i took bella's advice there has to be more than my chair covers, so i called, she's like i dont want to talk, i said i think its important we do, you really hurt me. she said that she doesnt feel good enough to be in my life WHAT, THATS CRAZY i told her i loved her for the person she is/ was not for what she has or doesnt she said she doesnt feel as though she fits in, i'm so sad she feels this way, i ask if i said or did something she said no and that she cant afford the dress for the wedding, well i told her i'm stopping by her house after work we really need to have a heart to heart, should i offer to help pay for it? or just tell her i'd be honored to have her there, regardless. gee this all just breaks my heart.
Espo22
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well you also should tell her that from now on she really needs to talk to you if anything is bothering her or there is a problem with something, she can't hold it in until she'll just blow up like that and hurt your feelings.
If you want then you can offer to pay for it, or pay for half of it, or try to come up with an alternative
JeanetteandSteve
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wow thats tough. it's hard to give advice w/o knowing what it's really all about.
i hope you can get it out of her, and however you decide to handle it i'm sure will be fine. go w your first instinct, that's usually the right one.
good luck!!
missK
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i hope when you talk to her that she gets whats bothering her all out on the table. Good friends will always work it out. Im sorry that she made you feel bad today.
Snowflake08
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youre a better person than me
bemyyoko
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youre a better person than me
i was just thinking the same thing.
Snowflake08
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youre a better person than me
i was just thinking the same thing.
you were thinking that she's a better person than me??
LOL
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she needs to be honest with you. i usually feel bad when one of my girls can't tell me what they feel about anything that pertains the wedding.
if you really would like to pay for it then you can definitely offer but you need to make it clear that you are doing this extra step for her. also make sure that this is the only thing that is bothering her.
ItalianBride428
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wow, I am sorry to hear about all of this. I think that if you guys can work things out and you really value her friendship ( and she values yours) then do what you feel best. We are all in different stages of our lives and some people who really might want to be there for us just simple cant for personal reasons. YOu should def let her know that she needs to communicate better with you...
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Posted by Snowflake08
Posted by bemyyoko
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youre a better person than me
i was just thinking the same thing.
you were thinking that she's a better person than me??
LOL
YUP! haha no i was thinking that she's a better person than ME.
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If you feel that your friendship is still worth mending then you definitely need to talk to her face to face. If after you guys talk and you still want her in your BP, I think it's very nice that you want to help her pay for the dress.
Junebride62108
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let us know what happens... You did the right thing. If this would have happened to me, I t would have borthered me and made me sad. Theres def more to the story than chair covers and hopefully you guys are working it out. I hate fighting
bella1028
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I am happy to hear my advice was somewhat helpful...Please let me know what happens...
luna bride x
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youre a better person than me
i agree, i don't think i would've been able to call and talk it out..
Cntthinkofone
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youre a better person than me
i was just thinking the same thing.
Yeh I agree. What she did was childish and mean. If she felt that way she should have been honest. If she can't pay for it I wouldn't offer to help what if she acts up again then you lose your money and like you need the extra expense.
