I just found out..........

GT143EA Posted: Dec 21, 2008 09:32 PM

I just found out..........

That this guy that I hung out with for a veryyyy long time and would never commit to me is getting married!! I dont really care that he is getting married but.....hes getting married before me and I am so pissed!! I should be married before him!!!! He s ucks!!!!!

Dani777 Posted: Dec 21, 2008 09:35 PM

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AUGH! I hear ya with how you feel..I had a verrry simular situation....but rather it was someone I went to school with and rarely hung out with...he was a totall A S S !!!.. he's married already... like 3 months ago...but...they are already SEPARETED! Soo..I guess he didn't change much huh? Just hang in there! You're wedding is going to ROCK!!! Don't let him bring youdown!!

Mich2585 Posted: Dec 21, 2008 09:36 PM

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im sorry to hear that ... but honestly you are better off! i wouldnt want to commit to someone who didnt want to commit to me... and the guy your marrying loves you and wants to be with you! and dont worry about who is getting married first ... all that matters is that you are marrying the love of your life!

GT143EA Posted: Dec 21, 2008 09:38 PM

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Its just driving me crazy because he told me he was never going to get married! i never really believed him but.....why the h ell does he have to get married before me!!! I know its so dumb but its aggravating!

Dani777 Posted: Dec 21, 2008 09:39 PM

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Some guys are just horrible!! But, look at it THIS way.... if it wasn't for him saying he never wanted to get married... then you never may have met FH... .

GT143EA Posted: Dec 21, 2008 09:40 PM

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Posted by Dani777

Some guys are just horrible!! But, look at it THIS way.... if it wasn't for him saying he never wanted to get married... then you never may have met FH... .

very true!

MirabellaNYC Posted: Dec 21, 2008 09:40 PM

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Its always a hard pill to swallow when you find out your ex is engaged (especially if its before you!!)
But then when you think about it, aren't you glad he's not the one?? Whatever mistakes and hurdles you had with him made you that much more ready for your FH..

I was taken aback at first when my ex (we dated 5 yrs & lived together for 3) got engaged...thinking 'who would EVER want to marry him?' and then funny enough, I got engaged like 2 months later.

And through the grapevine, I heard it was even harder for him to hear about me.

Your ex is in the same boat you are. Who cares whose getting married first? It would be worse if you were single and ran into him.

GT143EA Posted: Dec 21, 2008 09:43 PM

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Posted by MirabellaNYC

It would be worse if you were single and ran into him.

Sooooo true!! OMG That would s uck!! haha! I'm dying to see her ring! I KNOW mine has to be more fabulous than hers!

MirabellaNYC Posted: Dec 21, 2008 09:44 PM

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OMG, GET IT GIRL!!!

GT143EA Posted: Dec 21, 2008 09:46 PM

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Posted by MirabellaNYC

OMG, GET IT GIRL!!!

geegee827 Posted: Dec 21, 2008 09:55 PM

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I know it's aggravating, but you have to remember everything happens for a reason.

I was with my ex on and off for 5 years. He kept telling me he was NEVER going to get married again (he had just gotten divorced when we met). We dated, broke up, dated again, broke up again....forever.

Finally, I had enough and told him to poop or get off the pot. He said he had to get off the pot - he was never getting married again no matter how much he loved me. I left (it was soooo hard to do) and 6 months later he was MARRIED!!!!!! Fast forward now 8 years later....he calls me - he's divorced and I'm engaged and he tells me he made a big mistake.

I told him that I silently thanked him every single day because if that didn't happen, I wouldn't have met FH who is truly 1,000 times the man he is and the person I am supposed to spend my life with.

Espo22 Posted: Dec 21, 2008 10:02 PM

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Posted by GT143EA

Its just driving me crazy because he told me he was never going to get married! i never really believed him but.....why the h ell does he have to get married before me!!! I know its so dumb but its aggravating!

he probably believed that at the time and how he was feeling at that time and point in his life. Dont take it personal at all. Hey i thought i was going to be the last one of my friends to get married and i ended up being the first, my parents even thought i would never get married lol. ALso, ill say that NOBODY would've guessed dh would've gotten married especially not while he was still in his 20's, i think they thought he would have a looong time to go. But somebody can just come along that ends up changing all of that.

PLUS i always say not to say that you will be the last to get married, have kids or never get married bc all those ppl end up being the first ones lol. I know my ex said the same thing to me and got mad at me for something similar. The night i met dh, earlier that night my ex called me to hang out, i said no and really wasnt looking to date anybody. I told him that i honestly wanted to be single, i was partying a couple times a week, i was having fun, and i dealt with 2 idiots back to back and just wanted nothing to do with the whole dating scene for a little while and wanted to enjoy my single life(i was in a relationship for many years so i was glad to be single) well i ate my words that night bc that night i met dh lol. So my ex had called me just from finding out i was going out with dh a few weeks and yelled at me about how much sh*t i had talked and i had said i wanted to be single and didnt want to date anybody. At the moment i said it, i did feel like that. But dh was different and i had to give him a chance

MLAngelo Posted: Dec 21, 2008 10:07 PM

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Sorry to hear that. I get why you feel that way.

meara Posted: Dec 21, 2008 10:39 PM

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Posted by GT143EA

Its just driving me crazy because he told me he was never going to get married! i never really believed him but.....why the h ell does he have to get married before me!!! I know its so dumb but its aggravating!

let him get married first - who cares. .first doesn't mean best. ... but still I know how you feel. . this guy I was dating said he NEVER wanted to be committed to anyone long term. . and now I think he's changed his mind. . still single . . and we're actually good friends now but I know it will still hurt in some way when he does settle down. . i don't think it means anything about your relationship with your FH or mine with mine. . it's just kind of a normal rx. . ...

bride2be8 Posted: Dec 21, 2008 10:47 PM

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Ohh join the club sister! Same thing happened to me. We broke up and he knocked up some girl and went on to build the house I helped him with the blueprints.

GT143EA Posted: Dec 21, 2008 10:49 PM

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Posted by bride2be8

Ohh join the club sister! Same thing happened to me. We broke up and he knocked up some girl and went on to build the house I helped him with the blueprints.

OMG! I would have burned his house down!! Just kidding I'm not that crazy