i love my boyfriend so much but..

his family is tearing us apart. they r truly evil pple. his brother, brothers wife and his mother have started hateful rumors about me..they have been going around saying that my boyfriend is 'one smart cookie cause hes using his girlfriend (me) for sex and to support him), and if he was serious about her he would marry her, but obviously hes getting what he wants from her'... can u believe how horrible they are!!

first of all me and him have been together for 3 yrs, we live together. we r only 23 yrs old!! but b/c we r not married they dont think we r serious about each other. when all these lies came to light my boyfriend confronted his family and all they did was deny that anything was ever said like that but they couldnt really put up a fight cause he had 3 pple to vouch for the fact that it was infact said about me, from them!

i truly hate these pple and i kno that if me and him do get married they will b a part of my so called family. i truly hate them and am willing to never see them even if my bf does wanna c them i could careless if i m not there. i just dont kno how to stop being hurt and annoyed at them. and sometimes i feel like if i wasnt with him then obviously they wouldnt exist. i dont want this to tear us apart but his ruthless family is always on my mind. anyone experiencing horrible inlaw issues?

I can't relate because I don't have in-law issues but just wanted to wish you the best.

That can't be easy to deal with - you and FH def. have to stick together on these issues

Kinda sorta know what you're going through. FH and I have had our share of problems with his family but in the end it comes down to the two of you - only. We've tried to cut ties with people but other family members make it very hard. Funny how everyone is so concerned with how they are affected yet they never consider how the people involved feel. All I can say is this - you and your FH need to be very clear about what is happening and what you expect. For us - we just co-exist with the family. KWIM?

It's rough; but you have to be very open with your BF and make sure he knows how you feel about his family. Unfortunately if you two plan on getting married, this will be a constant issue between the you.

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Posted by Kriss2c



It's rough; but you have to be very open with your BF and make sure he knows how you feel about his family. Unfortunately if you two plan on getting married, this will be a constant issue between the you.

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I agree. My mother told me I was not only marrying the man, but the family. This is unfortunately a huge issue, one which I am sure will arise again if they do not embrace you two as a couple. If you have children, would you fight to keep them away from these grandparents? Something to think about. Are you engaged yet? If not, maybe they are wondering why he has not proposed if you have discussed it openly between you two or he with them (again, none of their business, but perhaps this is their train of thought...).