I hate FH right now (vent)

Boop2704 Posted: Dec 17, 2003 08:06 AM

I hate FH right now (vent)

We got into a fight last night and we are still not speaking. Of coarse it is over Christmas and what we are going to do. FH has his son on Christmas eve, we were invited to my fathers for Christmas eve to. I suggested that we take his son with us and go to my fathers for dinner. This is his last Christmas here before he moves. But FH says no way, he wants to stay home with his son. I am so tired of his attitude towards my family. My family is very important to me and he never had any kind of family life. I am so tired of him complaining about every function we have to go to with my family. I don't complain when we have to go hang out with his family. I am just so tired of his attitude. He is starting to remind me of my parents when they were together. My father was very dominant and my mother rarely got to see her family, I feel like FH and I are starting to go down that path. Anytime I try to bring this up, he flips his top and tells me I am crazy. All I want to do is be with my family for Christmas, my whole family, including FH and my stepson, but FH seems to be making things very hard for me. I don't know what to do. It really sucks having divorced parents and now a soon to be hubby, I can only be split so many ways and FH is making it even harder. Thanks for letting me vent!

jenny2penny Posted: Dec 17, 2003 08:19 AM

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I hope you guys can come to an agreement.

070502 Posted: Dec 17, 2003 08:23 AM

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Good luck, in my opinion they just got harder our first year of marriage.
Where do you all live?
We are in Texas and only have 1 week to visit both families in NY and Philly. We spent the days from the 20th till the 22nd in philly, leave Christmas Eve to spend it with my parents (they are selling their home, so it will be my last one in NY) and then at midnight we drive back to philly(in laws) and arrive theree about 3am Christmas morning and stay until the 28th.
That's how we do it, and then we celebrate our Christmas around the 19th together down here and pretend it is Christmas.

We just joke that Christmas won't be alot of fun for us until we have our own children, and when we do the families will visit us and it will make it easier.

Best of Luck

luvsun27 Posted: Dec 17, 2003 09:28 AM

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Is it possible to spend Christmas morning at home...with FH and his son and then maybe you all can go to your family in the afternoon? This way, everybody gets what they want???

Sage10.03 Posted: Dec 17, 2003 09:36 AM

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I am so sorry you are going through this....it's so hard with so many people in different places to visit.

Is there a reason your FH doesn't want to go to your Dad's? Do they not get along?
Is your Dad having a lot of people over?
If not, maybe you can invite Dad to your place and just say that your FH really wants to spend time at home with his son and it would be great if he could come to you instead?

Otherwise, I would try talking to FH again, and really letting him know how important this is to you....

His unwillingness to compromise is not fair to you at all!!!