I feel like crying

staceylacey Posted: Oct 13, 2006 11:45 AM

I feel like crying

My bridesmaids are driving me crazy........here is the story
One of them was invited with her boyfriend of 2 years....they recently broke up but her invite says and guest.....I told her that I did not invite anyone who did not hhave a long term BF with a guest. Then another bridesmaid started dating someone for like two weeks and she is 'in love' And she is saying if I let the first one bring a date then she will be pissed at me. The invitation are already printed and it sayas and guest I dont know what to do and I want to cry.....I just want everyone to have fun at the wedding and I dont want drama

Soon2BeMrs Posted: Oct 13, 2006 11:48 AM

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maybe you can talk to the one that has 'and guest' and explain the situtation. since she has noone and this other girl does maybe she can use the 'guest' this way it doesnt effect your count either.

waterspout4 Posted: Oct 13, 2006 11:50 AM

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I understand your problem with them. I guess I'm a bit confused that if you were inviting that first BM with her BF, then why wasn't printed with his name, instead of 'guest'? Technically, if you just put 'and guest' it is up to the person on who they bring. (Even if you meant it to be a specific person.)

My question is...... Did you send the invitations out? If not, you must have extra envelopes. Just handwrite the first BM's envelope so it just has her name on it. That way it should work out.

Now I'm thinking more. The 2nd BM should understand why the 1st BM was invited with a guest. She was dating someone for a while. Just because they broke up doesn't mean you have to invite the other BM with guests because they are 'in love'. Stand your ground. If the 2 of them can't understand the situation, then they aren't worth it. JMO.

sarahradio5 Posted: Oct 13, 2006 11:52 AM

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Don't cry!!!!

I just don't get why anyone in a bridal party would WANT to bring anyone they barely KNOW - and who doesn't know anyone else at the wedding!! They're gonna be SO busy doing bridal party stuff!

Anyway... to calm the drama for YOURSELF a little, you can always make the exception for them since they're in your bridal party. But only if YOU want to. If you DON'T, then stick to your guns and explain to the one that was invited with a guest on the envelope that that was printed before they broke up. Or see if you can print an envelope separately that doesn't have 'and guest' written.

NY031978 Posted: Oct 13, 2006 11:55 AM

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yea maybe printing a new envelope so they both are invited alone. or maybe just let them both bring a guest and make an exception? i mean they are in you BP so if ppl have something to say you can use that as your reason. if its a $$ thing sit down w. them both and explain how you feel...they should be understanding or id hope!

staceylacey Posted: Oct 13, 2006 11:57 AM

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I ordered these scroll invitations and they were printed on the scrolls.....the and guest was just cause thats what i decided to do at that time I guess it was a bad move on my part......I have no idea why someone would want to babysit a friend at the wedding Its not like it will make her feel better about not having a BF right??? I am just so lost right now

TheFutureMrsM Posted: Oct 13, 2006 11:59 AM

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honestly would you want to go to a wedding alone?

I think everyone in the bridal party should be invited with a guest, It is not fair, to invite one Bridesmaid with a guest, and not the other because at the time the person was single.

Now your bridesmaid has someone to bring, She has the right to bring a guest to a wedding.

If this issue was not a bridal party member i might feel differntly but i really feel, all bridal party members regardless if they are dating or not, should be invited with a guest

NY031978 Posted: Oct 13, 2006 12:02 PM

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Posted by soontobe2007

honestly would you want to go to a wedding alone?

I think everyone in the bridal party should be invited with a guest, It is not fair, to invite one Bridesmaid with a guest, and not the other because at the time the person was single.

Now your bridesmaid has someone to bring, She has the right to bring a guest to a wedding.

If this issue was not a bridal party member i might feel differntly but i really feel, all bridal party members regardless if they are dating or not, should be invited with a guest

thats how i felt w. my wedding.....so all BP members are invited w. a guest. I know id hate too be at a wedding alone....esp if your 'older'

LaurenluvsTJ Posted: Oct 13, 2006 12:07 PM

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Posted by soontobe2007

honestly would you want to go to a wedding alone?

I think everyone in the bridal party should be invited with a guest, It is not fair, to invite one Bridesmaid with a guest, and not the other because at the time the person was single.

Now your bridesmaid has someone to bring, She has the right to bring a guest to a wedding.

If this issue was not a bridal party member i might feel differntly but i really feel, all bridal party members regardless if they are dating or not, should be invited with a guest

I agree.

BunnyBride Posted: Oct 13, 2006 12:18 PM

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I have actually been to weddings by myself before I met FH and never felt akward or out of place. I was even a bridesmaid in one of them.

In the end it's your desision but I can understand why you may not wnat to spend 100 bucks or more on a person who you don't even know..just MHO

staceylacey Posted: Oct 13, 2006 12:24 PM

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Well all my bridesmaids are friends that why I didnt invite dates cause they would be hanging out together.....I have been in wedding where I was not invited with a date and I was ok with it. Besides I have a HUGE family and we have 300 people invited and Its getting expensive so we decided not to invite dates. There are also two groomsmen without dates but all the groomsmen are friends.....So all in all dates are not necisart for my wedding party becauise there is not awkward moments with someone not knowing someone else you know what I mean. ANd everyone was fine with it a week ago. AND the BM that has the new boyfriend was in a wedding last weekend and didnt bring a date........So now what do I do invite all Bridal party members with dates the invoitations are out already.....

leshellem Posted: Oct 13, 2006 12:26 PM

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Posted by soontobe2007

honestly would you want to go to a wedding alone?

I think everyone in the bridal party should be invited with a guest, It is not fair, to invite one Bridesmaid with a guest, and not the other because at the time the person was single.

Now your bridesmaid has someone to bring, She has the right to bring a guest to a wedding.

If this issue was not a bridal party member i might feel differntly but i really feel, all bridal party members regardless if they are dating or not, should be invited with a guest

I agree.

lucite Posted: Oct 13, 2006 12:26 PM

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I think for a bridal party you have to make exceptions and allow dates. IMO

staceylacey Posted: Oct 13, 2006 12:29 PM

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I wish someone would have told me this BEFORE i sent the invites............

ChrissynRicky Posted: Oct 13, 2006 12:29 PM

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Posted by soontobe2007

honestly would you want to go to a wedding alone?

I think everyone in the bridal party should be invited with a guest, It is not fair, to invite one Bridesmaid with a guest, and not the other because at the time the person was single.

Now your bridesmaid has someone to bring, She has the right to bring a guest to a wedding.

If this issue was not a bridal party member i might feel differntly but i really feel, all bridal party members regardless if they are dating or not, should be invited with a guest

I agree.

staceylacey Posted: Oct 13, 2006 12:36 PM

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Ok this is not helping ......someone help me o what I should do NOW ythat the invitations are sent out.....I dont know why its a big deal to bring a date and babysit them all night. I have been to many many weddings without dates as well as be to a million where the bridal party didnt have dates......What do I do NOW........

staceylacey Posted: Oct 13, 2006 12:37 PM

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Posted by waterspout4

I understand your problem with them. I guess I'm a bit confused that if you were inviting that first BM with her BF, then why wasn't printed with his name, instead of 'guest'? Technically, if you just put 'and guest' it is up to the person on who they bring. (Even if you meant it to be a specific person.)

My question is...... Did you send the invitations out? If not, you must have extra envelopes. Just handwrite the first BM's envelope so it just has her name on it. That way it should work out.

Now I'm thinking more. The 2nd BM should understand why the 1st BM was invited with a guest. She was dating someone for a while. Just because they broke up doesn't mean you have to invite the other BM with guests because they are 'in love'. Stand your ground. If the 2 of them can't understand the situation, then they aren't worth it. JMO.[/QUOTE
thank you