I just made out the full guest list and added all the numbers.........origunally i wanted a small wedding but then FH and i decided to have a bigger wedding but i still didnt want more than like 130 people..........well the list is now up to about 190 and thats only if i dont invite my cousins with a guest. I was thinking that all of our family members and friends who are around our age or younger, would only be invited with a guest if they are in a serious relationship......is this ok....or am i wrong for even considering that?
Randilotus
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No that should be ok, if you have a few single people there you could possibly be a match maker
NC1011
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Your not wrong. Etiquette does say that people of a certain age should be invited with a guest but there is some room for movement here.
We decided that cousins and any other close friends and family who are single but NOT in a relationship will NOT be invited with a guest. We are going to be up front with them and let them know that if they had someone they really wanted to bring than that would be ok, but we are not paying for them to go out and FIND someone.
My mom will be making calls to my side of the family before the invites go out, explaining the situation and finding out who is seeing someone seriously.
We already have a guest list of 320 ppl an d 350 is our cut off. It's ridiculous IMO for people to wanna bring a date who isnt gonna know anyone and will need to be constantly attended to. My cousins and close family friends will know the majority of the people at the wedding so it's not like they will be on their own.
However, if you have any distant relatives who are coming all by themselves and wont really know anyone, you should definitely extend them the courtesy of bringing a guest.
HTH
angl2001
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I am NOT inviting everyone with a guest...only long term relationships , fiances and hubbys
ChristineAaron08
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I know a lot of ppl are torn with the invite w/ guest thing. I think it depends on your budget. I know there are ppl I'm inviting without a guest b/c they doen have a SO and I dont want them to just bring some random person.
As for the 190. Usually 20% don't attend so you still may be sorta closer to 130, but not that low.
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thanks girls for your advice!!! This is the most stressful part for me....I just spoke to FH and we are going to sit down on sat and figure out who we can cut.......and who can be invited without a SO.......thanks again girls........going to work now so hope everyone has a good night
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Posted by angl2001
I am NOT inviting everyone with a guest...only long term relationships , fiances and hubbys
This is what i was thinking......
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How would you determine 'serious relationship'? We didn't want to offend anyone so people were invited w/ a guest if they we: -Married -Engaged -Living Together
HTH
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How would you determine 'serious relationship'? We didn't want to offend anyone so people were invited w/ a guest if they we: -Married -Engaged -Living Together
HTH
thanks that is a good wat to determine!!
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Posted by angl2001
I am NOT inviting everyone with a guest...only long term relationships , fiances and hubbys
im doing the same thing...not to sound mean, but i have a lot of single guy friends, and if i invite them all with dates, i dont want a million chicks running around at my wedding that i dont even know! plus, who knows who or what theyll dig up!!! most of them have a bit of a reputation, but i still love them! lol
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I think thats fine. I only invited cousins if they were married or living with their significant other.
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I personally think it's fine to do that. I plan on doing the same thing in order to keep the guest list from getting out of control
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I am invited married, live together or long term relationship.. none of the above gets you no guest
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Posted by angl2001
I am NOT inviting everyone with a guest...only long term relationships , fiances and hubbys
Me too, I don't care if people get pissed at me. Don't come to the wedding.
Butterfly123
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Shoot, you all are better than me. I didnt even invite long term relationship if theyre still living at home with the parents. I have a few cousins who have been dating their SO's for about 2 years or so but still live at home. I didnt invite them with their SO.
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We're only inviting people if they are married, engaged or in a long term relationship (up to our discretion). We might consider inviting other friends with a guest if they wont know anyone else there, but if they even know people slightly we'll probably let them come single to mingle!
many of our friends are single and we're young! let them mingle with eachother
I'm not using the living-together thing as a guide though... one of my BMs has been dating her bf for 2 years but they dont live together. another friend just moved in with her bf of 3 months... guess i'll have to invite him if they are still together come august?
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many of our friends are single and we're young! let them mingle with eachother
EXACTLY! I told FH's single friends that I have some super hot cousins. WHy come with some girl who doesnt know anyone? Theyll just have to babysit them the whole night so they dont feel left out.
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We invited most with Guests to our EP and I totally regret it--- there are random people in my pics and the random people singed our sing board!!!
I will forever have the flavor of the week chick's signature on my epic!! ugh!
But we have to invite them with a guest to the wedding too- right? Seems like there's no turning back...
