i cannot type through my tears...

I need help..I can hardly type through my tears. My moms fiance passed away this morning from a number of ailments that he has had for years. He has suffered quite a bit over time and this morning gave up the fight. I am besides myself..this man has been a part our lives for 12 years and I dont know how we are going to go on without him.

Right now I am trying to realize the fact that he is out of pain and in a better place but the hurt that we are all feeling right now is beyond words. He was a wonderful man who didnt deserve to suffer...to make things worse, he died alone in his home, collapsed in the bathroom and was found as a DOA.

I dont know how to help my mom..she is screaming, crying, pacing, fainting, and no words help even to lessen the pain. Please, if you have any words of advice..anything..please contribute them. My mom is blaming herself now because over the past couple of months she hasnt really been with him that much...I think because he was trying to shield her from all the pain...last night was the first time she saw him in a while and then this morning he died...imo..i think that was the peace he was waiting for...but it just doesnt bring us any peace at all.

Why does this have to happen?!?!

I am so sorry for your loss!

I will have you all in my prayers.

Noreen, I am so sorry. Be sure to be with your mom as much as possible at this overwhelming time of her life.
You know where I am....

I don't know what to say.

I think all you can do for your mom right now is hug her and listen, and we will do the same for you.

I can't explain why these things happen and I know you're going to hear this a lot, but time heals everything. When my grandmother, with whom I was very close with, passed away, I was asking the same questions you're asking. And I never thought I was going to get through it. I blamed myself and said that I didn't do enough to help her and that I wasn't there enough for her. Eventually I learned that death is just an unfortunate and hurtful part of life that we all have to go through. It's not your mother's fault. She should cherish that she got to see him right before he passed, not everyone is as lucky.

Try to keep your head up. We're here for you.

Noreen: I'm so sorry. Just be there for your mom. There's really not much that you can say or do to make it easier for her. It will take time. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers

With grief everyone deal with it in their own way. In time all pain will pass. May not be today, may not be tomorrow. I hope you and your mom and your family and his family can know he is in a better place. He wanted to be in a better place he was tired and wanted to rest. I will keep you all in my prayers.

My condolences to you and your family. Try to be strong for your mother as she is obviously facing a very difficult time, as are you.

Thankfully she did get to see him one last time. I've often heard that people who are on their deathbed will 'wait' so they can say goodbye. Your mom will always have those last moments.

Take care of yourself. We're all here for you.

I am so sorry. Hang in there, and give your mom the support she needs.

I am sorry. This is so sad.

As the other ladies said it is very important for you and your mom to be there for each other.

I so wish that I could say something that would take away the pain and the hurt that you and your family are feeling right now. I am so sympathetic to your situation -- I know how much it hurts to lose someone. There are so many feelings running inside you right now. I just want you to know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. I hope the days ahead somehow become easier. I'm so very sorry.

I am so sorry for your loss. I am sure that your mom and your family was as special to him as he were to you all, and made his life a happy one.
He is in a better place, away from all the suffering, and got to spend his last night with the woman that he loved.
He died a happy man.

My thoughts and prayers are with you. You will get through.

I am so very sorry to hear about the loss to your family. All you can do is be there for your Mom.

I AM SOOOOOO SORRY!!!



My thoughts & prayers are with you & your family!!

HUGS I just don't know what to say except that if your mother's FH was in any pain, it is gone now. He will always live lovingly in your hearts and memories. Think of him often and he will live on. Just be there for your mom. It will take her a while to accept, but she will need osmeone stong to help her along. All my best.

Noreen-I am so sorry for your loss. Just be with your Mom. Listen to whatever she has to say. Lots of love!!! It does sound like he did wait to see her before he decided to give in. I am sure that he is in a better place & no longer in pain. I know it doesn't help to think that. But, for his sake it's for the best.

My thoughts & prayers are w/ your family

Noreen - you have our deepest sympathies. So sorry for your loss right now.

Your in our hearts and thoughts tonight.

Denise and Jerry

So sorry for your loss.

KarenM