first i wanna thank the girl who posted about whitehall going out of business. me and fh went last night and we got our rings for a nice price....
my fmil is being really negative towards me and the wedding. we had asked her so many times to come to the coral house so she can see it before the wedding. we asked her like months in advance. her answer was i will have to check if im not doing anything. come taht day she never came. she dont ask us how is the planning coming along, she dont even talk about it with us or even fh. she has more money then my parents do and she hasn't even offered to help us pay anything. and she knows my parents r helping.but thats not the problem. we went to get the rings last night and we were happay and i called her and she had nothing but negative things to say. like we paid to much, we r a$$holes for paying that price. she said we should of went to the diamond factory and could of gotten them cheaper. i said she was out of her mind. she really got me sooo mad and stressed out i hung up on her and started crying. i used to be soo happy that 2010 was coming up fast. last nite i told fh i don't care if it comes or not. what should i do? fh was going to talk to her today but what if she don't change or changes cuz fh said something to her. ladies i need help please. thanks
JenBill61210
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some people just always want to rain on someone else's parade.... i would talk about your planning then with other people that you know are excited for you.
ETA: hugs!
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dont let her bother you seriously....you and ur FH are making your own family now and its her decision if she wants to be a part of it or not...im going thru the same thing... with MY mom and its not fun i know...but really dont let her bring you down bc all thats gunna happen is ur FH is gunna see how upset shes making u and hes gunna start to resent her and as soon as she sees her son starting to hate her...she will change trust me! its probly alil sick game that shes playing to see if she could break you and see if your really good enough for her son...theres always gunna be people out there that always look at the down side of situations and im guessing she might be one of them and i really dont want to be talkin bout your FMIL like that lol im sorry
my mom and i have been fighting about it bc she thinks im to young and FH doesnt have a job making 1343464574 dollars a year and blah blah and i completely stopped talking to her and her whole attitude changed real quick....once a parent sees that their own child is slipping away i swear they do a complete 180 ( or 360 whatever the saying is lol) but dont let her get to you good luck hun!
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RitasEngaged
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I am sorry to hear that Honestly you have to just ignore what others say to you and maybe just not include her in any of the details if she is just going to be a biatch about it and not be happy for you two
SummerBride10
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Just dont talk to her about the wedding.
stinenandy2010
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i learned real fast about my fmil...sounds very similar to yours. i don't talk about wedding stuff unless she ask, period. and most of all, i really just don't care what she says. this is my day and no one is going to ruin it, try to keep the same attitude. and personally, i wouldn't want her $$ bc they she will have a say in things, and that's the last thing i want.
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Trust me...you are not alone; there are several brides in the same boat. My FMIL is the same. I do not talk to her about the planing, and when she asks- I give her the bare minimum. It make sound rude, but its the only way to keep this day the happiest day of my life!
angelatp
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I agree don't talk to her about it. I am quickly finding out who my real friends and family are when it come to the wedding.
GonnaBeeMrsG
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Everyone is right I would either try to talk to her and explain how you are feeling then if that doesn't work I just would shut her out completely. She is jealous! Jealous of the two of you maybe having some feeling she cant even deal with about her son getting married. No excuse tho at all!!! Funny tho this whole process will really show you who is real and who isn't it is actually kind of sick. Something that should be the best time of your life is someone else's worst time doesn't make sense but seems to be true. A lot of us seem to have at least one person who has suprisingly not been there for us but hey at least we have eachother on here! Good luck with her and to everyone else who has that someone!!
christine2010
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like others said, at this point don't talk to her about your wedding. just wait until she asks you a question about it. then just answer the question & don't give any more information then what she asked.
you also have to realize that the mother of the groom has less to do with the wedding then everyone else.
as for the money situation, you should buy her a wedding etiquette book, then she will know what she is responsible for.
lori7570
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So sorry to hear about this. I agree with everyone as well. Am also in a similar situation....my grandmother and aunt and uncle have not even acknowledged my engagment because my fh is black. Apparently it was ok that we were together and living together, they now say they don't want their family 'integrated'.
Well screw them and all the other a$$hole family members of beatiful brides on this board!! Our weddings will be awesome and filled with the people who love us the most....and we always have each other
TheLadyJ
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the important thing is you and FH are happy, and happy with the decisions you have made as a couple.
You like your rings and reception hall and believe you have gotten a good price. What else matters?
And if she starts in with you, tell her you are happy with the decisions you made and you wish she would be to.
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Posted by SummerBride10
Just dont talk to her about the wedding.
i agree with Colleen. if you stop talking to her about the wedding, eventually she will notice... and then actually start asking YOU about it.
