my friend would give me a save the date but I have not received an invite to her wedding?
I recently found out that a friend of mine who is getting married in April has sent out her invitations about a month ago. I got a save the date but have not gotten an invite. At first, I figured maybe I missed it in the mail or it got a little delayed in the mail but at this point it has been a month and I still haven't received one.
I don't know what to do. We haven't spoken a lot lately (We are both planning our weddings) but we've know each other for years and I can't even imagine that I would be cut from the list. I am debating about either sending her an email or calling her but I think it would be terribly awkward. I mean, what am I going to say? The other option is to call her fiance who I am also friends with and present it as though I think the invite got lost in the mail and that I don't want to upset her and that's why I am calling him. Or of course, I could do nothing at all. But I mean, seriously, doesn't sending someone a save the date require you to invite them to the wedding?
AugustBridein09
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When did she mail the STDs?
toninrob
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Well, she gave me mine in person but it was months ago, maybe October?
gina409
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do u have a mutual friend u could have aks if u r invited?then it wouldnt look like u asked?
NikkiR515
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It is possible that it got lost in the mail.. It's not like you got the Save the Date 3 years ago where your friendship could have drastically changed! I really hope you can figure out what is going on!!
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i think you should be ok with calling her FH or emailing her! i dont think it would be strange to do that because it is only normal that you are wondering what is going on about that because she did send a save the date but no wedding invitation?? so it is very possible they sent it out and it got lost and they have no clue about this! so i think you emailing her would be a good thing and if it comes down to where she knows she did not invite you than you know what!? she will be the one that will feel weird about this.. because she sent you a save the date and than doesnt invite you!? that makes no sence and its very silly! so go for it, you have nothing to lose or feel weird about.. go for it and email her, good luck with that hun and hope it just got lost! :)
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I got a save the date over a year ago for a friends April 2009 wedding...and I heard at work that she sent the invites out over a month ago...so I assume I am not getting gone which is fine. I would wait and see if she asks why you haven't responded yet and tell her you never received an invite.
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I tink I would e-mail her..Oct wasnt that long ago. Its weird to get a STD and not an invite.
cupid2410
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If she's your friend, you should call her and ask. This happened to me and my friend said that they heard that a few people didn't get the invitation so he re-sent mine. If you're friends, she's not going to un-invite you.
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Posted by toninrob
Well, she gave me mine in person but it was months ago, maybe October?
the fact that she hand delivered your STD can be an indication that she may have had your home address incorrect or maybe she mistyped it. we typed our addresses into microsoft word and actually mistyped the address for a close friend of ours. (we flipped the house number by mistake- i felt so bad!!! she got the STD months late!!!) i can't imagine that you would be cut from the list... considering your situation i think it's definitely an error. i would say something- especially considering that you've known her a long time!!!
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Posted by cupid2410
If she's your friend, you should call her and ask. This happened to me and my friend said that they heard that a few people didn't get the invitation so he re-sent mine. If you're friends, she's not going to un-invite you.
i have to agree here. i sometimes think that when people get busy, they can misinterpret things like not speaking for a while, and then you end up looking to far into something that really isn't there. i'd just give her a call and be honest and ask.
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I would just leave it alone. I don't think people forget to invite friends. If you really want to know, can you ask a mutual friend? Have them ask the bride who she's inviting and who she isn't. That way, you can be sure.
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Posted by gina409
do u have a mutual friend u could have aks if u r invited?then it wouldnt look like u asked?
thats what i would try if possible
littlepixie12
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when is the wedding?
KPetekie
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side note... I want to uninvite on of our guests who got a STD... it's one of Fh's friends who we both went to college... not a good good friend... just a friend (we are having a large wedding so invited a lot of friends)... I am just annoyed because his gf whose name was put on the STD just had a birthday party and set it up on facebook but didn't invite Fh or me. I am not friends with her on facebook or really so much in real life... but it was just a party at the bar and open to everyone to go... but I would think that since they know they are being invited to our wedding... they would call fh personally and invite him. it just pissed me off
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Posted by KPetekie I want to uninvite on of our guests who got a STDs
That stinks. I too have people I sent STDs to, more so on FH's side, that he used to see ALL the time and then they left their job and now FH doesn't see them at all. FH wanted to cut them but I said 'No if they got a STD they HAVE to get an invite'
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I sent out some electronic STDs a week after we booked the RH, then did a whole bunch of mail ones during the December holidays. . .since at the time we had to make cuts, we didn't mail them to some of the people who got the electronic ones. A big OOPS on my part. Well, I'm going to be able to invite them after all since some people can't come, so I just asked them this week for their addresses. Lesson learned: make 1000% sure you are going to be able to invite people BEFORE you send out electronic STDs.
