I love my MOH!!! is the moral of a very long rant....

Yesterday I had a really, really bad day. Even gave the ering back to FH. All over the flower girls dress...yes...a stupid dress. FSIL is pulling her daughter out of the wedding because she will not be in a white dress. I am not a fan of the mini bride flower girl. Our theme is black and red/passion. MOH in black, girls in apple and GM should be in black with red shirts, black vests, ties. FG would be in black with red sash and long bow, tying the whole thing together. Well I ran into Target yesterday afternoon and saw a really cute dress. Took pics, sent them, then asked dress size, bought 3 sizes so one would fit. Well, while FH and I are eating a meal I actually cooked so we could discuss wedding things, FSIL talks to the other brother, he calls FH to warn him of pending fiasco, then FSIL's hubby beeps in and starts beef, then FSIL gets on phone. Ends will FH saying he's going to bed...it's 8pm!! He won't talk to me. I call FSIL...she starts reaming me. Ends up with no FG. Well, FG is FHs god daughter and he spoils her rotten!! It's cute though. So I put her on speaker so FH can hear how she is talking to me. She ends it with, I'm not made, you just don't want a FG, I don't know how you could be jealous of a 6 year old. She will not be in the bp, but I will buy her a beautiful dress and she will be absolutely stunning.
I couldn't take it!! FH defends his family, right or wrong, no matter what!! This was clearly killing him and it was obvious to me that I was never going to be his number one. Gave him the ring and went to my sister/MOH.

Thank God she was home. I nearly collapsed. Couldn't breathe, thought my head and hear was going to explode.

She called FH and really cleared the air. I was able to go home and have him hold me and he put the ring back on my finger and asked me to marry him all over again.

I've heard that the 100 days before the big day can be hell...I am a firm beliver of this now.

I know this is a rant but I'd love to hear if anyone else experienced any of these problems.

Did anyone ever question dress choice or colors?
Did anyone ever pull FG out because they didn't like the dress the bride picked out?

Oh and as for the original dress, apparently we discussed it when we went dress shopping in May anddddddddddddddddd my MOH sent out an awesome newsletter and she included all of the dresses, colors, model numbers with it. Why didn't FSIL mention she didn't like the color scheme in May, or August when the newsletter came out???????

Bottom line is: my MOH was there for me when I needed her the most and I love her more today than I did before because of it.

im sooo sorry... thats really unfair to you... Its your BP you are the one that decides what they wear not their moms or anyone else... i totally agree with you that if there was a problem now isnt the time to bring it up...

i did have a problem with someone not liking the orange... but shes 14, and she is very light skinned with freckles and she thought she would look stupid in orange... so she tried it on and we actually ended up going with the floral rather than the full orange...

im glad everything worked out with you and FH i would be very upset not to see you on here anymore!!!!!

WOW ... yay for MOH!!! and that's good that everything is good with your FH... you need a

YAY for your MOH! That is so great you had someone to turn to in the midst of all this.

I am so sorry your FSIL is acting like a beast. I too hate when flower girls wear white. Ugh! Isn't FH upset that his sister is holding back his goddaughter from being in the wedding? I wouldn't put it past FSIL to dress the girl in a white dress for your wedding just to spite you. ugh.....

Tell your FSIL to shove it. Her daughter will have a wedding of her own, this is YOURS and if she doesn't want to do what you want her to then not only does she not have to be the FG, none of them have to come at all!!!

Sorry...FSIL drama hits me real close to home


As for your MOH....LOVE HER!!

I'm so sorry that you had to deal with that! I wish I had some advice to give you, but I haven't had an experience like that.


YAY for your MOH though! And YAY for getting proposed too again

Your FSIL is being a selfish b***h. She needs to get over herself, seriously. I hate sh*t like that!!! It seems like your whole color scheme fits in with your FG dress color, and it even sounds like she could wear the dress again!

UGH. So sorry you're going through this!!

omg i am sorry you went thru this and i hope things are a bit better now, I haven't deal with anything like that yet maybe because i haven't hit my 100 days but umm I don't know ....there is just one of the bms who still hasn't sent me the measurements so they can just order my dresses and its annoying the crap out of me.. but i'm not going to let this bother me as much ...try to stay calm i know things like that bother you but i think its more the fact that fh stayed in his family's side...hopefully you'll be able to talk about this and discuss this its important! feel better sweetie

Thanks so much girls!!

It's really helpful to hear opinions of 'third party' people.

I am willing to bet the house that if FG is out, FSIL will have her in a white dress anyway.

If anyone is reading this later on, I'll check back for your ideas/comments/experience.

TIA

Thank goodness for MOHs. Hang in there! She's making something out of nothing!