I can't stand FI's mom...edited...make that his sisters too

hugs213 Posted: Mar 12, 2004 06:04 PM

I can't stand FI's mom...edited...make that his sisters too

She has never called to see if I need anything..if I'm okay...just to say hi. Meanwhile Fi's stepmom is so sweet. She constantly calls my mom and sees if she's okay...if she needs any help with anything to let her know. His family is so f#$@ed up. I'm throwing him a surprise party tonight and no one (except his stepmom) has called to say if they're coming or if I need anything. His mother has not even gotten him a birthday card in three years. I really feel bad for him. He deserves a loving family.
(Had the party last night and one of his sisters completely ignores me every time she sees me..she does not look at you or say hello when you enter a room. His sister last night comes into MY house and totally walks past me and my parents without saying hello. His mother and sisters didn't move their *** at all last night to mingle with my family or to help with anything. His own mother didn't even sing happy birthday when we brought out the cake. I was watching her and she just stared while everyone esle sang. I can't believe they can be so cold)

butterfly20 Posted: Mar 12, 2004 06:16 PM

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thats sweet of you to throw a party... its her loss if she doesnt want to be nice to her sons sweet fiance

RedHead Posted: Mar 12, 2004 06:37 PM

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kathleenmarie Posted: Mar 12, 2004 06:38 PM

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He has a loving family........he has you!

LovelyL Posted: Mar 12, 2004 06:43 PM

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Sorry you have to deal with this crap.
At least your FH has you to treat him special!
Hope the surprise party is a blast!!!!

nov2004bride Posted: Mar 12, 2004 06:59 PM

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Posted by kathleenmarie

He has a loving family........he has you!

ditto

hugs213 Posted: Mar 13, 2004 09:05 AM

Re: I can't stand FI's mom...edited...make that his sisters too

(Had the party last night and one of his sisters completely ignores me every time she sees me..she does not look at you or say hello when you enter a room. His sister last night comes into MY house and totally walks past me and my parents without saying hello. His mother and sisters didn't move their *** at all last night to mingle with my family or to help with anything. His own mother didn't even sing happy birthday when we brought out the cake. I was watching her and she just stared while everyone esle sang. I can't believe they can be so cold)

regi Posted: Mar 13, 2004 09:13 AM

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Maybe you could try talking to his sister. Find out what the real problem is. It would make you feel a lot better,

T hank goodness my fh is an only child. His mother used to yell at me for really dumb things. Then one day, I yelled right back at her and told her to 'shut Up'. Well she did and keeps her mouth shut now. Goo d Luck.

WeDidIt! Posted: Mar 13, 2004 09:50 AM

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Posted by butterfly20

thats sweet of you to throw a party... its her loss if she doesnt want to be nice to her sons sweet fiance

Ditto

lilqtny Posted: Mar 13, 2004 09:52 AM

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well at least he has you, like the other girls have said, believe me I KNOW about inlaw famlies and how bad they can be! So just hang in there and be happy that somehow he learned to be loving.

MissMelissa Posted: Mar 13, 2004 10:46 AM

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RedHead Posted: Mar 13, 2004 11:00 AM

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I am in a somewhat similar situation...My FMIL and FBIL and his wife are non-existant. FBIL and wife didn't even show up to the engagement party!
But in the end i don't let it bother me, not for one second! THe only thing that my FMIL asks about is her guest list and adding more and more people we don't know or want! She is a creative woman and i thought i would hint that i needed some help making baskets for the programs and the BM's...NOTHING...she just told me i would do fine!

So whatever..

anaissa Posted: Mar 13, 2004 11:41 AM

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Does any of this bother your FH?

Maribelle7777 Posted: Mar 13, 2004 12:02 PM

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I would say something to the sister that came into YOUR house and didn't have the nerve to at least say hello or thanks for inviting me.

That is the lowest in my book. It's not just rude but it's like 'I'm so much better than you'.

Well maybe you shouldn't say anything - if it were me I would but I don't know your situation.

I hope the party was fun none the less and that FH doesn't get too upset at his stupid mother and sisters. The step mom sounds way nicer.

hugs213 Posted: Mar 14, 2004 12:16 PM

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I said something to his brother yesterday...I just let everything out and he says that he'll talk FI's sister. His mom and his sisters were so mean to him during his birthday party. His father looks like he was about to cry. They treated my mom like crap. She opened the door for them and they just came in without saying hi to her. They made her feel like a maid. MY mom said that his mother and sisters aare not welcome in her home anymore.

janet Posted: Mar 14, 2004 12:27 PM

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his mom and dad gave me a run for the money also when we were dating even tried to say i was poisoning him... now if i stuck throught that you will be able to handle this... try being a little over happy around them.. show extra attention to him(did this for 3 years) and now it's wedding time and i was nervouse about his father not showing up(did not go to his first wedding) and beleive it or not he did and danced a dirtydance kinda say with me!! i could not beleive it!!! so i know it's hard now but if you show them a little more and that they don't scare you and stick your ground they will hopefully come around like his family did! the funny part is i still have yet to asked into there home yet.. when ever he would go there i would sit in the car but my daughter was allowed in.. fiqure that one out..just keep in your mind you are marring him not his family and that will help you get through the tough times! i am hear if you need to talk!