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Hey, you need to calm down, and dont worry about the window close it, and if it bothers you go stay at a friends house for the night.

as far as yoru FH, i bet since he is at the show, his phone is off, you need to understand that he has to spend time with his child, and you are going to be this child's step mother, you need to act like that!, you losing all sense of things isnt helping. no matter how mad you are, or no matter how mad you will get in the future, you can not call his kid names or anything, especially in front of FH, the kid is just that kid, you are an adult, you need to act like an adult and emotional wreck

and you need to look at your relationship with FH if you ca say that 'you hate him', I was in your position, getting mad all the time and stupid little things, that looking back on now i dont know why i was soo freakin pissed, i was scary, and emotional, mainly b/c i didnt knwo how to deal with feeling lonely or felt like i was excluded, and that causes resentment on FH's part for you, which could lead him to beak up with you, especially if you have tense relations with his child, you need to sit down, have a glass of wine, remember why you love fh and think abotu what you would do if you lost him, and that might make you eat your 'i hate you' words or whatever mean message you left for him, dont have a heated phone fight, calm down and wait a few days to talk to him in person, like a rational person..
do yourself and your relationship this favor, if you still want FH that is???

speaking form experience

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Posted by lovetolove

Hey, you need to calm down, and dont worry about the window close it, and if it bothers you go stay at a friends house for the night.

as far as yoru FH, i bet since he is at the show, his phone is off, you need to understand that he has to spend time with his child, and you are going to be this child's step mother, you need to act like that!, you losing all sense of things isnt helping. no matter how mad you are, or no matter how mad you will get in the future, you can not call his kid names or anything, especially in front of FH, the kid is just that kid, you are an adult, you need to act like an adult and emotional wreck

and you need to look at your relationship with FH if you ca say that 'you hate him', I was in your position, getting mad all the time and stupid little things, that looking back on now i dont know why i was soo freakin pissed, i was scary, and emotional, mainly b/c i didnt knwo how to deal with feeling lonely or felt like i was excluded, and that causes resentment on FH's part for you, which could lead him to beak up with you, especially if you have tense relations with his child, you need to sit down, have a glass of wine, remember why you love fh and think abotu what you would do if you lost him, and that might make you eat your 'i hate you' words or whatever mean message you left for him, dont have a heated phone fight, calm down and wait a few days to talk to him in person, like a rational person..
do yourself and your relationship this favor, if you still want FH that is???

speaking form experience

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well said. relax and breathe. does your FH realize that you feel this way towards his child? if not, i suggest you have a serious talk with him and explain how you feel...calmly. if you don't do this before the wedding, it will get worse and only cause complications for you and your FH. go out with your girlfriends and try speaking to him nicely when he gets home.

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Posted by lovetolove

Hey, you need to calm down, and dont worry about the window close it, and if it bothers you go stay at a friends house for the night.

as far as yoru FH, i bet since he is at the show, his phone is off, you need to understand that he has to spend time with his child, and you are going to be this child's step mother, you need to act like that!, you losing all sense of things isnt helping. no matter how mad you are, or no matter how mad you will get in the future, you can not call his kid names or anything, especially in front of FH, the kid is just that kid, you are an adult, you need to act like an adult and emotional wreck

and you need to look at your relationship with FH if you ca say that 'you hate him', I was in your position, getting mad all the time and stupid little things, that looking back on now i dont know why i was soo freakin pissed, i was scary, and emotional, mainly b/c i didnt knwo how to deal with feeling lonely or felt like i was excluded, and that causes resentment on FH's part for you, which could lead him to beak up with you, especially if you have tense relations with his child, you need to sit down, have a glass of wine, remember why you love fh and think abotu what you would do if you lost him, and that might make you eat your 'i hate you' words or whatever mean message you left for him, dont have a heated phone fight, calm down and wait a few days to talk to him in person, like a rational person..
do yourself and your relationship this favor, if you still want FH that is???

speaking form experience

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I agree with this.

Trust me there are much worse things to be pissed off about than someone who leaves windows open and spends time with their family. If you are this angry about such minor issues, then you seriously need to relax and check your emotions and act like an adult.

I'm sorry if this is harsh, and I don't care if I get flamed for saying that. But a relationship and a marriage is work. You both have to accept each other as you are, faults and all. If you can't do that, then maybe you're not ready for marriage just yet. I know you just have pure emotions talking, and we all say things we don't necessarily mean in the heat of the moment. But think about things for what they are before you get worked up about it.

There are women out there in abusive relationships and who are being cheated on, and have worse issues than someone leaving a window open and going to see their child. These women would be thankful that something like that is the most of their concerns. I'm sorry, but just trying to put things in perspective.

From my expereince, both personal and professional, yelling is never a good technique when dealing with children. Yes, children need punishment and consequences but yelling isnt effective thats all it comes down to it.

Best of luck to you and your future stepson. I hope that the two of you can get haev a healthy relationship. The rewards you receive from that relationship can outweigh anything. Nothing beats the unconditional love of a child. As adults, we really have the power to belittle a child and hurt their self esteem. 'Power trips' can damage a child so severely and although were all human and losing our temper may be normal from time to time - we need to harness our anger when dealing with such fragile emotions.

Wow, what horrible comments...

I was just venting... please go check out 'I'm Stressed'. Next time I need to get stuff off my chest, I'll definitely go elsewhere and stick here to 'Poll: what color dress pink or blue'. To judge someone's whole relationship based on a venting purge, on someone who's going through a rough time not related to their relationship. FH and I will be fine. We talk about stuff like this all the time, I freak out, he calms me down and we go on with life. He's crazy to love me what can I say and I him. I was just venting.... I was more scared about a break in and coping with my health problems that are frustrating me

I'm too young to die : )

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Posted by Mrs.Ptobe

Wow, what horrible comments...

I was just venting... please go check out 'I'm Stressed'. Next time I need to get stuff off my chest, I'll definitely go elsewhere and stick here to 'Poll: what color dress pink or blue'. To judge someone's whole relationship based on a venting purge, on someone who's going through a rough time not related to their relationship. FH and I will be fine. We talk about stuff like this all the time, I freak out, he calms me down and we go on with life. He's crazy to love me what can I say and I him. I was just venting.... I was more scared about a break in and coping with my health problems that are frustrating me

I'm too young to die : )

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I understand, when the shyt hits the fan, and sometimes a lot of things can happen at once and it makes you feel overwhelmed to the point of losing it.

My only advice is next time think before you post and choose your words carefully. True, none of us know the full extent of your relationship with your FH or his son, but we were just going based on what you wrote.

you seem very emotional, looking at your previous post, that you edited out now, and your responses to some constructive criticism. no one is calling you names or bad mouthing your relationship..you posted on a public forum, if you didnt want any feedback, from strangers then maybe talk to friends, we are going by your emotional outburst, i mean if you can say you hate your FH and call his kid names on a public forum, then expect us to believe you love him, its not us you have to convince, we are merely helping with what lil info we have...you sai dyou left FH a mean message, now that is not appropriate when he is at a show with his child, that is an example fo the info you gave us...

and I went through this, I posted on here, got some great advise, hard to hear but I tell you, sometimes the things that are hardest to hear, the the things you should be listening to the most!!!

for your health problems, I hope they answer your questions in a positive way..

best of luck..

honestly, i dont think ne of us meant to offend but it is a public forum and you wanted feedback - we gave it to you - thats all. no ones 'judging' you - we're just commenting on what you wrote earlier. it seems as if you didnt like our responses, which is why you deleted your original 'venting' post.
In the future, if you share a rant please expect a variety of responses. when you ask for 2 cents were gonna give em.


I hope you feel better!

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Posted by Mrs.Ptobe

PS...

MY FUTURE STEP CHILD LOVES ME!!!!!!!

His own mother should wish she gets the respect I do from him!!!

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This is getting kind of freaky!!!

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Posted by lipglossjunky73

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Posted by Mrs.Ptobe

PS...

MY FUTURE STEP CHILD LOVES ME!!!!!!!

His own mother should wish she gets the respect I do from him!!!

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This is getting kind of freaky!!!

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hahaha

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Posted by lipglossjunky73

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Posted by Mrs.Ptobe

PS...

MY FUTURE STEP CHILD LOVES ME!!!!!!!

His own mother should wish she gets the respect I do from him!!!

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This is getting kind of freaky!!!

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um...yup..

hold me...I'm scared!