I am very upset right now.

Irishbride Posted: Aug 25, 2004 01:53 PM

I am very upset right now.

I am going through a really hard time with my DH right now. I dont know if its an adj thing I am going through or what. But I am starting to wonder if I should have married him. He is 'stressed' out all the time. I am just sick of him. I know I am not giving to many details but I have had it! I have a sick feeling in the pit of my stomach right now.

lorsin Posted: Aug 25, 2004 01:55 PM

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Maybe it is just an adjustment that both of you are going through and he doesn't know how to deal either.

Have you talked to him about it?

MRSJLK Posted: Aug 25, 2004 01:58 PM

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goingtobemrs Posted: Aug 25, 2004 01:59 PM

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Have you guys spoken yet about the problem? Was this problem there before the wedding?

danigirl0 Posted: Aug 25, 2004 01:59 PM

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prncssrachel Posted: Aug 25, 2004 01:59 PM

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Try taking a step back from the situation and relax. I'm SURE it's an adjustment thing. Has anything changed since you got married?

ambersmom Posted: Aug 25, 2004 02:00 PM

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I would definitely say it's an adjustment period. No matter how much time you were together prior to the actual marriage (or even if you lived together), the dyamics of the relationship change once you say 'I do'. I don't know if your problems are financial, communication, etc. but please hang in there. Tough times don't last for long. Try to plan something for the two of you where you can refocus on the great things in your relationship that brought you together and what made you want to marry this man.

Good luck!

FeliciaDA Posted: Aug 25, 2004 02:00 PM

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I am so sorry you are going thru a rough time right now

I truly hope it is just an adjustment period, and that you can work thru it.. have you thought about talking to a counselor, even by yourself? It might help you get a better perspective on things.

DH and I had a terrible adjustment period when we first moved in together.. it was really tough and I was questioning everything.. but it did pass as long as we kept the lines of communication open

Hoefully this is just a temporary sitaution for you .. many hugs and prayers to you

shelly3950 Posted: Aug 25, 2004 02:02 PM

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I don't know what to say. Communication is always important. I think there are few things in this world that good communication cannot fix. No matter what, we are here for you

btrflygrl Posted: Aug 25, 2004 02:03 PM

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We ALL go through it....what about talking to a professional?? Does DH know you feel this way?

goingtobemrs Posted: Aug 25, 2004 02:03 PM

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Whatever it is just make sure you guys talk about it. The worst thing to do is to keep it inside. Then you will explode and make matters worse. He may not know his behavior is upsetting you right now.

Irishbride Posted: Aug 25, 2004 02:05 PM

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he says that I am over reacting that everthing is fine. He says he would tell me if he was having any kind of thoughts re our marriage. He was like this b/4 we where married. I think that maybe I am the one freaking out over being married. I am the one thats having adj pains.

Thanks for letting me vent.

goingtobemrs Posted: Aug 25, 2004 02:10 PM

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Are you worried about him not being honest with you about how he feels about being married to you?

Irishbride Posted: Aug 25, 2004 02:12 PM

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I think he would tell me. I tired to talk to him about this last night but he says that we are fine. He is a great guy and I love him but sometimes I want to strangle him. This is one of these times.

AndreaLMT Posted: Aug 25, 2004 02:16 PM

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I'm so sorry!!!.

goingtobemrs Posted: Aug 25, 2004 02:17 PM

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I'm sorry. That happens! Did he do something inparticular to make you want to strangle him? There will be good and bad times, its in your wedding vows!

Maribelle7777 Posted: Aug 25, 2004 02:21 PM

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I would defintely talk to him about it - no matter who is stressed out it's something both of you should talk about. Sometimes just talking about it relieves some of the stress because it's 'out there' in the open and not bottled up.

Take one day at a time.

JimmysBride Posted: Aug 25, 2004 02:23 PM

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Sorry you are going through a rough time. Sounds like maybe an adjustment period!! Hang in there and I hope everything works out!

swags1016 Posted: Aug 25, 2004 03:03 PM

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Posted by ambersmom

I would definitely say it's an adjustment period. No matter how much time you were together prior to the actual marriage (or even if you lived together), the dyamics of the relationship change once you say 'I do'. I don't know if your problems are financial, communication, etc. but please hang in there. Tough times don't last for long. Try to plan something for the two of you where you can refocus on the great things in your relationship that brought you together and what made you want to marry this man.

Good luck!

Absolutely the first year of marriage is rough for many people!!!

Come here and vent when you need to !! We are all here for you and know that you are not alone in feeling like that. There have been many times where I wanted to stick my shoe somewhere on Frankie . But when the stress breaks and eventually it will you will remember why you love him!!!

Try to take some time away, have a YOU day, do what YOU want, get a mani and pedi, a massage whatever YOU want!!