I feel like I'm annoying my FH

well my FH doesnt care really either he just says what ever I want-- we care more about the details that they do not think about--you j ust do what you have to do, and im sure if you ask him for some help or input he will offer-

Alot of guys just aren't into the whole wedding thing (especially the planning aspect). FH has been very supportive, but I know he would much rather be playing his playstation!

Maybe try to get his input on things he may enjoy - band/dj, honeymoon or food tastings. FH doesn't really get the whole hoop-la associated with weddings, but he is excited to be married (and isn't that what is most important? )

my fh was similar however i took the initative and did things myself and i brought him only to final meetings. like with the halls i went to 15 of them (no need to drag him everywhere) and only brought him to three and then we choose together.

and the photographer i choose myself and then brought him back to go over details and leave a deposit.

with the dj he trusted me and i booked it myself.

he knows i like planning. so he let me do what i do best. he was only particular about a few things like the honeymoon, hall and tuxes. i havent put him in charge of anything by himself i would never do that.

dont worry he wants to marry you planning jmo is not really for the guys. have fun planning.

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Posted by hsacks23r

well my FH doesnt care really either he just says what ever I want-- we care more about the details that they do not think about--you j ust do what you have to do, and im sure if you ask him for some help or input he will offer-

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I agree. If I asked my FI for his opinion on the colors, he'd laugh till next week - or demand that I seek professional help. They just don't care about that type of stuff (well, some do - but many don't).

very normal! mine hates wedding talk! he says 'whatever you want'
i booked the hall after seeing it with my mom only - and fh said to book it- he saw it a couple months later.

trust me- you dont want him butting in on things he doesnt know about - like flowers and colors.
leave it to you. he will come around once you get closer.
also remember, being newly engaged, all you can think, eat, sleep and drink is wedding stuff- so he may be a little over whelmed.

dont worry!!!

I think that its normal - My FH isnt really into a lot of it - he came for all the DJ/Band stuff but thats about it -
He still hasnt seen our hall - He keeps telling me that he wishes we were married already so i know that it has nothing to do with that but he says all the other stuff ....its about me and its my day .....dont be upset honey

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Posted by LMFitz

I agree. If I asked my FI for his opinion on the colors, he'd laugh till next week - or demand that I seek professional help. They just don't care about that type of stuff (well, some do - but many don't).

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Mine too - except he'll let me know what he DOESN'T like. He said he definitely didn't want a totally pink wedding (i love pink!) - haha

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Posted by SuzBride

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Posted by LMFitz

I agree. If I asked my FI for his opinion on the colors, he'd laugh till next week - or demand that I seek professional help. They just don't care about that type of stuff (well, some do - but many don't).

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Mine too - except he'll let me know what he DOESN'T like. He said he definitely didn't want a totally pink wedding (i love pink!) - haha

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Mine could also care less but he did say no pink BM dresses! He is however, adamant about having coat tails for his tux!

I hear ya! My FH started stong with being interested in the hall and loved the Riviera...then when it came time for photographers and now DJ's he is more bothered by appointments. Most men are not into that and asked their opinion on flowers they will give you a deer in the headlights look. Better to be on here search, look, and then when you narrow it down to three ask his input on them.
It was easier for me to get his opinion on 3 than 13 things.
Good Luck!

It is very normal...FH wasn't really into much of the planning exact the band & halls. He let me choose everything else. He was more concerned with the money aspect. I can say though as we are quickly approaching the day (8 months from Sunday) he is getting excited

So don't stress about it too much!

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Posted by SuzBride

Alot of guys just aren't into the whole wedding thing (especially the planning aspect). FH has been very supportive, but I know he would much rather be playing his playstation!

Maybe try to get his input on things he may enjoy - band/dj, honeymoon or food tastings. FH doesn't really get the whole hoop-la associated with weddings, but he is excited to be married (and isn't that what is most important? )

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My thoughts exactly! FH researched the band and is looking into the honeymoon!

Mine was like that in the begining also- now he tells me all the time how excited he is

Most boys can't think that far down the road- plus I think they also have to mourn there single life

Mine had 'enagement axniety' for about 3 months after we were engaged-

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Posted by MayBride06

Mine could also care less but he did say no pink BM dresses! He is however, adamant about having coat tails for his tux!

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Mine was all 'I could care less about the flowers - that is girl stuff' - but then I showed him a pic of the all white BM bouquet I was considering and he said 'Isn't that kind of boring?' I was going for elegant, but whatever!

You need to remember something VERY important. First, he asked you to marry him-that was his decision right? 2nd, men look at marriages, NOT weddings. They just arent interested in the details like we are. And the more you want him to get involved and not understand that this isnt his 'thing' the more upset you are going to get.

I ask my FI his opinions on things etc and when i can tell its simething he has no interest in (IE- registering, flowers) I leave it alone. He was interested in looking at places, mtg vendors for music, but couldnt care less about photographers so I went ahead and did those. We (brides) enjoy this and they dont and i just accept that. What IS important is that he put this ring on my finger and committed his life to me. I respect that he doesnt wanna do certain things for the wedding and he respects that i wanna do so much. Thats what love is all about

Thank you! I feel much better knowing this is 'normal'!!