I feel down today (sorry so very, very long but I need to get it out)

I didn't sleep well last night so I am sure that is adding to it but I feel really down about the wedding today. I am having problems with one of my vendors which I am hoping to resolve tonight when I meet with them but that is bothering me.

My main concern that I was up all night with was that I was second guessing my hair and makeup trials. My makeup artist did my makeup for my sister's wedding last year and I didn't love it. However, I was lazy and never looked around for someone else and when it came down to being so close to the wedding and needing a trial, I just booked her again for ease (she works out of the same salon as my hair guy so it is all in one place the morning of for me, my mom and my sis). It is hard to say of I like the way it came out or not too from the pics b/c I had a bad ear infection when I went so I hadn't slept in a few nights and my face and eyes were swollen from that and the sinus infection I had. Needless to say, I wasn't feeling too hot so I was not as into as I should have been. She also showed me a few things she would do different around my eyes (they seemed too dark to me) and the lipstick was not my color b/c I forgot mine so I am not quite sure of the real final outcome. Also, my hair guy is doing my hair and I am not quite sure this is his specialty. I have been going to him forever and he knows my hair so well and he does my whole family so I know he would be hurt if I didn't use him. I was happy with my hair at the trial (again, not so into it b/c I felt horrible) and when I look back at the pics, I am ok with it. I did it half up, half down. Now I am wondering how it would have looked all up. So I think I may need to make an appt for another hair trial to see (another $50 down the tubes).

Then I had a minor hiccup with my e-pics (didn't get any black & white ones). I contacted my photographer about it and she apologized and said it was a mistake because they rushed them (it took over 3 weeks to get them so not sure where the rush came in). She said to choose which ones I want in black & white and they will redo them. I know they will and I have complete faith in my photographer but I have no idea which ones would look better in B&W.

It took 5 unreturned messages and another phone call to get a hold of my priest and now after 3 messages, my rabbi is not calling me back. I need to get the ceremony FH and I wrote approved and time is really running out (even shorter b/c of the Jewish holidays).

I just feel like nothing is going right anymore. If you made it this far down my vent, thanks for listening and letting me get it out. No one else appreciates the aggravation and stress we go through but you girls.

First off, you have great hair and are very pretty, so I don;t think even the worst hair/make-up people could mess you up on a day when you will be glowing from inside out!!!

All the other hiccups & bumps seem to be par for the course with some wedding planning (not that that helps) but just try not to let it get you upset.

Your day will be here before you know it, so do your best to muddle through all the planinng junk & look forward to having a fabby day!!

Hey Sweetness,
CHEER UP!!!!!! You are such a beautiful girl and even if your make up and hair SUCK BADLY, you will still look great! I am sure you didn't feel physically into it and you had that nasty sick feeling so you're being hard on yourself. If it makes you feel better and is going to help you sleep at night, I would pay for the 2nd trials of both hair and make-up.

About the pictures....I know that it is hard to envision which ones will look nice or not but maybe you can scan them all into the computer and use a program to change the tones yourself. I know KODAK has a program like that. I may be able to do it for you. Let me know if you need help with that. I will ask FH if he can help.

For you, the wedding is coming soon so you are probably just nervous about that and are not handling it bad at all. All this work, I know we all want our days to be perfect.

These situations seem totally fixable so hang in there mama!! It will get better and then in a little over a month you get to come on here, write you review and post beautiful pictures and we will all say 'SEE, I TOLD YOU!!!'

ETA: How could I forget some hugs for you!!!

I'm sorry you're dealing with all of this right before your wedding. For your peace of mind I would do another trial just so you can sleep at night.

I remember the weeks leading up to my wedding were hectic and stressful - but it does get better - very soon you will be marrying your sweetie

First of all
You are going to be a beautiful bride. I realize you are stressed and frustrated about all this but just remember the reasons your FH loves you!
About the hair, I am in a very similar situation. I have been going to the same hairdresser for 25 years now (wow I feel old just saying that!). She still talkes about putting my hair in pigtails when I was 6 years old! She was just out of beauty school then. She ownes the salon so maybe it is a little different than your situation but I would suggest talking to your hairdresser. Most professionals know what their specialty is. Maybe he can recommend someone at the salon that would be 'better' at up-dos? My hair dresser refuses to do my hair for my wedding because she knows that she is not good at it. She would rather see me even go to another salon than not be happy on my wedding day. I am sure that if you have the same kind of relationship with your hairdresser that he will say the same thing to you.

Seriously, I was MOH for my frind last year and it is like you and she know each other. She stressed MAJORLY before the wedding about her makeup and photography and she of course, looked and photographed beautifully. You will look wonderful, there is no question. I have seen brides who have been in torn veils from people stepping on them, hair fallen, the whole nine, and there is something about being on your wedding day and marrying your husband that transcends it all. Not that your hair will be a problem, but you will be gorgeous anyway.
As for the photography, (my BF husband is a photog) -- it is super easy to change b+w from color. If she has the negatives, even easier. If you have a scanner, even easier for you to do yourself. My point is, you will find one for her to do or you will do it and it will be great!
Last, I was kind of laughing at the end of your note when you said you could not reach the rabbi and that you are so busy with the Jewish holidays --- um, maybe so is he/she?
Anyway -and have no fear, you will be a beautiful bride and have a magnificent day! I was up all night worrying about stuff and I am nearly a year off -- worry about us real nutcases!

OMG, you girls are SO SWEET. I knew you would understand how I was feeling. Thank you so much for your hugs and kind, flattering words. I feel a little better already. I know this is par for the course but it is so upsetting that I am getting married in just over 2 weeks and I feel sad, not happy.

My hair guy is the owner of the salon. I had sat with the 'updo' girl before I sat with him for a quick consultation of what would and wouldn't work for my hair type. He says he does at least 10 wedding parties or brides per month himself so this is a huge part of his business so I guess I just need to have faith in him. Maybe another trial with it all up (and me feeling better) would put me at ease.

I have been calling the rabbi for over a week to try and get to him before the holidays. I even asked him in the second message if we could get an appt set up before the holidays took over all our time. No return call :forlorn

I do have my trial pics online so maybe FH can show me how to play with them a little to see some makeup changes (he is good at that stuff but I don't want him to see them). But he can play with the e-pics once we scan them in to see which ones will look good B&W. Great idea, thanks.

Again, thanks for making me smile. You girls are the BEST!

First of all, plenty of for you!

I am sorry you are double guessing so many things and are SO stressed. If it makes you feel any better, this is NORMAL to feel like this so close to your wedding. I know it seems like everything is going wrong for you and you are having nothing but problems, but trust me when I say that in the end EVERYTHING will work out for you!!

You are a beautiful girl and no matter what happens with your makeup/hair decision, you are going to be a glowing bride But for piece of mind, perhaps go for another trial just to be sure and to let them know EXACTLY how you want everything. Even if it costs more money, its money well spend to give you some peace of mind!

As for the photog.. well i know you must be frustrated, but everything will work out I promise! You are using the same photo as I did, and I can understand how upset you must be that you didn't get all your B&W shots. If it makes you feel any better, it took nearly one month to get my casual proofs because the B&W were delayed for us also. I was starting to get worried but in the end, they were terrific. Be assured that the final product (your signing board, right?) will be amazing and they'll have it ready for you in time for your wedding. I agree with the other ladies.. try scanning some of your color proofs and turning them into B&W shots.. it'll give you an idea how it will look. I know its just another thing to worry about, but try not to! It'll work out I promise!!

Sweetie, just try to relax ( I know easier said than done) and take care of yourself. Getting your is really important and it'll help you feel better about everything else

You are going to be a beautiful bride and your day is going to be perfect! Vent all you want, that is what we're here for!!

you are not alone.

i am getting married in 3 days and i am miserable. i am taking care of makeup myself and am going to a salon i have never been to before the day of for them to blow out my hair straight - what i will do with it then? no clue... don't have any idea what jewlery to wear either. my sister just laughed at me and told me i was a spaz

all i am doing now is that it doesn't rain

Suzanne....I'm so sorry you feel like this. I feel for you. I'm not 'wow' about my hair trial and I'm thinking of going again but I don't want to spend another $50.00 but for all the money we're spending on our wedding we have to look perfect!!!! AND WE WILL

Please try and cheer up...you're getting married in 18 days

Thanks again girls. You really are so sweet and such a help in making me feel better. I am going to take some of your advice and hopefully I will be my cheery self again soon!

to you all!