it works amazingly well. Also soak cotton balls in milk & put them in the fridge for 15 minutes, then on your eyes.

PLEASE STOP FREAKING.....YOU ARE MY PILLAR!!!!!!!!

aliciahelene Posted: Dec 08, 2003 09:08 AM

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Thanks so much you guys!!!! Smolokoff, thank you so much for the nice compliment!!!
Tess, I am going to buy that tea, Jess/..;lets hang out!!!! and hearzbellz...how are you not freaking out, we have 31 days left!!!
My RSVP date is wednesday and we are still missing quite a few responses. I crammed and worked this weekend and got all of my school work done, now all Ihave to do is turn it in. YEA!!!! So thats a big relief, My friend is taking me for a spa day, and Im amazed that FH and I arent fighting!!! YAHOOOOOOOOOOOO
I am living proof that stressed out brides can call of their engagement and still be ok!!!!hehehee

LImom Posted: Dec 08, 2003 09:25 AM

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I am so very happy to hear you got the school work under control. You sound so much better in this post.
I hope everything else is working out for you -your sister's shower, your mom, etc. Now that you may have the time, let me know if you try the Greek potatoes.

I think some time at a Spa or just going out with a friend will work wonders. You're in my thoughts. And I agree, you are a beautiful girl - inside and out! You will make a gorgeous bride.
Mary

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