I can't take it!
Some of you know the story about why we really don't talk to FMIL. There's been a lot of back and forth b/w me and her, but the real straw that broke the camels' back came last april. In february my dad just packed up and left the family with no warning, nothing. we were devastated. One night FH was on the phone with his parents and they were talking about the car we were about to buy and I was giving FH the details while he spoke on the phone with his parents. They don't like me 'talking in the background' his mother started yelling, and saying FH is 'henpecked' etc so maybe I rpoved her likttle point but AI got so pissed I picked up the phone and yelled at her and hung it up...then she called back and went into a 30 minute tirade about how bad I am to FH I mean really saying the most filthy hateful things, and she ended it all with 'and she gets it all from her mother who is the same way, and that's why her dad abandoned them' I almost died. She was yelling so loud my mom actually heard it. It was so horrible. I am so hurt. HATE her...but now FH's family kee[s saying nothing is unforgivable and I have to realize it's water nder the bridge. meanwhile there has been no apology to me or my mom and when FH does speak to his mom she still badmouths me. No one can understand how much she hurt me and how much I have no desire to even look at her face. Even at his cousin's weddng,all of these family members (who do NOT know the whole story) were hounding us. This woman has badmouthed me to the entire family, neighbors, anyone..Do I have to forgive? How can I? Does anyone understand why I am so hurt and angry and I can't just callit 'water under the bridge'?
