I need to vent.....

My Fh is driving me insane!!!!! He does not want to take any responbility in his life and i am starting to question if i should go thru with this marriage. I love him but his sour mood and lack of motivation is serious putting me down.

We live with his parents in a basement apartment and his mother pratically runs his life. he can not seperate from her and it really has me concern. About three months ago i put my foot down and told him that he either moves out with me or we get a puppy. well guess what i got a puppy his name is Murphy.

Which brings me too last night... he was out with his friends that he hasnt seen in awhile and Murphy bite my ear caused it to bleed so i called him and told him to get home. When he finally gets home he begins to tell how his friends got mad at me for telling him to get home. Now granted at the time i called him i didnt know how bad it was all i knew it was bleeding. Then he made it out to be that i am the reason that he couldnt hang out with his friends which is not the case he doesnt like leaving home. and to top everything else off i got into my car this morning (he used to go out last night) and there is a 6 pack of beer sitting in the front seat. all but one gone. If the dog was around i would have thrown the bottles at his head.


I dont know what to do. We are 4 months and a few weeks til our wedding and I am about to snap.


thank you for listen(well reading)

Flo

Flo,,

im sorry to hear about what happened last nite, but im in the same boat as you we live in the basement apartment of my FMIL house and she is always involved in our business, you have to sit FH down and tell him that you thought you 2 were a team and that in the end when you move it will only be you 2 ! and as far as his friends i wouldnt let it bother you im sure they would have left to they were just talking cr@@p! good luck with everything and congrats on murphy !

What is it with guys and their moms? I mean I think its great when they have a great relationship and all, but at some point they have to cut the strings a bit.

first off

second, im so sorry u r going through this....im sure part of this is just stress from the planning and all that..he might have just wanted to be with th boys because he is tired of talking wedding...my fh needs it once in a while...but u need to understand that has no effect on how he feels about u..its just guys fr some reason cant do wedding 24/7 the way we can lol

as for ur living situation..i think u guys need to find ur own place..get him to be use to not being so cose to his mom..explain that f it is ausing this much stress u guys need to be apart from her..not in life just in the house


now i know u r 4 months away but if u r really having doubts u neeed to have a talk with him r go to counseling..u should not have one doubt in ur head when u walk down the aisle..

hope this help and u feel better and please fm me if u want to talk

boys will be boys!! they all have their moments!
good that you got the puppy, but bad your still living in his mother house!
you seriously need to sit down and have a talk with him, remember why you guys are getting married! there is soo much out there that can tare a relationship apart, but if you truely love each other you need to get him to refocus!!

you can do it dont worry!