My fiance's best man (who is his brother-in-law and who he has known for 15 years) just called and told him that he did not want to be the Best Man, because my fiance has let him down to much in the last year. My Fiance let him down because he couldn't work at his store 2 times he asked this year.
I can't believe that with 4 months to go to our wedding he brings up 2 instances from 6 months ago. My Fiance should not have to cancel his plans to work at the store so his brother-in-law can take the day off.
I am just so mad right now. His sister is a Bridesmaid, and I am not sure I want her to be any more. I just do not know what to do.
I just feel so bad for my fiance. He is being treated horrible for doing nothing wrong.
This may be something that will tear this family apart.
The Original 2nd-time-around
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That really stinks, what an idiot!!! You guys don't deserve to be treated so unfairly
butterfly20
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im sorry to hear that are there maybe jealousy issues and he's using this as an excuse?.. i could see how you wouldnt want his sister to be in it after that, but maybe she didnt even know what her husband did.... maybe you should have a talk with the sister and find out whats up... like if theres another reason?...
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That is definitely weird. Why now would he be bringing this up? So sorry you are going through this. What do his parents think?
nferrandi
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My mother always taught me that it's the woman who holds the family together. In my opinion you should call you FSIL and treat as if you think she doesn't know. Tell her how hurt her brother is and how he wanted to give her husband this special honor and you can't understand why he would back out only a few months before the wedding. Be really sincere and try not to be agressive or she will only go on the defensive to protect her husband. I'm sure everything will work out.
chris605
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I am sorry....
cheshe
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This situation is getting worse. My FMIL has spoke to his sister several times and she has mentioned nothing about what is going on. She believes that her daughter knows nothing of what her husband said to my Fiance. My mother could not just sit back and say nothing if this was something between me and my sister. I just do not understand his mother. It always seems as if when it comes to my Fiance she could care less... but god forbid her did something like this to his sister... he would never hear the end of it.
I am so fed up with his family. They have caused nothing but problems when it comes to the wedding. His sister had a baby 8 months ago. He will have just turned 1 when our wedding comes and I do not want him at the wedding. I gave in and said that he could be at the wedding through the cocktail hour, but that is not good enough for them, he has to be there for the reception to. What do they not understand... It is our day and they should respect our wishes. I just cant stand them any more.
no stress bride
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I feel really bad for the both of you!! Hopefully u can find someone else who will love to fill that position and really appreciate it!! Don't let him take down this great time in your life you worked to hard!
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I would definatley call and speak to you FSIL. First of all, like said above, explain that your FH is upset. MAybe she doesnt know. Your FMIL should say something also...but i would take it into your own hands. ALso explain to her that if the baby is at the reception, she will not have as good of a time because she will be worrying about the baby, and cant just relax and enjoy herself. She also would have to leave early for him to go to sleep, and worry about feeding him....Run all that by her. My 2 flower girls will be 2 1/2 and my FSIL alreasy said no way..sitter..i want to have fun..and its true! dont worry..just think YOU will be a MRS in inly 4 months!! How exciting!
July1505bride
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What a terrible thing to do so close to your wedding. I'm sorry!
shelly3950
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I;m sorry. I agree that you should talk to FSIL, not in an accusing way, and assume she does not know what is going on. It definitely sounds to me like jealousy issues. Maybe his BIL is a little jealous that you and he are starting off your marriage when they have a child (and we all can imagine how that changes things). Men can be so silly sometimes.
