I might have to hit someome today

nferrandi Posted: Sep 28, 2004 03:08 PM

I might have to hit someome today

Ok, my day is not going so well. My uncle, my dad's only brother, calls me this morning to tell me that he and my aunt probably won't be flying up from Florida for my wedding. They got a little damage from the hurricanes and need to deal with the insurance. Ok, now I know full well that they lost a couple of shingles and uprooted some palm trees, but that's about it. So my parents feel they're just making excuses and never planned on coming. About an hour later, my cousin, their son, calls to tell me he won't be able to come from California. Mind you, my parents bought him a non-refundable ticket YESTERDAY! Now my parents are all upset/ofended/hurt/insulted/etc...
Then about 20 minutes ago, one of FH's groomesmen/best friends calls me and tell me that his cousins are coming to visit from Italy the day before my wedding, and since his other cousins had replied yes but now can't come, his mom invited these Italian relatives to take their place. I was like WHAT?! These are not tockets to a broadway show that you pass off if you can't use them. If you can't come, you don't get to substitute strangers.
I am rip-roaring mad right now. I told FH that these people ar NOT coming. They didn't even have the courtesy to call us and discuss the situation, they just thought they could do whatever they want. I'm sorry, but there were a lot of friends I was unable to invite, there's no way I'm paying for starngers who don't even speak English!

Sweetness Posted: Sep 28, 2004 03:11 PM

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I feel YOUR PAIN!!!

4 people have cancelled with the lamest excuses, but letting subs come to wedding..oh boy..here's more

Julestrd Posted: Sep 28, 2004 03:12 PM

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sorry this is happening to you

May05Bride Posted: Sep 28, 2004 03:18 PM

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WOW, so sorry this is happening to you!

Blu-ize Posted: Sep 28, 2004 03:22 PM

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oh boy....I think the Earth moved!

ANA6178 Posted: Sep 28, 2004 03:56 PM

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Poor dear, it will be ok. But that was so shady about your cousin and your parents paying for his tickets.

Try and relax.

It will all be ok come 10/9/04.

nferrandi Posted: Sep 28, 2004 04:01 PM

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I just spoke to my FMIL and told her in no uncertain terms, that these Italian people are NOT coming to the wedding. The family thinks it's ok so long as they cover their plates, and that's not the case. I don't care about the money, but they are not going to use my wedding as a way to entertain their guests. I already have close to 200 people and that's more than enough.

didianita Posted: Sep 28, 2004 04:03 PM

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I hear you, It happened to me too, and it's FAMILY right?
my uncle from jersey didn't RSVp until 2 weeks after the RSVP date, the invitation was for 4, and guess what! his wife wrote down 8!!!! 8????? that was horrible!!! I called her and told her I couln't do that! i had paid for only 5 of them, she said but my mom is coming to visit with my grandmother, and my nephew wants to bring his g/f.....hello?????
I didn't know what to do, so I told her ok, so i had to chang my seating arrangement, talk to the hall, and do everything to accomodate then, and you know what happened? only my uncle, the wife and my cousin showed up!!!!!

nferrandi Posted: Sep 28, 2004 04:23 PM

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I will NOT accomodate these people because they are NOT family. It's really friends of FMIL that are trying to pull this bullsh!t. I think I made it very clear to her that I was NOT going to stand for this.

tourist Posted: Sep 28, 2004 05:12 PM

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Good for you!

We ended up inviting the secretaryathe school wher a FMIL works at the last minutebased ona guilt trip.

First FMIL insisted this woman was on her list
(which I never saw b/c it had shower info too) & that all along she thought this woman was invited, yet I never heard any mention of her before.

She never made it to the master list.
Then she tried to say she only took her off the shower list, not the wedding list, b/c FH was ADAMANT (she keptusignthat word in anannoyed way) that the shower list be kept smal l& only closefriends &family

She said this like it was such a bizzarre concept & used that to basically guilt trip us into inviting the stupid secretary ladyto the wedding.

Fh doesn't even know her & Fmil keps saying, well he should . . .he went to that school . . .
Yeah in 8th GRADE!!!

nferrandi Posted: Sep 28, 2004 05:19 PM

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People are friggin' crazy! Where did these people grow up that this is the appropriate way to handle things?

stacy&joe Posted: Sep 28, 2004 06:24 PM

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OMG! All I can say is

I have a story - if it helps - to let you know you're not alone. My best friend got married last year, and invited the parents of our childhood friends who were also invited to the wedding. Nice touch. Well, one set of parents RSVP'd no, then called two or three days before the wedding to say they were coming, but not to tell her son, because they wanted to surprise him. Yeah, like my friend was concerned with surprising HER son THREE days before her own wedding. My friend called the hall, changed the seating arrangements, and then THEY NEVER SHOWED. Never sent a gift either. On top of it all, this same mother was invited to the shower, and CHEATED on the games, because she wanted to win the prize. $10 cute soaps from Target. Unbelieveable.