I've been going back and forth on this for months now. I don't want to lose any part of my maiden name - not first, middle or last. And I didn't want to hypenate because it looks weird. And I didn't want to make my madien name my middle name because I would still, basically, be using my FI's name as my name, with just a little inital in the middle. But I want to share my future family's name as well, espeically since almost none of the mothers in my family share their children's last names.
Do I change my name and just use my maiden name professionally? Do I not change my name and use my FI's name socially? I've decided to hypenate and just do both - use my maiden name professionally and my FI's name with social/kid situations. This way we all have the same last name legally, but my last name initial is the same. I just told my FMIL, so now it's set.
YAY!!!!
Misstene
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That's exactly what I'm doing... congrats!
xjulietx
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I think I am going to do that as well. I think maybe as time goes by, I might drop my maiden name, but I am not ready to give it up yet and I still want to be connected to FH by name. I haven't told FMIL yet, though. I think I will let FH do that. She speaks English but this may be a tricky thing to understand and better off explained in her native tongue.
Misstene
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I have separation anxiety (kidding) and I don't want to lose my last name!!! It's SO cool!
prncssrachel
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It's actually very customary in many cultures to hyphenate! I, on the other hand, am not going to hyphenate, but will keep my maiden name as my middle name, since I don't have one
kathleenmarie
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sounds like a good solution!
NYCHICK
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I am hyphenating as well. It was the best solution I could co,me up with as well.
valentinesbride
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I just got my marriage license..on Friday , and I asked the lady behind the counter so many questions about what I should do as far as 'last names' go. Well I changed mine to FH's name...hyphenating would be sort of comical, since I am jewish and he is Italian and it's obvious in the names lol The lady informed me, that a name becomes yours by 'use'...I will use my maiden name at work, (teacher) until, the new name starts to take hold...
BlondeJD
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I've been going through the same debate. I like my last name and I'm actually the last one since my dad (now deceased) was the only boy and I'm his only child. Primarily, though, it's a business decision. By the time I get married, I'll have been practicing law for 1 year and I don't want to lose any contacts I made in law school because they don't recognize my last name--they know me as JC, not JH. Since everyone keeps telling me how important 'networking' is, I feel like I'll be at a disadvantage if I completely get rid of my last name. So, I think I might either hyphenate or just use my maiden name professionally and my married name privately. The middle name idea is still on the table though :) Good thing I have til 2005!!
Jax430
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I have been giving this a lot of thought. I have decided to hyphenate my name professionally for now at least, and to use my FH's last name socially. I'm not quite ready to give up my last name!
