I need FMIL advice...

My FMIL is driving me batcrap crazy. She calls multiple times a day, texts incessantly, and is just extraordinarily irritating. She throws a pity party for herself at every opportunity but pretends like she's superwoman. I, cannot stand her anymore. If my mother called FH as much as his mother calls me, he'd have an effin aneurism.

I asked him to kindly ask her to back off and he said he did but clearly either he did not, or she's not respecting his wishes because SHE CALLED ME AT 6:38 THIS MORNING. Who the hell calls someone that early?!?! I'm a teacher so I was on the way to work, but still.

We got into a major fight a couple of weeks ago and she basically told me I'm a horrible person and that because she doesn't have a boyfriend or a husband that I have to be there to support her. I did not sign up for that. I signed up for supporting FH, not his lunatic family.

So, I ask for your advice... How do I go about telling her to knock this crap off??


tl;dr: FMIL is constantly up my butt and I need advice about how to get her to leave me alone.

Oh boy and I thought I had it bad lol. If FH will not stand up to her for you, and kindly see if she can calm down, hey maybe even take the blame like a good FH, then I suggest you blame it on the wedding. Like ooh I'm just so stressed with the wedding I need a little me time or I'm sooo busy planning/so stressed I can't really talk right now..and hope she gets the hint? Not sure if that will work since she seems stubborn. And being direct is going to make her even angrier so you probably just have to (nicely) ignore her. Talk to her only the minimum that you have to and hope she wrens herself of you. Or get her a boyfriend for gods sake lol

Best wishes in this sticky situation.

It's a tough situation! I'm sorry you're going through that. I know people can get a little crazy around weddings. What was your relationship with her like before this? I imagine that it would be great for you and FH to be on the same page about him offering you support and helping figure out what it is that she wants from you (which it sounds like hes trying). If i know anything its that you definitely cant change her - but maybe changing youre response. Dont pick up if you cant/dont want to, call back when you're calm, take deep breaths (?) and drink more (?) jk on the last two, or not. She may not stop but at least if you and FH are able to vent/ cope together it may help you guys. What is she saying when she calls you? Maybe she just wants to feel included? the FMIL-DIL dynamic is tough, so i'm learning.

Also,sometimes people are just crazy!

Hang in there!

Sorry. Sometimes I cant turn off my therapist mode. haha.