I got the call!!! with mini rant

My dress is in!!! My mom has been hounding me for about 3 weeks asking me if it's in yet. Then I call her all excited and tell her it's in and I'm going on sat to see it, and she goes 'why would u go to see it before ure fitting?' I have been waiting for this dress to come in for 10 mths, i've never seen it in white...I haven't seen it in almost 10mths...plus I want to make sure all my jewelry and everything look ok with it and look to see if there are stains or anything. Ughh I was so bummed, she totally burst my bubble. She was b*tching about them harassing me for money (which the haven't) and really bummed me out. To add insult to injury one of my bridesmaids (the only one who hasn't seen the dress) says she can't go bc she's going to the beach and to get her nails done!! I was so offended. She goes to the beach about twice a week....obviously my dress isn't her priority...I was just hurt But in any case, MY DRESS IS IN!! Screw everyone who isn't excited about it!

Yay for your dress coming in! Try to focus on the last part of your post and don't let anybody dampen your excitement! One thing I've learned over the past few months is that nobody is going to be as excited about my wedding as I am (and FH of course), so I can't expect an overjoyed reaction every time. I can understand why you're upset, though. Just go and admire that dress and show us pics when you can!!!

yay!!! how exciting congrats!!!

Congrats on your dress arriving! It's very exciting when it finally arrives.

And, yeah. You're right. YOUR wedding gown is not your bridesmaid's priority. Brides get so excited and wrapped up in their weddings they forget that the details aren't that exciting to other people, even their moms and bridesmaids. Give the girl a break.

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Posted by Pencils

Congrats on your dress arriving! It's very exciting when it finally arrives.

And, yeah. You're right. YOUR wedding gown is not your bridesmaid's priority. Brides get so excited and wrapped up in their weddings they forget that the details aren't that exciting to other people, even their moms and bridesmaids. Give the girl a break.

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I didn't say anything to her...but seriously...if ure not excited about my wedding, then u shouldn't be in my wedding party. We both have hectic schedules so it's hard to get the same day off so she's missed out on a lot. I've had to go on separate days with her for almost everything bc of work, which is fine, and I felt bad that she was never there. I thought she would be excited to be able to see it, considering I value her opinion and it's hard to get it when she doesn't know what my dress looks like. If she were working or had something pre planned to do, fine...but considering I have asked NOTHING of my bridesmaids, I thought she might want to go. It's hard to get one of my best friend's opinions on my accessories when she hasn't seen the dress. I'm not this crazy person that gets all crazy over every little detail. She hasn't seen the hall or anything either. In my opinion, if ure not the least bit interested in the details of the wedding...y are u part of the bridal party?? I'm excited to hear the details of my coworkers weddings that I'm not even invited to, let alone a part of! The only reason I'm annoyed at my mother is bc she's been driving me crazy about the dress...and then when it's finally here, she's a kill joy.

congrat that your dress is in

Yea your dress is in! Don't let others bring you down.

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Posted by twinkle164

Yea your dress is in! Don't let others bring you down.

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thanks!! I'm over it now...I'm just so excited to see it all finally put together!!

The thing is, your bridesmaid is probably excited about your wedding. However, your wedding is in November. This is a trip to see a dress that you may not even try on. I'm sure you've showed her pictures, right? Why does she have to waste a day looking at your dress or your hall when she has plans already? It doesn't mean she's not interested in your wedding, it just means it's months before your wedding and she has other things to do. She will see them soon enough. I stand by what I said--no one is as interested in your wedding as you are, probably not even your mom or your FH. And many people aren't all that interested in the trappings of weddings at all. You asked this girl to be in your bridal party because she's close to you and your want her to stand up with you on your wedding day. Right? Well, it's not your wedding day, or your shower, or your bachelorette party, or whatever. It's a warm day in July when she has other plans already.

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Posted by Queensbebe

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Posted by Pencils
Congrats on your dress arriving! It's very exciting when it finally arrives.
And, yeah. You're right. YOUR wedding gown is not your bridesmaid's priority. Brides get so excited and wrapped up in their weddings they forget that the details aren't that exciting to other people, even their moms and bridesmaids. Give the girl a break.

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I didn't say anything to her...but seriously...if ure not excited about my wedding, then u shouldn't be in my wedding party. We both have hectic schedules so it's hard to get the same day off so she's missed out on a lot. I've had to go on separate days with her for almost everything bc of work, which is fine, and I felt bad that she was never there. I thought she would be excited to be able to see it, considering I value her opinion and it's hard to get it when she doesn't know what my dress looks like. If she were working or had something pre planned to do, fine...but considering I have asked NOTHING of my bridesmaids, I thought she might want to go. It's hard to get one of my best friend's opinions on my accessories when she hasn't seen the dress. I'm not this crazy person that gets all crazy over every little detail. She hasn't seen the hall or anything either. In my opinion, if ure not the least bit interested in the details of the wedding...y are u part of the bridal party?? I'm excited to hear the details of my coworkers weddings that I'm not even invited to, let alone a part of! The only reason I'm annoyed at my mother is bc she's been driving me crazy about the dress...and then when it's finally here, she's a kill joy.

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yay...i remember waiting for my dress to come in..i thought i would never get that call

let us know how it looks in white..im sure it looks beautiful

don't let them get you down! we are excited for you!!! I visted mine twice before my wedding to show various people (not for fittings)....go see it & post lots of pics for us!!

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Posted by Pencils

The thing is, your bridesmaid is probably excited about your wedding. However, your wedding is in November. This is a trip to see a dress that you may not even try on. I'm sure you've showed her pictures, right? Why does she have to waste a day looking at your dress or your hall when she has plans already? It doesn't mean she's not interested in your wedding, it just means it's months before your wedding and she has other things to do. She will see them soon enough. I stand by what I said--no one is as interested in your wedding as you are, probably not even your mom or your FH. And many people aren't all that interested in the trappings of weddings at all. You asked this girl to be in your bridal party because she's close to you and your want her to stand up with you on your wedding day. Right? Well, it's not your wedding day, or your shower, or your bachelorette party, or whatever. It's a warm day in July when she has other plans already.

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Posted by Queensbebe

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Posted by Pencils
Congrats on your dress arriving! It's very exciting when it finally arrives.
And, yeah. You're right. YOUR wedding gown is not your bridesmaid's priority. Brides get so excited and wrapped up in their weddings they forget that the details aren't that exciting to other people, even their moms and bridesmaids. Give the girl a break.

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I didn't say anything to her...but seriously...if ure not excited about my wedding, then u shouldn't be in my wedding party. We both have hectic schedules so it's hard to get the same day off so she's missed out on a lot. I've had to go on separate days with her for almost everything bc of work, which is fine, and I felt bad that she was never there. I thought she would be excited to be able to see it, considering I value her opinion and it's hard to get it when she doesn't know what my dress looks like. If she were working or had something pre planned to do, fine...but considering I have asked NOTHING of my bridesmaids, I thought she might want to go. It's hard to get one of my best friend's opinions on my accessories when she hasn't seen the dress. I'm not this crazy person that gets all crazy over every little detail. She hasn't seen the hall or anything either. In my opinion, if ure not the least bit interested in the details of the wedding...y are u part of the bridal party?? I'm excited to hear the details of my coworkers weddings that I'm not even invited to, let alone a part of! The only reason I'm annoyed at my mother is bc she's been driving me crazy about the dress...and then when it's finally here, she's a kill joy.

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I'm going to try it on and put everything together, thats y i'm going. I figured i'd save her the torture of sitting through an entire fitting. I have to be in and out in an hour bc i have a wedding...so it would be a whole hour. I still disagree totally. I think that you do what means a lot to your friend. If it were important to her, i'd be there. This was one of the few things that was really important to me. She doesn't wanna be there, that's fine. I would never ask her to change her plans. Of course my wedding isn't as important to her as it is to me, thats inevitable. I know she is excited and cares about my wedding. I just don't think it's too much to expect her to do something that she knows means a lot to me. I'll go with my mom and hopefully my MOH and have a good time regardless trying on my dress and putting everything together. I wanted to go just to make sure I had purchased the right jewelry, headpiece...etc and wanted her opinion. I wouldn't ask her to go and waste a 'warm day' if I was just going there to stare at my dress and leave. I'm sorry, but you can go to the beach and get ure nails done at anytime. An hour of ure day spent doing something important to a friend is not a lot to ask.

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Posted by camerakrazie

yay...i remember waiting for my dress to come in..i thought i would never get that call

let us know how it looks in white..im sure it looks beautiful

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thanks!! I can't wait to take actual pics of me in the dress!

Congrats on your dress coming in!!! I remember how excited I was when I got that call.

Where did you get your dress-did you tell them you were coming in to try it on? Alot of salons do not allow you to try it on before your first fitting (why i dont know I think its stupid) but I would call them and tell them

awwww ~ Be EXCITED! They are just upset because they will not be wearing it! YOU WILL BE EXCITED and go see it before your fitting ~ I did... (wanted to make sure it was the right dress and it was what i wanted)

That's awesome. Don't worry about everyone else, just go see it.

Enjoy!!!