I have been feeling really stressed.....

I have been feeling really stressed.....

lately planning my wedding. I can't wait until it's over. I felt that when I got engaged everything was goign to be so much fun planning a wedding but I really just feel stressed most of the time. Either its about money, family butting in or FH and I disagreeing on certain issues. Does anyone feel me?? Does anyone have any advice for me? I am excited to get married it's just all this planning is driving me nuts!!

Re: I have been feeling really stressed.....

i feel u ....

take a deep breath and don't think about it for a month ... then go back to it

Re: I have been feeling really stressed.....

Re: I have been feeling really stressed.....

Re: I have been feeling really stressed.....

sorry you feel so stressed take some time away from planning. you will feel better about things!

Re: I have been feeling really stressed.....

Trust me you are speaking to the chior!!!

I have been a wreck lately..... Stressed is an understatement! Fighing like I have never fought b/4, the littlest things set me off…. I wish everything would just be easy!

Re: I have been feeling really stressed.....

I just feel so guilty fighting about the wedding with my FH but it's like everything is just a disagreement between us. I guess i just need to vent from time to time and take a deep breathe and think of all the good that is going to come out of this. I honestly am more excited about spending quality time with FH on our honeymoon. I am looking forward to that more than the big day which I hope is not a bad thing to say!

Re: I have been feeling really stressed.....

i've been feeling that way lately too. i haven't done too much lately actually, but i know that i need to get on the ball and start tying loose ends together. i can be such a procrastinator, even though i always say i'm not going to wait until the last minute and then i still do. and of course i can't do that with wedding things. plus, i've been starting to get annoyed with FH b/c he doesn't do anything. i ask questions and he'll usually answer or just give me a generic answer. he hasn't taken the initiative to do anything/help and when i asked him to call one of the vendors, he kind of got annoyed. i finally got annoyed back at him and he said he'd call, but if i have to get pissed for him to do anything, then i'll just do it myself!

ok, i vented! thanks!!

Re: I have been feeling really stressed.....

sorry, there's alittle more...plus, my mom just told me (b/c she can't keep secrets!) that she called FMIL about shower stuff and wanted to see if she would offer to help and/or pay for anything and of course she didn't offer anything!!!! I'm kind of surprised, but then yet i'm not. I thought she would offer to pay for SOMETHING. I mean, I know i'm not her daughter, but still...maybe i shouldn't expect her to help, but i think my mom expected her to contribute something. it would be nice. instead, all she said was let me know if you need anything. she told that to FH and I when we first started researching and planning and after that, I heard nothing from her, except when she didn't like that the hotel was a 20 minute drive from the RH and she took it upon herself to find a hotel that was closer and found one that was 17 minutes instead. big whoop!

Re: I have been feeling really stressed.....

My FH is the total opposit, he wants to be involved in everything and fights with me if he doesn't like something or if I am the one who suggested it. Oh and he also wants to be involved in planning my bridal shower which he should really be discussing with my MOH and my mother adn he has been talking to his parents about it. That's another thing that stresses me out, why can't he just let my MOH take care of what she and the bridemaids need to do??? UGGGGGGG IM STRESSING AGAIN!! I need to stop talking about this ASAP before I really go nuts!!

Re: I have been feeling really stressed.....

I totally understand what you're going through - just got into another argument w/ FH - I feel like all we do is fight which definitely takes all the excitement and enthusiasm away for me. He doesn't realize that I've been planning my wedding since I was a little girl and he should help when needed but not say ridiculous things. He doesn't get that this is a big deal - and in our culture the bride gets a ton of things from her parents and his parents and FH is like - oh I'm not getting half the things that you're getting - I'm like this is just how it is - I'm not asking for anything. Why does something so dumb even have to be an issue??

Re: I have been feeling really stressed.....

i think we all feel the same way.....i have never fought so much with my FH...it is just the timing...i think....i want it to be over but then I want want to savor every moment...

Re: I have been feeling really stressed.....

What I also have a problem with is that he tries to tell me who I should invite and who on my side he doesnt want there. He stresses me out that way, I don't tell him who he can't invite and let me tell you it's way more than I have. I am just ready to crack! I need a major break from wedding talk, every where I go everyone wants to ask me wedding questions, at work, when I go to the dr. I can't get away from it!!

Re: I have been feeling really stressed.....

Re: I have been feeling really stressed.....

i never thought i would have to make my point and have to argue about something i want with FH. He is so opinionated

Re: I have been feeling really stressed.....

I think we all feel the same way at times...I'm sure it will get better for you. It goes through its ups and downs!!

Re: I have been feeling really stressed.....

Honestly I've had some stressful moments before Jan, but very slight.....nothing major....I feel like since Jan. hit I've been on this stressful roller coaster. I've gotten headaches, felt dizzy, felt like I was getting sick, I've had to 'talk to myself' along with my friend and fh being 110% supportive. I know I need to let some things go and not go crazy over it.

I've stayed away from LIW a bit so i don't stress more...LOL...

SO now as the wedding approaches i plan on letting everyone know I won't be on email or answering my phone as much. In other words unless it's an emergency contact FH. He's agreed to let everyone contact him instead and he's not the nicest person, if some asks or says something stupid be prepared...

Re: I have been feeling really stressed.....

Re: I have been feeling really stressed.....

UGH YES!! This is so, so stressful!! my fh and i disagree about almost everything wedding related, but i usually just let him have it the way he wants. So much easier, and some things just don't matter in the end. and money's huge issue, i have no idea where it's coming from (my parents are paying for 'some' of the RH thankfully).

i'm also trying to get ready to move out there in 2 months so moving expenses and hoping ill find a job are stressing me out too (plus there's stuff going on at my current job that are stressful too!) Hopefully it'll get a lil easier after I move

Re: I have been feeling really stressed.....

JOIN THE CLUB