i have a question/concern. i could use some advice

libby2595 Posted: Dec 14, 2006 10:19 PM

i have a question/concern. i could use some advice

i'll do my best to keep it short but not leave out important info.

a girl i grew up with, suddenly stopped talking to me about eight years ago. tonight, because of a mutual friend, she emailed me. her tone was very happy and chipper as though nothing had happened.

i've been wanting to reach out to my 'past' for some time now. i had even reached severe depression because of my home-sickness.

now that she emailed me, i suddenly am not sure if i want to reply. i don't know if i want to act as if nothing happened. i was very hurt for a very long time.

what i've wanted for years is starting to happen, and i don't know what to do.

cjb88 Posted: Dec 14, 2006 10:21 PM

Re: i have a question/concern. i could use some advice

i think it depends on what happened to make you guys stop talking to begin with... but if you miss her, then why not... just do it with a guarded heart that way you dont get hurt again...

libby2595 Posted: Dec 14, 2006 10:24 PM

Re: i have a question/concern. i could use some advice

Posted by cjb88

i think it depends on what happened to make you guys stop talking to begin with... but if you miss her, then why not... just do it with a guarded heart that way you dont get hurt again...

the odd thing is: i don't know what happened. one day we were all at a baby shower for one of our friends, and i just felt like an 'outsider'. at the time, i was the only one with a kid. but they had all been great with my son before that day.

this is part of why i was so depressed. it's not like there was a fight. just nothing.

evnme Posted: Dec 14, 2006 10:26 PM

Re: i have a question/concern. i could use some advice

sometimes people just get really strange out of no where.... i've lost a few friends in a similar way over the years...

libby2595 Posted: Dec 14, 2006 10:30 PM

Re: i have a question/concern. i could use some advice

the older i get, the more of a connection to my past i desire.

so why am i hesitant??? this is what i've dreamed of. i have literally had dreams of searching, finding, and reaching these people.

i was on anti-depressants for a while. i would dream that life was good again, then i would wake up and be more depressed that without the medication because reality would hit hard.

why am i so confused?

libby2595 Posted: Dec 14, 2006 10:30 PM

Re: i have a question/concern. i could use some advice

why am i so compeled to air my 'dirty laundry' tonight?

donegal419 Posted: Dec 14, 2006 10:32 PM

Re: i have a question/concern. i could use some advice

I would reply and tell her how happy you are to hear from her.... but at the same time, I would also voice how much you missed her and how hurt you were that you had so much distance between you... i think honesty is a good thing and she needs to know that whatever happened hurt you... it sounds like you want to move past whatever happened and i think you can, but i think you need to tell her feelings and then go from there.

GOOD LUCK!

libby2595 Posted: Dec 14, 2006 10:37 PM

Re: i have a question/concern. i could use some advice

you're right. pretending it didn't hurt will get me no where. i also have to know how to say it. i don't want to scare you off with bitterness.

it's just hard.

i guess it's time to grow up and deal with life. no one promised it would be pretty.