I can't take it no more

First of all I don't even wanna have my sister as the maid of honor she is being nothing but a problem. I already let her pick out the dress that all the girls and her will be wearing and the color of the dress. Now she is saying that I can't tell her what color shoes to wear and that I can't tell her how to have her hair done. Am I wrong?? Or is she being the problem?

IMO It sounds like you are making a very reasonable request, plus you already let her pick out the dresses which many times the bride picks it out...

For my wedding, I did not pick out specific shoes, i just said open-toe dyeable and for hair I told them just to have it done in a formal style. However, I have been in several weddings where I was told the exact shoes I must get or this is the way you must have your hair styled. I didn't think twice about it. It comes with being a bridesmaid and I was more than happy to help make the bride happy and go along with her requests. It wasn't about me. Point being, she should smile and go along with what you want, unless you are making unreasonable requests. In my opinion, you are not.

You are giving your sister more freedom than anyone I have ever heard of, except in the case where the MOH was the only bridesmaid! Personally, I wouldn't let anyone besides myself have the final say on the color of the gowns. (I'm a control freak though!) You have every right to decide on the type and color of shoe, as well as hairstyle, if you so choose.

@ xjulietx. Seafoam green taffeta...with ruffles

When I picked my bridesmaids, one said to my mom, I hope she doesn't expect me to wear a strapless gown, with my whole front expose, because my collar bones stick out, and she better not pick out something backless or too sexy...etc. My mom and I knew there would be one that would be the difficult one....so my mom was prepared and said the following:

Right now she is having alot of problems with the wedding and is under alot of stress with work and planning the wedding, and I already told her that, if there is a bridesmaid who doesn't like the dress the other like, then she has a choice not to wear it. However, if that is her decison, she can step down from being the wedding party and come as a guest, and wear what ever she likes And that goes for all the bridesmaids, if it comes to it, she doesn't have to have a bridal party at all, just the Maid of Honor, the flower girl and the ringbearer. Well, she shut up changed the subject and has been the one out of all my bridesmaid to be helping with my shower the most!!

so... Maybe in conversation, you could say to your sister, I wanted you to be the one to stand next to me and share in the happiest day of my life as my MOH. I guess I didn't realize how stressful it was going to be for you, and the responsibilites that come with it. So, I completely understand if you rather want to step down from being my MOH, and I will ask someone else. I would rathter have you come as my guest on my wedding day. and know you will be looking forward to it and have a better time that day, than with all the added stress, and worries of having to share in the bridal party responsibilities that day.

What do you think?