I have vented about this before but I just cant take it anymore. I am so tired of my parents saying to me ' I dont know why you are having another wedding, you were married before' This is happeneing at least once a week. Why cant they understand that I am happy now and want to share this with my family and friends. I understand that they are old school but why cant they just go with it. Another thing, next week I will be engaged a year and I never even got an engagement card. I know they love FH. I am at my breaking point. I CANT TAKE IT ANYMORE!!!! (sorry for yelling)
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Nichole2010
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who cares if you were married before?!?!
this is 2009...2 marriages and 2 weddings are acceptable...
if its making you and FH happy, thats all that matters
sophisticat13
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Celia...sorry you have to keep defending yourself to your parents like this!
CloudNine
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IGNORE THEM!! let them make their comments but just blow it off...you are finally happy and you DESERVE this wedding. dont let them knock you down!
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I'm sorry to hear that you are going through that - I kinda know how you feel. I was previously engaged to someone else three years ago. My FH and I just got engaged like a week ago, and last night, my parents just explained to us that they dont think an engagement party is appropriate considering I already had one with my ex. They also went on to explain that they dont think I should have a shower since FH and I already own a home and have everything we need. I understand the logical point of where they are coming from - they are embarassed to ask people to give me gifts for yet, another engagement party. But still, I would like to celebrate with my family and friends in some form!!!!! And I really do want a shower - although I know it is not logical, since the point of a shower is to 'shower the bride with gifts for her knew house and life'. So basically - I feel your pain!
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Posted by happychelle
I'm sorry to hear that you are going through that - I kinda know how you feel. I was previously engaged to someone else three years ago. My FH and I just got engaged like a week ago, and last night, my parents just explained to us that they dont think an engagement party is appropriate considering I already had one with my ex. They also went on to explain that they dont think I should have a shower since FH and I already own a home and have everything we need. I understand the logical point of where they are coming from - they are embarassed to ask people to give me gifts for yet, another engagement party. But still, I would like to celebrate with my family and friends in some form!!!!! And I really do want a shower - although I know it is not logical, since the point of a shower is to 'shower the bride with gifts for her knew house and life'. So basically - I feel your pain!
I also have been told not to expect a shower. They dont seem to understand, I am not doing this for the gifts, I am doing it to share my happiness and for FH and my families to meet. (cousins aunts and uncles) The gifts are nice but its not why I am doing this. i try to ignore it, but it hurts considering they know what my previous marriage was like -I would think they would be happy for me.
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ITS YOUR DAY WHO CARES WHAT THEY THINK!!!
marinai7
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I'm sorry that they're not being supportive. Who cares if it's your 1st or 4th marriage, as long as ur happy, that's all that matters. Since it seems like talking to them won't help, just ignore their comments. I'm sure that's easier said than done. Good luck and sorry you have to be upset during an exciting time in your life.
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I am so sorry. Surround yourself with supportive people. You deserve to be happy.. no matter what!
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kat2010
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sorry to hear that do whatever makes you happy!!!!!!
MrsC2010
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i am so sorry they aren't being supportive...just ignore them. Or sit them down and tell them that you are happy and they need to get on board and stop with the comments. good luck
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We never got a card from FMIL or FFIL either, but I forgive him, since he seems to have seen the error of his ways... and is tons supportive now. FMIL seems to think our marriage is make-believe. Jealous old hag.
ANYway.... I am sorry your parents feel this way.. .they are happy for you. They just don't want you to be disappointed if other people don't want to give gifts, come to your second wedding, etc. YOU and FH DESERVE this wedding! Celebrate the begining of your happy marriage with a bang! Go All Out!
As a previous poster said, this is 2009 not 1919.
Future Mrs H
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Posted by JoanneAndJustin
ANYway.... I am sorry your parents feel this way.. .they are happy for you. They just don't want you to be disappointed if other people don't want to give gifts, come to your second wedding, etc. YOU and FH DESERVE this wedding! Celebrate the begining of your happy marriage with a bang! Go All Out!
As a previous poster said, this is 2009 not 1919.
I have told them this wedding is not about the money or gifts. Its just I want to celebrate with everyone. I need to just tune them out and enjoy my planning. Its just so hard
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StaceyWill
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My god, I don't know what I' d do if people said that to me...how disappointing...I'm so sorry you're going through this...I know it's your family and their opinion means a lot to you, but remember that there are a ton of US GIRLS that are incredibly happy for you and FH and know that you guys deserve this celebration and everything that comes with it.
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This is FH's second marriage and his parents WANT this lol. Even his kids are excited.
But I know some people are old school.FH's cousin got engaged and it will be her second. Her fiance WORSHIPS her. The parents hate it. They kept saying she shouldn't have another wedding. I feel so bad for her. Would they rather their daughter date and sleep around???
This is my first and at first my Mother was so snotty abotut it. Never got a card or gift. My FMIL just bought my veil My MOm nothing. IT'S MY FIRST AND I AM OVER 40! She should be THRILLEDDDD!!!
I don't get people....
Honestly, if you and your friends are happy, that's all that matters!
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Its2Snappy
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Try to tune them out and keep coming on LIW. We will be glad to share ideas and celebrate your wedding planning - whether it is a second wedding or not!
