I am starting to worry

We started out with a smaller wedding-175 on our list, then it went up to 220, then down to 190, and now up to 230!!!!!!!!

Now, here is the delimma-We are getting married at The Old Field Club which holds a max of 220 people. Fine right? Wrong.

I have talked to three brides who have gotten married there and they all agreed that comfortably 150 people could fit, anymore than that, we are entering the uncomfortable range.

I know we are not going to get 230 yes', but we already have everyone telling us they are coming. A lot of the list is family, and very close friends. I am so afraid that we won't be able to fit.

So the question is-What do I do????? Do we choose a new bigger place? This has REALLY been bothering me, and I have a feeling that I am going to be worrying about this everyday until the wedding.

I just don't want anyone being uncomfortable.

If you don't want to change the venue, maybe you could invite the single family members without guests? I know some people don't like to do this, but if space is an issue, then may be consider it.

Also, definitely do an A & B list. As you get NOs, send out an invite to the next person on the B list.

Good luck!

DO NOT Change RH! I never heard of this place but just saw pics and it is BEAUTIFUL. Also DO NOT limit guests. If the room holds 220 then it WILL hold 220. I dont care what anyone says. Plus no matter what there is always a bunch of people who CANNOT make it. Then, not everyone dances, some sit, some dance, some are in the bathroom, and it looks like there is an outside area-so people will wonder. then people come late and then people leave early. Even if you DO have Every single person invited come- which wont happen!- they definitely wont all be in the same spot at the same time. as long as the hall provides 220 chairs then they will have a spot! DONT WORRY. If you can limit 10 then do so but honestly, DONT if you are really inviting CLOSE FAMILY and FRIENDS then do not LIMIT anyone.

Good luck ! hth

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Posted by Jennie0898

I agree if you really like the place, maybe you need to consider cutting down the list. But for the record, I do agree that the OFC can really only hold about 150-170 TOPS comfortably.

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I was surprised that the BM told me they could hold over 200, I thought 160 or so was just about right. definitely consider an a and b list, or single guests.

I am not sure of the place - i honestly wanted to look at it for our wedding but fh was against having it there because it was so far away for our family members.

In this situation what I would do - and this is if i could even afford 200+ people to my wedding IoI is limit my list. If you change where your getting married and have booked your going to lose your depo and maybe more depending on your date ( i didn't view it before writing my opinion). I would honstly figured out who is really important to be at your wedding just because they are family doesn't mean you have to invite them.

I really don't undrestand from comming on this board why people need to invite the everyone to their weddings. My family has skipped inviting me to wedding and/or christenings (exception for church) because of them reaching their limit. If both of your parents have a list of people who they want to invite that is where i would cut from first. Its not their wedding (unless they are paying for it) so stop saying yes to everything.

Cut the fat out of the list and if anything ever gets said tell them your hall only held a certain amount of people and unfortunately you had a set list that you had and couldn't extend the invite to everyone.

NEVER NEVER go with the max with anyplace. I don't care who says what - maybe they have never been a guest at a wedding where the room was maxed out and your freaking sitting with a chair right up against your chair and can't even get up to go to teh bathroom because there is no room to walk or even have fresh air. I hate over crowded weddings I went to one at the swan club and i actually left early because i couldn't stand being up against a window with the cold glass touching my back the entire night.

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Posted by snydl40

Thank you-It has just been killing me because everyone in our families is like-can't wait for the wedding! I feel like we can't cut family, and have only about 20 friends coming between the two of us.

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I'm having the same problem. My guestlist is about as slim as I can make it and I may still be over my max. I only invited close family and a few friends. Anyone that isn't engaged or married is being invited without a guest (I hate doing that but I don't think I have a choice). And I didn't allow my parents to invite any of their friends. I think that what I'm going to have to do now is cut out the kids and hope alot of people can't make it.

Is there anyway you can go back to your original guest list?

I am in the same boat....ive been praying for NO's and we also told family members they can't being little kids...which eliminates kids AND also either a mom or dad bc someone needs to watch the kids!

haha...its SO HARD i am stressing out like crazy...but it will all work out, there are always last minute nos....the place will accomodate you...dont worry!!!

If you need to freak out, you can talk to me!! im in the same boat as you!!!