I feel like I need to call off my wedding. It's never been the smoothest of relationships, but I do love him. I'm just feeling like it's going to be a rough ride and I honestly don't think he loves me. Everytime he gets angry he tells me that 'this is a mistake, we should never have done this'. What do I do - how do I do this?!
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I feel like I need to call off my wedding. It's never been the smoothest of relationships, but I do love him. I'm just feeling like it's going to be a rough ride and I honestly don't think he loves me. Everytime he gets angry he tells me that 'this is a mistake, we should never have done this'. What do I do - how do I do this?!
first off sorry to hear this. But if he constantly says that it is better to end t now then end in divorce a few years later with kids in tow. it wil probablybethe mostdifficult thing inyourlife to do.Bt you must ifyou feel that this is a mistake listen to your instincts & gut. they always tell you the truth! Good luck to you! Keep strong.
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I am sorry you are going threw this and that you are feeling like this. This should be a happy time for you and your fh. Are you two stressed out about the wedding? Are to two fitting about wedding plans? I think the two of you should go out and have a nice evening together just spend time together out and do something. Do not talk about the wedding have a wedding free night. If that doesn't work then sit down with him and talk to him and work things out. Wedding planning is very stressful. Guys can say things they don't mean out of being mad. I bet you your fh does love you and does want to marry you. Guys just handle things differently then we do. I hope everything works out for you.
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It goes back much further than the wedding planning. As I look back it has always been rough, but I'm the type that I won't give up with trying everything to fix the problems. And I don't know if I have it in me to do this anymore or to be told over and over again that 'we should have never done this'! I'm sorry , this is a terrible to thing to post, but I'm very confused and stressed.
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have you tried couples therapy? If he won't go, maybe you should talk to someone by yourself to help make the decision on what you should do.
Marriage is not easy and there will always be tought times, it is how you get through those times that makes a marriage last.
I am almost 40 and was almost engaged once before when I was 25, looking back now I know I would be divorced. If you are young, I suggest waiting and seeing what happens, there is no rush most of my friends got married in their mid 30's and had children in their late 30's or early 40's and they are all happy they didn't marry the one they dated in their 20's.
Good Luck with whatever you choose. But I suggest talking to a professional to help make the decision.
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If you are feeling this now and he is saying it is a mistake then WAIT, DO NOT GET MARRIED!!! It is better to put this off now then for it to end in divorce. Believe me I know from experience....raising children on your own is not an easy thing both emotionally and financially. And if you have kids they will feel it too!!!!!
Take a break from one another and if you feel relieved and relaxed then you know it wasn't meant to be. But then again you may both feel that you really love one another and want to be together. The wedding planning will be a whole different process then because you will actually be happy and not stressing about if it is the right thing to do or not.
So please take it from someone who has been there wait!
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I am sorry you are going through this but I think you really have alot to think about and decide. If he says that maybe you should consider taking a break now to figure it out before its too late and you are married and possibly have kids. I know its very hard to think about. You should have a serious talk with him, even if he is saying this out of anger, you should never say that to someone you love and def. not repeatedly. Perhaps some time apart will do you guys some good to figure things out. I wish you all the best
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im so sorry u r going through this right now ..my advice would to really take a step back,maybe some time apart and really figure out what u want b4 u get married..u should not go into marriage with a single doubt in ur heads whatsoever..good luck
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..u should not go into marriage with a single doubt in ur heads whatsoever..good luck
I totally agree if you are having doubts then you are not making the right decision good luck sweetie we are all here for you
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..u should not go into marriage with a single doubt in ur heads whatsoever..good luck
I totally agree if you are having doubts then you are not making the right decision good luck sweetie we are all here for you
I feel like marriage is a huge step and you really should be 110% sure that this is the right thing for you to do and the right person. If you are having doubts you should definitely give it some serious thought and talk to FH. I hope everything works out in the end.
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Wow I am very sorry to hear this, but like everyone else I truly feel that if these problems have been occurring for awhile and they are not wedding related and you feel as though you can't do this forever and he tells you it was a mistake then end it now before it is too late. Whey did he propose to you if he says it is a mistake to be with you??
I think it sounds like you need someone who feels blessed to be with you everyday!! I am so sorry you are hurting, but I think you know the right thing for you.
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Sweetie, I'm so sorry to hear this. Praying for you!! Mary MOB
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I'm very sorry you're going through this. Have you tried couples counseling? Or even just couseling for yourself? It might help you voice your opinion and make a more informed decision on your future.
I will say this - if you have any doubt, better to postpone the wedding than be unhappy.
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Follow your heart....if it's telling you to get out, then get out before you get in too deep....
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i am soo sorry... listen sometimes in life things happen for a reason... just think about how ur life would be with him and if he is truly the man you want to grow old with... i am praying for u
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I am sooo sorry you are going through this... If you are feeling this way DURING the engagement, the marriage won't make everything better. I would def. wait it out and see if this really IS what the two of you want.... Hope that everything works out for you...
