i need some advice re: RB and FG

okay so this is a little complicated but i need some advice. my mother brings this up like once a day and i want some honest opinions on this. . .

my FH has 3 nieces they will be around 10,6 and 2 for the wedding.

I have two nieces that will be 8 and 2. And two nephews who will be 7 and 2.

Now I am having FH's 10 yr old niece as a junior bridesmaid. His 6 year old niece as a FG and MY 8 yr old niece as a FG.

THat leaves out my two nephews, one niece and one of his nieces.

Here is the thing - my FH said he didnt want a lot of kids in the wedding bc it will be chaos ( he is a grumpy old man, i know ) i know it is adorable to have little kids in the wedding but since i have plenty of older kids I dont see the big deal. . . so i was going to leave the younger ones OUT of it. . . which I thought would be no big deal

NOW my mom is FREAKING out that I am not having my 2 yr old niece in it bc that is my brother's only kid. . . but if I include her I feel that is opening the door to 'why cant MY two year old be in it' and then the next thing you know I will have every child under the age of 5 in the tri state area in my wedding. . .

i dont see what the big deal is i seriously doubt the 2 year olds will care even a LITTLE about being in it!! but my mom brings it up every day. . .

so my question is: did anyone else have this problem? do you think i am being a horrible person? should i just give in and have EVERYONE in it?!

argh MOMZILLA!!!!!!!!!!!!

I think you are right and it is perfectly understandable to leave the younger kids out. I think 2 is kind of young to be in a wedding and especially since you are having other kids. I think its too many kids. But what do I know I didn't have any kids in mine I say do what you want and don't let your mom pressure you into what you don't want to do! Its a decision btw you and your FH and he doesn't want it and it doesn't seem like you do either. Hope that helped...

I baby-sit for three families (two of those families are my cousins). We did not want 8 kids in the bridal party, so what we did was from one family we made the two girls Jr. Bridesmaids (they're sisters, 8 & 9, so I couldn't choose only one), and then chose one child from each family (the middle two-they will be 6 and a half) to be FG & RB. 2 is a rough age to have in the wedding party. That's a lot of people watching them and they might get upset. I would bring that up to your mom.

Good luck!