I haven't been posting because of some new drama (LONG)

Nrauch8191 Posted: Jun 13, 2011 04:13 PM

I haven't been posting because of some new drama (LONG)

I will try to make this short. FH has two brothers. One is engaged for a year and has been with her for 9 years. They just had a baby in December. I am very close with her. My FH and I are the godparents. FH's brother and fiancee fight all the time. They just bought a house together in May. On Memorial Day they got into a really big fight. she called the cops on him. Needless to say, he got arrested. She does not want him back. Well they are both in my BP. She told me she still wants to be in it. I asked her. Well my FH's family told me if I continue to have a relationship with her they will not attend the wedding. Do they think it is hurting me because it is not? I explained I have been close with her for 9 years. I will not stop talking to her. I am the godmother. They have a baby together for god sake. They will always be in each others lives.

Problem is they have an order of protection against each other. I was told by someone it usually lasts for 3 months but some people say a year.

Jennielee15 Posted: Jun 13, 2011 04:20 PM

Re: I haven't been posting because of some new drama (LONG)

Honestly I would remain friends with her but I would pull her from the party and not have her at the wedding. JMHO you don't want any added drama to the wedding and since he is your fbil.... you need to be accommodating. Sorry!

Nrauch8191 Posted: Jun 13, 2011 04:22 PM

Re: I haven't been posting because of some new drama (LONG)

I was thinking of doing that but then she will not let my goddaughter be in the wedding party as well....

Bree71584 Posted: Jun 13, 2011 04:22 PM

Re: I haven't been posting because of some new drama (LONG)

yikes thats a sticky situation, im so sorry your in the middle of this. is there any possibilty that these 2 will drop everything and be able to act civil towards each other? i would hope so for the baby's sake. if not i think you should make your FH make the call regarding what to do about the BP since its his family. if it were me in this situation i would tell the girl that while i care about her friendship and would like to keep that friendship, in the interest of keeping the peace in FH's family it would be best if she didnt attend the wedding. JMO

toniann921 Posted: Jun 13, 2011 04:23 PM

Re: I haven't been posting because of some new drama (LONG)

Yikes thats a tough situation.... What does your FH say about it??

Nrauch8191 Posted: Jun 13, 2011 04:26 PM

Re: I haven't been posting because of some new drama (LONG)

My FH is fine with having her in the BP because it is his brothers fault that they broke up. My FH is really pissed at his brother right now. They both claim they can be civil with each other. BTW his brother doesn't care if she is still in the BP. It's the rest of his family.

Cataverri Posted: Jun 13, 2011 04:30 PM

Re: I haven't been posting because of some new drama (LONG)

It's a sticky situation. If an order of protection is in between you really need to pull her out of the bridal party and she needs to be understanding.

As far as the friendship goes....I think your old enough to choose your friends and they really cant pick and choose who you are allow to speak or not. What I suggest is for the sake of not making the problem any bigger and so that his family at least shows up to your wedding...just maintain your distance but explain t o her why your doing it.