A few Weeks before I got engaged I went dress shopping with a girl from my job. She was planning a simple wedding SO we went to David's bridal. When I was there I saw a dress on sale and I loved the fit. I called my soon to be fh and asked if I could buy it even though we were not engaged yet. ( I knew he had the ring but need a perfect time to ask). He said yes but his only request was not to tell anyone. I agreed and asked the girl I was with to do the same. well my maid of honor has a big mouth so I did not tell her. Since getting engaged I have chosen a different dress. Well my Moh found out I bought a dress and I didn't say yes or no. I just replied how excited I was that we were going dress shopping .Well I guess she didn't believe me because she pretended to be me and called David's bridal and got my info and printed it up and placed it on my desk!!!!! What should I do !!!! I tried to explain to her my fh wishes but I am so mad that she went behind my back!! Im sorry it 's such a long post !
Espo22
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WOW that was wrong of her and she went too far...You need to tell her to respect your privacy and that it was an agreement between you and your Fh but also say that you don't need to explain yourself and that she went too far, that is going overboard
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sorry to crash-Im bored I would tell her that you didnt want ANYONE to know!!! And being that she is upset with you you are upset with her-she went a little too far with printing up your info. She could have just said i dont believe you
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Wow. First, I would call Davids Bridal and ask them to please place your info under password protection. I don't know what kind of relationship you have with your MOH, but I would tell her how hurt you are that she would be so devious as to call Davids Bridal and get your info. It's almost stalker-freaky. No, to me, it IS stalker-freaky. Then, I would tell her to please keep it to herself, if she had any kind of feelings towards your feelings, she would not go blabbing it. That is so disrespectful of her. I have a forked tongue so I wouldn't be able to keep my cool about it, but good luck....
Sidebar - it reminds me of the Jets song: You must have heard it, from my best friend.... She's always talking when she should be listening. Can't keep a secret to save her life, but still I trusted her with all I felt inside... (It was on a JEM tape that I got with the Jem car - she was truly, truly outrageous!)
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Wow she actually called them and got your info!!! She has some nerve. I would have been so pissed. And she is supposed to be your MOH!!! Thats really is very rude and she should not have done that. IF you didn't want to tell her thats your business and she should leave it like that.
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The fact that she called Davids Bridals and printed up your info I think that kind of explains why FH didn't want her to know. I know you love her but you are getting married now. And this marraige/engagement is about you and FH. If you didn't want to mention you are engaged yet then that's your business. You didn't even have the ring yet. So I don't blame you for not telling people yet!
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Posted by Autumn08
The fact that she called Davids Bridals and printed up your info I think that kind of explains why FH didn't want her to know.
you should print THIS out and show her - what kind of person does that!
obviously i dont know your relationship with this girl - but if my MOH did that - she may not be my MOH anymore - i mean i am excited to see my friends' dresses but i totally respect their privacy - i mean its not that big of a deal to me i guess!! wow - thats creepy!
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GASP! No wayyyyyyyyyyyy!
(First of all, Jenn, I TOTALLY know that song! I LOVED the jets!!!!!!!!! And Jem!!)
But that is absolutely ridiculous. I don't know if I could have a MOH who would do something like that behind my back....
but that's just me.
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Wow, your MOH thinks she's living in a soap opera. People do that in real life? That's just cruel. I get that her feelings were hurt, but to retaliate by trying to make you feel bad... two wrongs don't make a right, you know? But, wait. You weren't wrong. You had a secret, and so what? Just because she's your best friend or whatever doesn't mean she's entitled to know stuff about your life you didn't want her to know.
Advice? I guess I'd tell her that she hurt my feelings, and explain why I didn't tell her in the first place - even though she did something so horrid, if she really was my best friend and nothing like this ever happend before, I'd try to get over it and open up to her and give her the explanation she probably feels like she deserves.
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Yeah dude...that's kinda nuts. I would jst tell her that it was a secret...but honestly- you may want to rethink why she's your MOH if you can't trust her with info like that....
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Why did she feel the need to even do that? IMO I would have to ask her to step down as my MOH. You knew she couldn't keep a secret, but now you know you can't trust her. And why, WHY would she even care if you already bought your dress. She has no right to be mad.... YOU DO! And I would let her know ASAP how pissed of you are. GOOD LUCK!!
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i cannot believe she would go that far & get that info!!! i would be so mad!!! but again thats me!!!
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Eww that's really catty...why is this girl your MOH again? I honestly wouldn't want someone like that to be the closest person to me in my wedding party. I don't think what you did was wrong by not telling anyone about buying your dress, your FH asked you not to and you respected that. She should respect that too, I think you should explain that to her.
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i mean not for nothing, but what if you wanted to keep your dress a secret from everyone and not let anyone see it until the big day....best friends are supposed to be the people we don't have to explain things to because they just understand....now here i can see why she's feeling betrayed or upset or whatever, but she has to get over it and what she did with david's bridal totally crossed the line...how would she feel if you went behind her back and did something like that....people really need to put themselves in other people's shoes before jumping to conclusions and doing whatever they were gonna do...good luck!!!
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Thanks ! I feel the same way all you girls do. after much thought she is NOT going going to be my MOH. I am not sure we are going to invite her to the wedding !!!!! This is going to be a long year
LuvMyAlfonse
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Why is it that weddings bring out the absolute worst in people???
Good luck to you, hang in there!!
megzzie
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Wow, I can't believe she did that! She went way too far printing out your info from David's Bridal. Good choice in choosing a different MOH.
MikeandJess
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Wow that's like lifetime movie special crazy. I would have a serious talk with her
heatherandrichie
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I'm confused. Why was MOH so upset? B/c you didn't tell her or you didn't bring her? Couldn't you just tell her 'what does it matter? You're getting a new dress anyways.' And, man she's sneaky
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Posted by DavaDay
Wow, your MOH thinks she's living in a soap opera. People do that in real life? That's just cruel. I get that her feelings were hurt, but to retaliate by trying to make you feel bad... two wrongs don't make a right, you know? But, wait. You weren't wrong. You had a secret, and so what? Just because she's your best friend or whatever doesn't mean she's entitled to know stuff about your life you didn't want her to know.
Advice? I guess I'd tell her that she hurt my feelings, and explain why I didn't tell her in the first place - even though she did something so horrid, if she really was my best friend and nothing like this ever happend before, I'd try to get over it and open up to her and give her the explanation she probably feels like she deserves.
Wow. . .I totally agree w/ you Dava. First of all for someone to 'pretend' to be you is absolutely ludicrous. I don't think that people think things through when they do things like that! Wow. . .I don't know what I would do . . .but I think that you need to talk things out.
