I NEED HELP PLEASE -

KYBride09 Posted: Apr 23, 2009 11:56 AM

I NEED HELP PLEASE -

I'm having a lot of problems with one of my BM. She is complaining about everything; wanting better flowers, she wants a shorter dress, don't like the shoes, dont have money, etc. etc.
I have 1 Jr.BM, 2 BM 1 MOH. They are walking down in pairs (guy & girl). However, I'm really thinking of just telling her not to be part of it. I think is the best thing to do.

So I was thinking of having the rest of the girls walk by themself. My question is, do the GM walk by themself as well first, then the girls??? or do the GM just stand with FH and don't walk down??
Thanks ladies!

Mrs Z To Be Posted: Apr 23, 2009 11:58 AM

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From what I have seen , it can be either way.

At my sis's wedding the guys walked down quickly, single file, then the ladies went down.

At my friends wedding, the guys were already up front.

asg450 Posted: Apr 23, 2009 12:08 PM

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I've seen weddings where the GM's walk down after the grand parents and parents and then the BM's come down the aisle. The GM's walked fast down the aisle while the BM's walked slowly.

jtgarsik Posted: Apr 23, 2009 12:10 PM

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as for walking down the aisle, u can do whatever u want. i've seen it done a million ways.. but let me ask u - is this a good friend of urs?? if she is, instead of 'kicking her out' (which u may feel bad & regret later on even though it doesn't seem like that now)..i would just bluntly ask..'Ya know - u don't seem to be happy with anything..but this is OUR wedding..meaning me & fh..and everything about it is what makes ME happy. do you really want to be a part of it? because i feel like u don't..and i'd rather u come as a happy guest than a grumpy bridesmaid who isn't supporting me or my decisions'...

it will either a) give her a reality check & she'll stop acting like an a**hole

or b) she'll say she's dropping out & u wont have to blame for 'kicking her out'.

good luck w/it..i had some difficult bridesmaids too..the reality is that many of them just wont understand untill it's their day. hopefully ur situation gets better..especially if she's a good friend of urs.

megan_gallagher Posted: Apr 23, 2009 12:11 PM

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you're better off pairing everyone up then one BM gets an extra GM, because even if the GM go first or just stand at the alter when you are married and everyone walks to the back of the church you will face the problem of having an extra GM. My friend had a similar problem, she had 2 MOHs, 1 best man, 4 bm's and 5 gm's... so it equaled 6 on each side... but the bstman stayed at the alter, the BMs were escorted, one with 2 men and the MOHS walked together, they exited as pairs. then when they were announced at the reception they went 2MOH's 1 bstmn, and pairs, with one BM having 2 gents.

rocketsummer17 Posted: Apr 23, 2009 12:24 PM

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You can have two GM walk down with one BM...I have seen that before, it was nice

KYBride09 Posted: Apr 23, 2009 01:18 PM

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Posted by jtgarsik

as for walking down the aisle, u can do whatever u want. i've seen it done a million ways.. but let me ask u - is this a good friend of urs?? if she is, instead of 'kicking her out' (which u may feel bad & regret later on even though it doesn't seem like that now)..i would just bluntly ask..'Ya know - u don't seem to be happy with anything..but this is OUR wedding..meaning me & fh..and everything about it is what makes ME happy. do you really want to be a part of it? because i feel like u don't..and i'd rather u come as a happy guest than a grumpy bridesmaid who isn't supporting me or my decisions'...

it will either a) give her a reality check & she'll stop acting like an a**hole

or b) she'll say she's dropping out & u wont have to blame for 'kicking her out'.

good luck w/it..i had some difficult bridesmaids too..the reality is that many of them just wont understand untill it's their day. hopefully ur situation gets better..especially if she's a good friend of urs.

Thank you for your advise. I will talk to her about it again and will ask her. I think it's best for her to drop out instead of me kicking her out. I would never complain about the dress, shoes, etc if I was a BM; you're there to support your friend on her special day.
I will talk to her again.

KYBride09 Posted: Apr 23, 2009 01:21 PM

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I thought the 2gm for 1bm is for a bigger bridal party. i would only have 1 bm

debzy Posted: Apr 23, 2009 01:49 PM

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Both ways are right. It's your personal preference.

JAAMS Posted: Apr 23, 2009 04:59 PM

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I'm sorry that you're going through this.

I don't think there is one 'right' way to have everyone enter. We want to have everyone walk the aisle, but are def doing it in pairs since we are having a large (26 person) bridal party. Although the FG & RB will probably walk by themselves. We're also having 2 more BMs than GMs, so I think 2 of the BMs will be paired up and walk down together.