I just went bridezilla on my family

Newsysuzy12 Posted: May 30, 2008 11:02 AM

I just went bridezilla on my family

I have gone so far to try to work with families on two sides of the country. Eloping and having two receptions, so neither side would be favored.
I just got an email that all of the relatives on my mothers side are not coming, because my cousin's graduation party in NYS is the week before!
I put my event after theirs, so they would not have to travel the week before their party. Now they are all not coming anyway.
GRRRRRRR

jsha20 Posted: May 30, 2008 11:11 AM

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That stinks, I am sorry.

zoe282 Posted: May 30, 2008 11:13 AM

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wow that's awful! I would've gone bridezilla also!

MEMEJOR Posted: May 30, 2008 11:13 AM

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I would have done the same

Soon2Bmarried007 Posted: May 30, 2008 11:17 AM

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i'm with you ------ a wedding is more important than a graduation party

DCW 2008 Posted: May 30, 2008 11:31 AM

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I am sorry to hear that.

RadiantBride Posted: May 30, 2008 12:06 PM

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Sorry to hear that You had more than enough reason to go Bridezilla on them

Newsysuzy12 Posted: May 30, 2008 12:52 PM

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Thank you for your support. It helps a lot!
I will have a good time no matter what, but my mother who is widowed, will not have a single relative from her side.
My late father has a large family on long island, and I think she has always felt out numbered.
The relatives live in suburban Boston, they could easily drive to CT and take the ferry!
Even if just one person had attended it would have meant a lot to her. Not to mention I changed my date to help them!
I never wanted my wedding to be the start of a family smack down.

JodyLC Posted: May 30, 2008 12:54 PM

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My wedding unfortunately became that (smackdown). Sorry to hear it happened to you...

jaep129 Posted: May 30, 2008 01:07 PM

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So sorry to hear that!

HallsLady Posted: May 30, 2008 01:10 PM

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A graduation party over a wedding

diva7531 Posted: May 30, 2008 01:11 PM

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That is insane!!!!!

I would absolutely let them know how I felt about that! Crazy!

Sorry

Brooklynbride Posted: May 30, 2008 01:13 PM

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I am so sorry that is happening to you My best to you and your mom!

I know is hard, but try to look at the positivee side of things....at least you know who you can count on in your family. If they can't make an effort for you (I know they are family) then they are not worth your time. Believe me ' what goes around, comes around'...there will be a time when they will want you to travel to them and is OK if you say no because now you have an excuse.

Are you attending the graduation?

GinaZ Posted: May 30, 2008 01:51 PM

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thats def annoying!! IMO a wedding would take priority over a graduation. But thats cus I think graduations are boring!

GinaZ Posted: May 30, 2008 01:53 PM

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Posted by Newsysuzy12

Thank you for your support. It helps a lot!
I will have a good time no matter what, but my mother who is widowed, will not have a single relative from her side.
My late father has a large family on long island, and I think she has always felt out numbered.
The relatives live in suburban Boston, they could easily drive to CT and take the ferry!
Even if just one person had attended it would have meant a lot to her. Not to mention I changed my date to help them!
I never wanted my wedding to be the start of a family smack down.

is there a relative you feel comfortable talking to about this? Maybe explain it would mean a lot to your mom if one or two of them could make it? if they are only in Boston, its a pretty lame excuse to not come. Its only 3 hours!!!!!

Newsysuzy12 Posted: May 30, 2008 02:01 PM

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I can't imagine going now...it's a party in upstate NY, the graduation is in Boston.
My mom had a good idea, invite the neighbors from where I grew up. It's a long haul from suburban DC, but if they could make it, it will give her some support.
(She was divorced from my dad, his family is great, but it's always been a bit of a disconnect between my shy southern mom and his big five towns family.However everyone will be nice to her.)
I told the relatives I was so sorry it was an inconvenient date , so I will see them at my other reception in San Francisco. Bwahahahahaha!
As always, LIw's thanks for your support!!!

Cutechef729 Posted: May 30, 2008 02:12 PM

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I'm sorry to hear about the family driving you nuts! Good luck!!

purplerain Posted: May 30, 2008 03:17 PM

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You had every reason to go bridezilla, you'll still have an amazing day without them! xx

MsNewBeauty Posted: May 31, 2008 02:41 AM

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My cousin scheduled her wedding for the same weekend that mine is. Hers is Saturday-mine is Sunday. She lives in a different state, so I know my family members will not attend both weddings in one weekend. So, the question is-whose wedding will they attend? I hope they care enough to try to attend both. Purposefully, I did not really count too many of them in; just in case. We will see....

I send my invites out on Monday, so we will see.