I have decided to be mature and an adult..and need opinions!

OK, so by this point I'm sure everyone is aware of the drama-rama surrounding my HM situation. Me and FH have been talking about it more rationally, and tonight we are going to do more extensive research, with the hopes of making a decision to give the TA the yay or nay to book the Sandals room.

So here's my sticky wicket. Now that I actually RESEARCHED, the Sandals resort in Antigua has been getting really bad reviews, especially compared to other Sandals resorts. I know that you can't please everyone, and that some people will always complain, but this was more than a few, it was a 50/50 split between absolute rave reviews 5 stars and 1 star bashing, and that made us a little uncomfortable.

Looking at the all-inclusives at Aruba, it seems like the service is better, but that the hotels itself aren't as luxurious or updated.

There are other Sandals in Jamaica that get better reviews, but we do have more safety concerns there. There is the one in Nassau, Bahamas that might be a plan B, and also seems very nice, but Antigua still seems more beautiful. St. Lucia unfortunately is out, because with an average of 10.2 inches of rainfall in December, we cannot take that chance.

FH also wants to consider the US Virgin Islands, because his aunt went there on her HM in the early 90s, and was married in the beginning of December as well. No real all inclusives there though.

So, we've already made this choice once before...pick someplace pretty that are PITAs to deal with over someplace that will bend over backwards for you but isn't so pretty to look at. Hmm...I wonder what I could be referring to

I guess what I'm asking is for any first hand reviews or heresay reviews of Sandals, specifically Antigua and Royal Bahamian, Aruba Occidental and Riu, and anything on St. John, St. Thomas, or St. Croix.

TIA!!!