A little background information, about a year ago my FSIL decided that she wanted to get herself a present for having a baby (???) and it was to be a new engagement ring. She had my FH cousin come over her house with a bunch of settings since she is a jeweler to pick out her new e-ring. When she told me what she picked out it happened to be the same exact ring that FH got me for my engagement ring. Pave sides with two larger diamonds on either side of the center stone. Now she has seen and new what my e-ring looked like and decided to be a copycat. Well FH was so pissed that she was getting the same ring that I already had, he went out and got me a whole new ring. My new e-ring has pave sides with a large center stone that is encased with pave stones, very old fashion looking. So two days ago my FSIL comes to my FH parents house and announces that her and her husband have enough money to go and pick up the ring that she ordered about a year prior, however, she states that FH cousin sold the ring she ordered and now the new one she picked out looks almost exactly like GUESS WHO'S!!!!! That B**** went and got a ring that looks similiar to my new ring. She goes 'well it's not exact but it does have pave sides and the center stone is encased in pave stones but there are two sides stones that are also encased in pave stones so it's not exactly like yours.' The last time I checked if your picking out a ring that is encased in pave stones it is like mine no matter how many diamonds you have. It just pisses me off that she picked out a ring that looked exactly like my original e-ring and then she goes out and picks out a ring that has the same exact style as my new e-ring. I'm so angry. And then she goes it's more showie then your. So now your trying to trump my ring. I just want to smack the crap out of her. I am in such a bad mood now. She does nothing but aggrevate me on a day to day basis. Do any of you have this problem with your FSIL??????
Lisafer1973
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That really sux, but at least you know that your ring means more than hers does. I do have issues with my FSIL she is nasty! She has been complaining since the day we got engaged. Told me that my registry was all wrong and I won't need 1/2 the stuff their. It had really created a ton of arguments with FH because she is his sister! I can't wait to hear what she has to complain about my invites. Oh yeah she stayed at my shower for food and walked out while I was in the middle of opening gifts without even saying good bye! Then told me she had to go home because of the kids! Yeah whatever!
TrueLoveIn2008
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Honestly, I wouldn't worry about it too much. Imitation is the finest form of flattery, right? :) Did she have issues with your FH when they were younger - as in, did he do everything really well and she was always trying to compete with him? Or do you think she feels threatened by you? Does she do this with other things too or is it just your ring? The ring is a material thing - I wouldn't worry about it, but I can see how it could make you mad. However, if she constantly does things to copy you - cuts her hair like you, has bigger and better parties, etc ... then she might just be really insecure and feels she needs to be better than you. Or does she do it to everyone?
I know a few people like this and unfortunately, I don't think it can be changed. She needs to realize that she has insecurities before she'll realize she's hurting others by always trying to be better.
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sounds like she has issues....what does your FH say??? is she going to renew her vows the day of your wedding too??? what an arse!
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Posted by JBoothIn2008
Honestly, I wouldn't worry about it too much. Imitation is the finest form of flattery, right? :) Did she have issues with your FH when they were younger - as in, did he do everything really well and she was always trying to compete with him? Or do you think she feels threatened by you? Does she do this with other things too or is it just your ring? The ring is a material thing - I wouldn't worry about it, but I can see how it could make you mad. However, if she constantly does things to copy you - cuts her hair like you, has bigger and better parties, etc ... then she might just be really insecure and feels she needs to be better than you. Or does she do it to everyone?
I know a few people like this and unfortunately, I don't think it can be changed. She needs to realize that she has insecurities before she'll realize she's hurting others by always trying to be better.
Actually it's the other way around. This is my FBIL's wife whom I have grown up with my whole life. She actually liked my FH first but since he wouldn't give her the time of day she moved to his baby brother. They ended up getting married 5 years ago and I hadn't seen my FH in about three years so when I saw him at her bridal shower (he was picking up all the gifts) I started to flirt with him and now we are getting married. My FH tells me that when he was with his ex-girlfriend my FSIL would do the same thing with her. If she bought a coach bag, FSIL would get a coach bag etc.... I thought that she would have been different with me since we grew up together.
I do like what you said that imitation is the finest form of flattery.
She likes to steal your thunder type of person. Like she anounced her pregnancy at someones birthday party. She got pregnant and had a baby right before her aunts wedding (planned perfectly) blah, blah, blah. So it's not just me but she does target my FH alot.
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It sounds like she' a very insecure person who will go to great lengths to be center of attention. Try not to waste your energy worrying about her. She just sounds like an extremely jealous person.
jaep129
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Sorry to hear. Mine FSIL is actually becoming my soon to be ExFSIL which I cant wait. She is white trash and *****! How about we go kick their ***!
klovess14
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Lets set up a date... I'm all for it!!!!
Butterfly123
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You should have picked out some really ugly horrific ring as your new ring and showed it to her so she woul dhave copied that ONE! And then once she got it showed her your ACTUAL ring.
