I dont think we are doing a Rehearsal Dinner

conigs25 Posted: Mar 17, 2006 11:31 AM

I dont think we are doing a Rehearsal Dinner

We arent getting marrie din church and we cant use the Milleridge so....whats the point right? I mean, i know its also a formality but i feel like its a waste to ask his parents to pay for something we really dont need.

thoughts?

cindyandkevin Posted: Mar 17, 2006 11:33 AM

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Lots of couples don't have an RD bc of that reason, it's nice but it isn't really necessary. I'm only having one bc we've got kids in the BP and I want them to be more comfortable on the big day. And even at that, we're just having a small dinner back at my mom's house, nothing extravagant.

evnme Posted: Mar 17, 2006 11:36 AM

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we're not doing a RD either...

CaMacho Posted: Mar 17, 2006 11:36 AM

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So funny b/c we were talking about the same thing last night. We decided that we're probably just going to have the officiant come to my mom's house so we can do a run through in the backyard or something. Then to save $$, just have the guys BBQ and order in some hot food or subs.

We're not 100% sure yet, but I'm actually excited that we're maybe going to do it this way since the wedding is formal, we'll do a casual RD.

autumnwedding Posted: Mar 17, 2006 11:36 AM

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I happen to enjoy rehearsal dinners. I think its a great time for your bridal party to bond & it's such a relaxing atmosphere. Also, it's a great time to give out your BP gifts and do little things like tell everyone their order in walking down (etc).

If money is an issue, you are getting married in July, maybe a fun informal BBQ would be fun!?!

BUT, you are correct, it is not something you NEED to do. Either way you'll be fine.

conigs25 Posted: Mar 17, 2006 11:43 AM

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Posted by CaMacho

So funny b/c we were talking about the same thing last night. We decided that we're probably just going to have the officiant come to my mom's house so we can do a run through in the backyard or something. Then to save $$, just have the guys BBQ and order in some hot food or subs.

We're not 100% sure yet, but I'm actually excited that we're maybe going to do it this way since the wedding is formal, we'll do a casual RD.

I thought of this too. I like it

cmastro25 Posted: Mar 17, 2006 11:45 AM

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Well, I'm getting married at my hall and they don't do rehearsals. They just do a mini rehearsal day of, so we're not having a dinner either. What's the point when there is no rehearsal.

AprilBride2006 Posted: Mar 17, 2006 07:20 PM

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We're not having a rehersal dinner either. But everyone is going out to dinner the night before byt everyone is paying for themselves.

Vicky423 Posted: Mar 17, 2006 11:14 PM

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I'm getting married at a chruch but we aren't have a RD either, I mean not really. Everyone will prob. come to my parents house for a while after but not a formal thing.

autumn Posted: Mar 18, 2006 12:45 AM

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My older sister was married at the swan club in '03 and still had a rehearsal dinner even though they couldn't have a rehearsal at the hall.
FH and I were debating to have a RD even though we are getting married in a church. We are trying to save some money for the wedding. Its still up in the air if we are going to do it. I am hoping is parents might be able to help in that part.

scappy123 Posted: Mar 18, 2006 01:38 AM

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At this point, i dont think we are doing a rehearsal dinner, we are getting married at fox hollow and my bridal party is very small. May just do a dinner for some close family, but nothing big

SweetCin704 Posted: Mar 18, 2006 07:54 AM

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Michele, I really don't think its necessary from what you said. No need to spend extra $$$ if no real rehearsal, esp. if you can't do at your ceremony site.

esb980 Posted: Mar 18, 2006 08:11 AM

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I might get beat up for this BUT.... I think you really should have a RD, yeah, it's not nessasary, but there are lots of reasons (I think) you should have one. I think it's a very nice intimate way for the entire BP to get to know eachother. I think It's a 'thank you' dinner to everyone who helped with your wedding. As a former BM, I know planning (and payng for) a shower is super stressful, and it's a very nice gesture. It's where you can get very personal w/ all the people who have put their blood, sweat, and tears into YOUR day. I think having a backyard BBQ is fine, but I really think you should do something. I mean, if you look around, you can find a place that's not to bad. I found a place that was $16.99 p/p. We are not inviting BP w/ guest, so it's under $400! I mean, at this point $400 is a drop in the hat. Fortunatly, FMIL is picking it up for us. Even if you host something at your house, thats fine. I just think sometimes people get resentful when you don't have on.... JMHO....

jes81276 Posted: Mar 18, 2006 08:13 AM

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Posted by esb980

I might get beat up for this BUT.... I think you really should have a RD, yeah, it's not nessasary, but there are lots of reasons (I think) you should have one. I think it's a very nice intimate way for the entire BP to get to know eachother. I think It's a 'thank you' dinner to everyone who helped with your wedding. As a former BM, I know planning (and payng for) a shower is super stressful, and it's a very nice gesture. It's where you can get very personal w/ all the people who have put their blood, sweat, and tears into YOUR day. I think having a backyard BBQ is fine, but I really think you should do something. I mean, if you look around, you can find a place that's not to bad. I found a place that was $16.99 p/p. We are not inviting BP w/ guest, so it's under $400! I mean, at this point $400 is a drop in the hat. Fortunatly, FMIL is picking it up for us. Even if you host something at your house, thats fine. I just think sometimes people get resentful when you don't have on.... JMHO....

I agree. I think it is a way to thank the bp for all of their generosity - and a way to spend time with them before the chaos of the big day. Something informal would be wonderful, and not too expensive.

M&S Sept12006 Posted: Mar 18, 2006 10:32 AM

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Posted by CaMacho

So funny b/c we were talking about the same thing last night. We decided that we're probably just going to have the officiant come to my mom's house so we can do a run through in the backyard or something. Then to save $$, just have the guys BBQ and order in some hot food or subs.

We're not 100% sure yet, but I'm actually excited that we're maybe going to do it this way since the wedding is formal, we'll do a casual RD.

We're having our rehearsal in church but the dinner is definitely at the house (catered and BBQ)...we'll save appx $2K in our pocket!

ML110 Posted: Mar 18, 2006 11:41 AM

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i dont think you have to have one, lots of people don't... BUT, i do think its a nice way to thank the BP for everything they've done for your wedding, and to let them get to know each other in a relaxing atmosphere.... it doesn't have to be fancy- i think a nice BBQ at somebodys house would be great, and not expensive - its just nice to have something to thank the BP before all the chaos of the wedding day....

AlliNMatt06 Posted: Mar 18, 2006 11:50 AM

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I think you should have something small. When my sister got married, she had it at her MIL house, and they made most of the food. It was really nice, and you got to meet the BP, which I didn't really know.
Your BP is dishing out alot of money for your wedding, so it is just a nice way to say Thank You. I agree with the above posters, have a nice BBQ, or you could do a Brunch.