I made a horrendous mistake when choosing attendants

I made a horrendous mistake when choosing attendants

Ok, today I asked my good friend to be my MOH and I asked her husband to be in the party as well. This did not sit well my fiancee at all. He was upset that I did not discuss with him first. The original plan was that I would ask once we picked the place. However, I knew that she would be in my bridal party anyway. Anyway, my fiancee is upset because he doesn't know my friend's husband as well as I know my friend (understandable) My fiance does not get along with his brothers, and doesn't even know if he wants him at his wedding. I though he would be okay with this otherwise I would never have asked. Here's the other side of it. We are having his sisters as bridesmaids, one of his sister I've never met and the other one I have only met twice. This is not bothering me at all, I think that's why I'm surprised that this upset him so much. I just feel terrible about it...

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Please dont hate me, but I think he has a bit of a right to be upset. A wedding party should consist of people you are close with. And if he isnt close with this guy, I understand why he wouldnt want him. I can also see why you wouldnt want his sisters. But was that something you guys discussed before making a decision? It just seems like you may have blind sided him.

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I agree so sorry. If dh would've told one of his friends gf to be one of my bm's without asking me i would be a bit upset. And the thing with his sisters, with family its usually a bit more understandable, but i hope that was discussed with you before too.

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I agree with the above posters. I think you just have to sit down with your FH and discuss what happened and what a good solution would be.

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Yea I agree as well. Since this is BOTH of your weddings, everything should be discussed between the two of you. You should have asked him first about the bridal party. And when it comes to family, like his sisters, its now your family as well so sometimes we need to make sacrifcies. I am sure you have been dreaming of this day forever and just want to do what you have dreamt of but your FH should be consulted first.

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i agree as well. the bridal party should be discussed prior to asking anyone.

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I know. I don't mind that his sisters are in it all I welcome it. I felt very bad for what I did. I made an error in judgement because I felt I was asking them both as close friends of me, not realizing that my FH would be upset about. I thought he would be okay with that choice. But we discussed it and he's not angry more. I definitely will not be making any decisions for us both without talking about it first...

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ITA with everyone as well.

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Me too, in agreement. I hope it works out in the end.