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I don't know what to think....

RFutureBegins2day Posted:

I don't know what to think....

I find out yesterday, don't ask how, that my mom and my aunt are putting together a bridal shower for me because my bridesmaids 'were not cooperating' with my MOH. I was told not to ask questions...but I am really upset and want to know who my true friends are and why things are ending up with my mom and aunt having to do it all. What would you ladies do if this happened to you? FH knows about it, but won't tell me details and niether will my MOH.
MrsSx2 Posted:

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Its probably better that you don't know..it can make the rest of your wedding process awkward.

i am currently helping my mom throw a bridal shower and a bew of the BM's dont want any involvement....I am tempted to tell my sis (the bride), but it will make thinfs weird every time we need to do wedding related things together.

Bride in 2012 Posted:

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I'm sorry that the girls didn't cooperate, but it's probably better that your mom is throwing your shower... she'll make sure everything is perfect and beautiful.

irisheyes23 Posted:

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It didn't happen to me with my shower but none of my BM's wanted to or did throw me a bachelorette party or take me to dinner.

fdnybride163 Posted:

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honestly i would be really annoyed and I would ask them!

thats part of the responsibilty of a bridesmaid and if they didnt want to do it they shouldnt have accepted.

I dont hold things back, I wouldnt fight and yell but i would def question why they didnt want to throw you a shower!
SSteph903 Posted:

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Maybe it is a money issue... My mother is paying for my shower and asking my BM's on small things. The last few showers I have been to were all done by the mother.

LoveyDovey Posted:

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you're better off not knowing

trust me, I had some drama with my girls as well and I ended up finding out...i wish I never know

just let it be! sometimes its better when just one or two people throw the shower...
you know the same too many hands spoil the broth

well its true! sometimes too many opinions and voices and people clash

I like the old school mentality of the mother throwing the shower, that's what Ive been used to. My mom and Aunt(who is a BM) are throwing it and if the girls want to help with little things they can.
SummerBride10 Posted:

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You're probably just better off not knowing. You have enough to focus on with your wedding. I know its hard, but just enjoy the planning and your shower.
Supermans Posted:

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Sometimes bridesmaids just don't understand whats expected of them, especially if they're not married/haven't been a bridesmaid before/even if they haven't been to many weddings.

I warned my MOH that I'd want help assembling invitations and favors, and she looked at me like I had 3 heads.

It's probably better not to know the details. On the bright side you obviously have a generous mother and aunt who love you very much and are so excited for your wedding!!
spdy540 Posted:

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I'm sorry you going through this it sucks. I would stress it right nowMy MOH were doing anything and some of my BM were fighting only one of my bridesmaid really step up now things are working out. I asked questions I'm happy some stepped up but I

FutureMrsDe Posted:

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Most of the time your mom throws the shower anyway so dont stress it.

lisam1113 Posted:

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Sorry your going thru with it.. sometimes its better not knowing I overheard my mom on the phone also talking about my shower. I tried drilling her for what was going on & nothing. I told her I don't have to have it be a surprise I'll help plan & pay for some! But from what I did hear FMIL & FSIL are trying to take 'the cheap route' & my mom doesn't want the cheapest & if she's 'paying all that money doesn't want a hole in the wall place' ..Love my mama!!

HeatherLynna Posted:

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I think I'm more old school because the mother of the brides have always thrown the shower, and my mother is throwing mine. I'm sure the girls will help with whatever they want or are asked for, but I'm not worried. Don't stress out.

CantWaitMrsH Posted:

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hey lady ... i know we chatted about this yesterday, but it always seems to be that no matter how hard one tries there is always some sort of drama. i guess its better to have not known, but now that you know there was some 'type' of drama i guess i would equally want to know what happened. perhaps it was your mom feeling/perceiving the girls werent doing anything for the shower. and perhaps that isnt the case.

chin up, your shower will be beautiful! i just know it! and im sure the drama will dissipate on july 4th!

love you!
jovigirl414 Posted:

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Hey C!

Listen, you are probably better off not knowing who is not cooperating at this moment ... it will only hurt. Time will tell, and you will find out who the true friends are later on. Right now, just focus on how amazing your wedding will be, and if you need to vent, you got me on FB, feel free to hit me up and we can share some stories!

SeptemberBride2012 Posted:

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Posted by Supermans

Sometimes bridesmaids just don't understand whats expected of them, especially if they're not married/haven't been a bridesmaid before/even if they haven't been to many weddings.

THIS ^^^^

And I think you are probably better off not knowing any of the specifics and just concentrate on enjoying your day.... If it still bothers you, ask after all things wedding related are completed.

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