but im thinking of invites a few LIWers to the wedding. Problem is, i dont have THAT much wiggle room.
do you think it would be rude to just invites the girls as i KNOW they have a FH, or is it maybe ok, cuz im sure the FHs wouldnt want to go anyway....
Also, how do i do this without them feeling like im looking for a handout
AdriandSteve
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It's rough b/c you have a early wedding, way before 99% the rest of us.
I made a deal with 3 other brides that no one is exchanging gifts.. since it'll just be passing $ in one big circle. But it was something we already discussed.
kris_gets_hitched
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I feel like any LIW-er that's invited to another LIW-er's wedding should also do their best to invite that bride to THEIR wedding, with the understanding that they don't exchange gifts...pretty much breaks it evenly, as we're all in the same boat of saving for a wedding.
JMO!
AngnShaun
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Posted by kris_gets_hitched
I feel like any LIW-er that's invited to another LIW-er's wedding should also do their best to invite that bride to THEIR wedding, with the understanding that they don't exchange gifts...pretty much breaks it evenly, as we're all in the same boat of saving for a wedding.
JMO!
I agree...
i think this should be discussed with the brides themselves...
kris_gets_hitched
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Posted by kris_gets_hitched
I feel like any LIW-er that's invited to another LIW-er's wedding should also do their best to invite that bride to THEIR wedding, with the understanding that they don't exchange gifts...pretty much breaks it evenly, as we're all in the same boat of saving for a wedding.
JMO!
I agree...
i think this should be discussed with the brides themselves...
Yeah, that too!
Jna2010
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i personally would feel a little offended if someone knew i was engaged and didnt extend the invitation to my fiance as well, jmo
Alyssa79
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agreed with the non gift giving. some of us did agree b/cit is just going to go around in a circle. pointless imo
sugarnspice
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and not to sound sappy... but i really dont anticipate being invited to their weddings so its not about that at all for me....
but i guess you all think i need to invite FHs too.... i kinda figured that....
JC297
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I think as long as those LIW girls are friendly it'll be fine.
Rosalind_75
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just make sure fhs know.
we can still do gifts from the registry, right? thats different than a envelope pleaseeeeeeee
wait......im getting way ahead of myself here...... i dont even think i'll be invited to any of your weddings.wahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
sugarnspice
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Posted by Rosalind_75
just make sure fhs know.
we can still do gifts from the registry, right? thats different than a envelope pleaseeeeeeee
wait......im getting way ahead of myself here...... i dont even think i'll be invited to any of your weddings.wahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
thats why i added my post.... i really dont think ill be invited to theirs, im a jan bride and who knows what will happen,
but i judt dont wnat to be rude at all... guess i have to rethink
Alyssa79
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Posted by APastries2010
Posted by Rosalind_75
just make sure fhs know.
we can still do gifts from the registry, right? thats different than a envelope pleaseeeeeeee
wait......im getting way ahead of myself here...... i dont even think i'll be invited to any of your weddings.wahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
thats why i added my post.... i really dont think ill be invited to theirs, im a jan bride and who knows what will happen,
but i judt dont wnat to be rude at all... guess i have to rethink
which is why you need to talk to them. maybe you are and you just don't know
sugarnspice
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but wouldnt that be awkward....
hey, i was thinking of inviting you to my wedding in two months....
while they are thinking.. why on earth would you do that?
I would just ask them how they feel about it. Personally I wouldn't mind going to a wedding without my FH (especially if my FH doesn't really know the person) but would like to be told ahead of time 'hey I'm inviting you, person a, and person b, but not FH's'. If I just got an invite in the mail just to me and not FH without knowing ahead of time I would be mildly offended (not realizing other FH's weren't invited either)
Make sense??
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but wouldnt that be awkward....
hey, i was thinking of inviting you to my wedding in two months....
while they are thinking.. why on earth would you do that?
ahh i donno
well they are going to react to it, now when you tell them or when they get the invite... at least if you know before hand how they feel you can either send it or not send it... just tell them you were thinking of inviting them and yada yada
