Let me preface this story by saying FMIL and FH invited 30 more people to our wedding than my Mom and I (150 vs 120) -- and my MOM is paying for 90% of everything, with FH and I paying the other 9%! and FMIL paying about 1%.
FH has immediate family in Puerto Rico and St. Thomas (a grandmother and aunts and uncles). They are NOT coming to the wedding, however FMIL said they had to have invitations anyway.
Because they live so far away, and I knew they weren't coming anyway, I bought separate wedding invitations in Michaels that I was going to print myself to send them because I didn't think I was going to have enough of my EXPENSIVE Encore Invitations which my Mom paid for.
Anyway, it is now 6 weeks to my day and I still haven't printed / mailed the invitations to the people in Puerto Rico & St. Thomas. I work approximately 60-70 hours per week and just haven't found the time... FMIL asked me if I sent them and I said YES.
I don't know why I lied, but I did. Now she is 'furious' at me because she called the relatives and they said they never got them. She asked FH if I sent them & he said that he didn't think so & he didn't know why I lied about it. He is not involved in the wedding planning at ALL and actually lives 8 hours away.
I don't know what to say to FMIL.... We already don't have a great relationship. HELP.
cjb88
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this may have been bad but, i wouldnt have admited to lieing about sending them... i would have made a comment that maybe they got lost in the mail!!!
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this may have been bad but, i wouldnt have admited to lieing about sending them... i would have made a comment that maybe they got lost in the mail!!!
I just edited my post to add... FH told her I didn't send them!
He won't tell me 'exactly' what he said, but he did say she asked him if I sent them and he said 'I don't think so'...
JBKempf
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make a heartfelt apology and explain that you fell behind
SummerBride06
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can't you say you did mail the real invitations and then tell her you'll go to michaels and 'buy' extras which you'll mail right out tomorrow. just send out the ones you already bought.
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this may have been bad but, i wouldnt have admited to lieing about sending them... i would have made a comment that maybe they got lost in the mail!!!
I just edited my post to add... FH told her I didn't send them!
He won't tell me 'exactly' what he said, but he did say she asked him if I sent them and he said 'I don't think so'...
i would SOO kill him!!
eta: since the cat is out of the bag already, i would go with the heartfelt apology advice...
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Part of the reason why the invites didn't go out was because you didn't want to send the expensive invitations down to people who were not coming to the wedding - totally understandable.
Maybe at some point FH could talk to his mom about how expensive weddings are and how she cannot demand things when doesn't contribute?
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Ok so you lied...blah...I can understand her being upset-send them right away and tell her...very nicely, that you apologize...it was your bad and with paying vendors, getting the wedding organized, making sure everything is ready for the wedding, work and getting your head to stay on it just kind of slipped your mind.
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just slap FH for not sticking up for you.
BJandDan
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Say your sorry and just send them out. Otherwise you'll deal with it for the rest of your marriage! darn inlaws
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Posted by NYPDsGirl
Posted by cjb88
this may have been bad but, i wouldnt have admited to lieing about sending them... i would have made a comment that maybe they got lost in the mail!!!
I just edited my post to add... FH told her I didn't send them!
He won't tell me 'exactly' what he said, but he did say she asked him if I sent them and he said 'I don't think so'...
Well, just b/c he said 'he didn't think so' doesn't mean he was right!! If the cat truly is out of the bag, there is nothing you can do except get them out in the mail ASAP. If it's not truly out of the bag, I wouldn't confess, I would just say that you don't understand why they didn't get them, and offer to resend immediately.
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I would just apologize and tell her you lied cause you werent in the mood to deal with her stressing you for not having sent them yet when you planned on doing so when you had some time.. i wouldnt waste my time stressing over it too much...
beautyq115
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Why didn't he back you up
Sorry I hope it gets better
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Posted by SexyEsq
Well, just b/c he said 'he didn't think so' doesn't mean he was right!! If the cat truly is out of the bag, there is nothing you can do except get them out in the mail ASAP. If it's not truly out of the bag, I wouldn't confess, I would just say that you don't understand why they didn't get them, and offer to resend immediately.
TOTALLY agree with this. Your FH lives 8 hours away - how would he even know?!
Act surprised that they didn't get the invites and then 'resend' them.
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Ok so you lied...blah...I can understand her being upset-send them right away and tell her...very nicely, that you apologize...it was your bad and with paying vendors, getting the wedding organized, making sure everything is ready for the wedding, work and getting your head to stay on it just kind of slipped your mind.
Yeah, I'd do that. . .
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well you can't fix that you already lied.
I would print them up quickly mail them out and tell her that you thought you mailed them and you found them in your car and set them out right away. You really should apologize.
you shouldn't of lied in the first place but fix it quick!
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My opinion which counts for very little:
Put them in the mail ASAP and say they were put in the mail but you did it the other day so that is why they didn't get them yet. Then apologize for them not being there yet.
Again jmo.
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Get them out tommorrow, even if you have to call in sick to work. Just avoid the toppic with your FMIL, and let the ivites get there in the meantime.
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That is an icky situation. I wouldn't continue to lie because it doesn't seem that your very good at it. I stink at lieing. And if you lie about the day that you mailed them, it will be post marked for the actual day you wind up sending it. Just send them out as soon as you can and apologize. You don't want matters to get worse. Good luck.
