I don't understand??!!!

I come from an old school Italian family. When I was growing up I couldn't leave the dinner table unless everything on my dish was gone. I put on weight since I graduated college and have lost 37lbs. since 2005. When I as 'fat' my dad use to tell me Anna you are getting fat. Now that I am thinner than before college my dad tells me that I look like a skeleton. ***?? It's like before you used to say I was fat now that I lost the weight I'm too skinny??!!! I just don't understand!!!

Can anyone relate to this???

i can relate in a way.... i was never 'fat' but i was heavy for my frame im only 4'11 and my freshman year of college i gained a good 15 lbs then i lost it and was in the best shape of my life and i felt like i looked great! when that happen everyone told me i needed to gain weight and i was too skinny.. now i DEF put about 10lb back on and have some meat on my bones (a little flabber then id like) and the other day i was wearing a babydoll shirt ( ya know the empire waist) anyway my mom told me i looked preggo i was upset but then i said oh well! it made my boobies look bigger!

dont worry! if your healthy dont listen to what they say they are just used to seeing you one way!

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Posted by Soon2BMrsD

i was upset but then i said oh well! it made my boobies look bigger!

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I love it!!!!

I guess...my dad also said you used to have a nice round face.

thats what dads always say!!!! in my FHs family when i first met them they told me i looked sick.. and i must not eat... but i said i only eat when im hungry... and they said 'ohh thats must be it... you dont have to be hungry to eat' some people just have different ideas of ideal weight.. have you ever said but dad i like being this weight im more comfortable with myself??...sometimes they are so used to seeing you with 'a round face' that when it slims down they just arent used to it ya know

i know what you mean, my weight fluctuates too based on how much time i have to exercise and what food i can afford that week, lol. i think its very innapropriate when people comment about weight unsolicited, especially in a bad way. if you talk to someone about how you are working out and they comment that you look good and lost weight thats fine but when people comment out of the blue i find that to be rude. a few times people have said that to me during times when i really wasnt dieting or anything and i thought, 'what, was i fat before? i didnt realize it.'

I dont think your father realizes how sensitive weight can be to a woman, i would just ignore him, or make fun of his potebelly/skinny behind, whatever, and make a joke of it.

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Posted by Princess Cut Bride

I come from an old school Italian family. When I was growing up I couldn't leave the dinner table unless everything on my dish was gone. I put on weight since I graduated college and have lost 37lbs. since 2005. When I as 'fat' my dad use to tell me Anna you are getting fat. Now that I am thinner than before college my dad tells me that I look like a skeleton. ***?? It's like before you used to say I was fat now that I lost the weight I'm too skinny??!!! I just don't understand!!!

Can anyone relate to this???

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Same exact thing happened to me starting back in high school. My dad has always been really critical of my size. First I was 'too fat' then I lost 60 lbs and got 'too skinny' (which I admit was true) then I got 'too fat' again (according to my dad). Still feel like I can't win no matter what. I just don't care anymore what anybody thinks but myself. So I can relate to what you're talking about.

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Posted by SeaMaiden

i know what you mean, my weight fluctuates too based on how much time i have to exercise and what food i can afford that week, lol. i think its very innapropriate when people comment about weight unsolicited, especially in a bad way. if you talk to someone about how you are working out and they comment that you look good and lost weight thats fine but when people comment out of the blue i find that to be rude. a few times people have said that to me during times when i really wasnt dieting or anything and i thought, 'what, was i fat before? i didnt realize it.'

I dont think your father realizes how sensitive weight can be to a woman, i would just ignore him, or make fun of his potebelly/skinny behind, whatever, and make a joke of it.

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Yeah...my mom always say something to defend me! I tell him he needs to slim down so we can look good for the father/daughter dance!!