I CANCELLED MY WEDDING RECEPTION!...Long
After much thought and consideration, my FH and I have decided to cancel our wedding reception and do something smaller. It was a very difficult decision, but we are relieved and much happier now! So many of you here have helped me in my planning so far, and I felt that I wanted to share this happy news with you!
My FH and I have always wanted to do something small and informal. The problem is that we thought that since all of our friends had big receptions, we should too. It is very hard to steer away from the norm and do something different, especially when families get involved. Our families weren't in a position to help us out financially, and we were left to pay for our wedding 100% on our own, which is fine. The major issue is that between us, we own over $100,000 in student loans! We were excited with the planning at first, but then we both started to not feel right about it. We knew deep in our hearts that it wasn't the right thing to do...for us. Along with Flowerfield, came a DJ or Band, favors, flowers, transportation, gifts for the bridal party, etc. It just all adds up, as you all know. We just don't want to start our new life together so in debt!
We had our reception planned at Flowerfield. We both fell in love w/FF the moment we stepped into the place!![]()
I still think that it is one of the most beautiful places on LI to hold a reception. The staff at Flowerfield has been so understanding and has been absolutely amazing to us. If you are a Lovin Oven bride, you have nothing to worry about...they truly are a class act!
We have decided to still get married in my church. However, with no bridal party, only a best man and matron of honor (we orginally had 8 BM & 6 GM). We will then hold a small, intimate dinner party afterwards for our immediate family and closest friends.
This decision is not for everyone. I applaud everyone for having their own ideas of what type of wedding is right for them. I will still visit the board, as I am still a bride!!!![]()
Happy planning!
Jessica
My FH and I have always wanted to do something small and informal. The problem is that we thought that since all of our friends had big receptions, we should too. It is very hard to steer away from the norm and do something different, especially when families get involved. Our families weren't in a position to help us out financially, and we were left to pay for our wedding 100% on our own, which is fine. The major issue is that between us, we own over $100,000 in student loans! We were excited with the planning at first, but then we both started to not feel right about it. We knew deep in our hearts that it wasn't the right thing to do...for us. Along with Flowerfield, came a DJ or Band, favors, flowers, transportation, gifts for the bridal party, etc. It just all adds up, as you all know. We just don't want to start our new life together so in debt!
We had our reception planned at Flowerfield. We both fell in love w/FF the moment we stepped into the place!
We have decided to still get married in my church. However, with no bridal party, only a best man and matron of honor (we orginally had 8 BM & 6 GM). We will then hold a small, intimate dinner party afterwards for our immediate family and closest friends.
This decision is not for everyone. I applaud everyone for having their own ideas of what type of wedding is right for them. I will still visit the board, as I am still a bride!!!
Happy planning!
Jessica
