I am sure this has been asked before...

But whats the best way to ask un-attached guests to not bring dates?

should I just honestly say we are strapped for seats???

Also - will they have fun? Who will they dance with???

Ahhh yes, this is a generally sticky subject on these boards.

I simply did not put 'And guest' on the envelope, and spoke to people who I cared about personally. I told them that I could only invite so many people, and that I was sorry. Many of these people were just happy to be invited.

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Posted by lipglossjunky73

But whats the best way to ask un-attached guests to not bring dates?

should I just honestly say we are strapped for seats???

Also - will they have fun? Who will they dance with???

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I am inviting everyone with a date, knowing some people will come alone. I do not think anyone would just 'find' someone to bring if they are 'unattached'. IMHO, I do not think it is right to invite someone and say they cannot bring a guest but that is just me.

I think not writing 'and guest' is the best way to go about this. I think ChristineAEV also noted that on the response card she added a line saying 'x number of seats have been reserved in your honor'

That seems to make sense too ....good luck

I just told a coworker - and she completely understands! She is not engaged yet, but knows it's coming down the pike, and is actually relieved I am doing this, because she will have to do it with us at work as well...

It made me feel a little better...

and I can't invite people with guests because our setaing is limited, and parents are paying for the wedding, and want to invite their people too... have to make some compromises here...

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I am inviting everyone with a date, knowing some people will come alone. I do not think anyone would just 'find' someone to bring if they are 'unattached'. IMHO, I do not think it is right to invite someone and say they cannot bring a guest but that is just me.

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FH feels the same way you do about the 'and guest' part. We have had major disagreements over this in the past few days. However, I have to disagree with the part about people not 'finding' someone just to bring to the wedding. (of course you know your guests best, I just mean I disagree with the comment as a blanket statement about everyone) My cousin hired an escort to accompany him to my sister's wedding. No matter what FH says, I am NOT inviting him with a guest (and I don't care that my aunt is fuming mad over this either!)

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FH feels the same way you do about the 'and guest' part. We have had major disagreements over this in the past few days. However, I have to disagree with the part about people not 'finding' someone just to bring to the wedding. (of course you know your guests best, I just mean I disagree with the comment as a blanket statement about everyone) My cousin hired an escort to accompany him to my sister's wedding. No matter what FH says, I am NOT inviting him with a guest (and I don't care that my aunt is fuming mad over this either!)

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People do not like to go to weddings alone - especially when they may not know everyone there - plus, it's pathetic to dance alone... unless you are doing the dance in groups thing...

But what can I do?

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Posted by SomethingBlu

You don't invite them with a guest. Period.

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Yup...and then if you have room as the RSVPS come in then you can let them bring someone (if you so desire)