I FOUND THE DRESS!!

I FOUND THE DRESS!!

i was having allot of fun with all the wedding planning until i started dress shopping.....i just cant seem to find something i like. I dont know if anyone can relate to this or not but i just feel like i wasnt cut out for all this...i mean all i want to do is marry my best friend in the whole world that i love more than life...i didnt want all the pomp and circumstance its just not me, i kinda got into all of it looking at pictures and talking to people and reading all your posts but since ive started looking for dresses i realized that its just not me...i like plain simple things, i guess im kinda still the little jock girl that i was as a kid and i havent seen a dress that is ME, and to make it worse i get all jammed up trying them on (to make it worse i have a nervous laugh) and im open to things that the ladies pick out and bring me even though i wouldnt have picked them out but when they see that i dont like them they seem to get annoyed at me one of them acutally told me 'i don't knwo what you wna t we dont do plain these are wedding dresses come back when your serious and not just playing dress up' i dont know im just worries that now its 9months away and i still havent even seen anything that i really love like not even online or a mag...sorry for the vent i just had to get it out

ETA: I FOUND IT!!!! forst thank youall for all your support i was feeling pretty bad about this whole thing last night....and thanx to my amazing FSIL and BM she called and made an appointment at Bridal Couture of Manhassette and we met with Darlene I showed her some dresses I liked that I saw online and a few in a magazine that nicole and I had picked, basically she let me look around and pick out what i liked and nicole picked out a few too. anyways the one that darlene picked out was exactly what i had in mind it was kind of a combo of this maggie sottero and jim heljm dress that i liked but i liked the top of one and the bottom of the other, anyway i put it on and just got a HUGE smile right away i finally felt great in a wedding dress!! and she was so cool about not pushing it i tried on a few other that just werent me and before i left i put the first one on again and i new it was just right....i was gong to wait to put money down on it, but when i told my parents they were so excited that we went back and i put it on a 3rd time and i still loved it so that was it i put the down payment on it and i guess ill see it again in july...lol anyways my mom and dad took tons of pictures at the place when i had the sample on so when i get those from them ill put them up! thanx again girls

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dont stress it you will find the right one...the moment you see it you'll know...im your opposite, the dress i want i have not seen it in person no boutiques seem to carry this dress...its driving me crazy...so it doesnt matter how many other dresses they show me i already know which one i want and thats that....so dont stress youll find the one that compliments you

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I'm sorry I found it difficult finding 'the one' and it was not a fun process. However, I realized after trying on a few dresses that sometimes it's fun to go with other people just so you can make fun of all the cheesy styles that are available! I went to at least 6 or 7 bridal stores and tried on at least 20 dresses. Don't worry, you'll find something. Have you tried the J Crew collection or Ann Taylor? Their dresses are a little simpler than standard bridal fare and you may find something you like there. You'll definitely find something in time for your wedding. Good luck.

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Hey, I don't know where you went that they told you to 'come back when you're serious', but you should def post that vendor so we know not to go there. Also, don't panic you have plenty of time. I'm a girlie girl and I wanted a simple dress. There's planty out there. I also have a god friend that NEVER wears anything but pants and would die in a skirt, but she chose a beauuuutiful simple dress that had lace on the bodice, was A-line, and had an organza over satin skirt that just ahad a little tiny line of lace around the very bottom of the dress. It was so simple and so beautiful, she loved it and she felt comfortable and like herself in it. Maybe you could try something like that. Also lok for a sweep train or a short chapel. That way you don't feel like you're drowning. Good luck and take your time and don't gt pushed into anything that's not you!

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That was sooo rude what that person said to you. I'm so sorry.

You still have time! You will find something that you will love. Try on as many different styles as possible ( as much as you're going to dread this) and something will click. Sometimes, the dresses that you think you're dead against are actually the ones that look the best. That's how I found my gown. You're going to be happy, the right one is out there

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OMG I cant believe someone said that to you! Thats absolutely horrible.

As far as the dress goes -- I agree with an above poster. Try places like JCrew. Also, Black & white has a beautiful wedding dress thats very simple. You WILL find something that you fall in love with. Many girls dont find something right away, so dont panic. You still have time. Just keep looking and dont get discouraged.

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I'm sorry you are having trouble. I had the same issues, and just could not make up my mind. I did not order my dress until early April, and my wedding was in November. You still have time!

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I had the same problem and unfortunately I rushed into buying one and now I have to order another one b/c I dont like the other one anymore so just take your time and im sure in due time you will find one

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I am sorry you are having troubles! Everyone is right, you definitely have a lot of time and there are a lot of simpler styles out there! I completely understand that you feel this is not a fun process..>I felt the same exact way until about a month ago, when all the big stressful things were over and I can focus on the little details...the type of thing that I like to do because no one else seems to care about them and I can do what I want finally! I am definitely not a girly girl so I completey understand where you are coming from...if you ever wanna vent privately feel free to FM Me!

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definitely try jcrew! i LOVE this dress from there..



Also, I'm not sure what you mean by 'simpler' dress... but Melissa sweet makes some gorgeous lacey dresses, that are very simple and elegant.

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Don't stress! I am not a real 'girly-girl' either...and i knew i wanted a dress that would stil be 'me.' I tried on dresses that looked great, but my friends were like 'naah...that's just not her!' and the salespeople just couldn't understand. I also tried on literally about 100 dresses...many were ok...until i put on the one i bought...it was nothing like i thought i'd get but i can't wait to wear it! Try looking online and thru magazines...and see what appeals to you, and what does not...and keep an open mind when going to try on...sometimes what you least expect will make you say 'oooh!' And tell the salespeople a bit about your personality...my friends would say 'she's not your typical bride...she has a blackbelt & a motorcycle.' now we need a dress to go with that. And don't get discouraged...i know at one point i was ready to just settle...but when i least expected it my dress was there waiting for me! good luck girl!!

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dont worry , i havent even ordered my gown yet, still debating like you, i know what dress i want , but havent gone in to order as yet.

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I had the same problem... don't panic, you will find something, and definitely don't settle. I wanted a simple, straight cut dress w/o beads. I went to a zillion places that all thought I was nuts, I settled on an a-line dress which was pretty plain, but not really what I wanted...wound up switching to a great Melissa Sweet straight fitted dress and I am so much happier, but my original settling caused a great deal of unnecessary stress and I had to eat the deposit!

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Thanx for all the support girls. i really appreciate it!!