I need to Vent

JRT5412 Posted: Feb 11, 2011 12:09 PM

I need to Vent

So i just found out last night that someone I thought I could share my happiness with is actually showing signs of Jealousy towards me getting married. I honestly thought this person was happy for me and now I come to find out they are really not and just putting up a front that they are when they see me.

AND! to top it all off she already mentioned to someone that If I ask her to be a Bridesmaid she will probably say NO b/c she is planning on going thru treatments to have a baby and that is going to cost her and her husband money and that she is not going to postpone her plans b/c of my wedding. WOW!!! I would never ask anyone to postpone their life plans for me so i don't why she would say something like that.

I am really pissed off!!! I'm trying really hard not let this get to me, but just that someone would assume things about me that I never even said just makes me Angry!!! Ok Vent over!

Bride in 2012 Posted: Feb 11, 2011 12:13 PM

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I'm sorry. People can just be so harsh at times. Do you plan on saying something to her? I have no tolerance for people who talk behind my back so I always confront them. It doesn't sound like she's a good friend/person, so even if you stop speaking, it's not like you're benefiting from having her in your life.

FutureMrsGTL Posted: Feb 11, 2011 12:18 PM

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Im so sorry you're going through this!

Hope it works out.. are you planning on confronting her?

sjr385 Posted: Feb 11, 2011 12:21 PM

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MrsJPH2012 Posted: Feb 11, 2011 12:39 PM

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Unfortunately I agree with Sarah... weddings and engagements can sometimes bring out the worst in people.

Hopefully she's not doing it to hurt you, maybe she is spending a lot of money on these treatments and she preemptively feels bad for letting you down, so instead of feeling guilty she's projecting the blame to you? If it were my friend I wouldn't jump right to anger (in confronting her, not in feelings) and say I heard you say these things, I can't believe you would think I wouldn't care about you just because I'm getting marriied... Hopefully she'll open up. Good luck.

philsdeezy Posted: Feb 11, 2011 12:41 PM

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Don't even waste you time with this crap. By letting this get to you and ruin you day they are already winning. You are up set and they are going about there day happy. I don't believe in he said she said crap wait till you hear it from her. If it is SO get mad then get happy don't let it eat you up let it go. Planning my wedding I found out who was my friends and who really wasn't but at the end I got the prize I married my BEST FRIEND. So F@#$ them.

EmilyandPeter Posted: Feb 11, 2011 01:06 PM

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I'm so sorry that this is happening.

I hope in the end she can be happy for and with you.

Maybe it is the hormones from the treatments to get pregnant, but that is still no excuse in the way she is treating you.

I hope this all works out in the end for you!

JRT5412 Posted: Feb 11, 2011 01:08 PM

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Thanks ladies. I have no intention of confronting her b/c I didn't hear her say it. I'm not even going to bother asking her if it's true she said something like that. I have more important things to think about which is my happiness and wedding planning and we all know as the date gets closer this whole planning will become more and more stressful.

Thanks for hearing me out. It feels good to vent b/c I feel soo much better. Trust me I am not going to lose sleep over this. I just needed to let it out & get your thoughts on this. I will just from now on just keep things to myself and keep my distance as well from her & not share any of the wedding planning with her b/c her good intentions aren't there and well I don't need the negativity.

Love you all

JRT5412 Posted: Feb 11, 2011 01:12 PM

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Posted by EmilyandPeter

I'm so sorry that this is happening.

I hope in the end she can be happy for and with you.

Maybe it is the hormones from the treatments to get pregnant, but that is still no excuse in the way she is treating you.

I hope this all works out in the end for you!

that's the thing. She hasn't even started her treatments yet!!! She just has the thought in her head that she will soon be starting it and that it will cost her and her DH money. So she is assuming that by the time of my wedding she will be prego. And if she is prego I will be sooo happy for her b/c I know she really wants a baby.

FutureMrsCat050412 Posted: Feb 11, 2011 01:40 PM

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That really stinks

That whole jealousy thing is so annoying....I am getting it too! It's not fair...people are supposed to be happy for you not pissed bc ur getting married

Sorry to hear about that

thefloreswedding Posted: Feb 11, 2011 03:02 PM

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im sorry about this!! its horrible that some people are so egoistic and selfish...you definitely get to see peoples true colors during this!! good luck!

midnight26 Posted: Feb 11, 2011 03:30 PM

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i'm sorry! weddings bing out people's true colors...

Jill52787 Posted: Feb 11, 2011 03:30 PM

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Yeah that fact that she'd even think you'd want her to put your wedding before a pregnancy would piss me off too!

Don't let it get you down. Just think of how you're going to feel when you see FH down the aisle!!!

JRT5412 Posted: Feb 11, 2011 04:30 PM

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Thanks Ladies!!!

mara1017 Posted: Feb 11, 2011 04:32 PM

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I am so sorry you have to even think about this for a second. People really suck! That is why I like animals better... jk kidding (well maybe not really)

Alannah22 Posted: Feb 11, 2011 05:28 PM

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I'm sorry! Some people just don't know how to be happy for other people.

EmilyandPeter Posted: Feb 11, 2011 06:18 PM

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Posted by JRT5412

Posted by EmilyandPeter

I'm so sorry that this is happening.

I hope in the end she can be happy for and with you.

Maybe it is the hormones from the treatments to get pregnant, but that is still no excuse in the way she is treating you.

I hope this all works out in the end for you!

that's the thing. She hasn't even started her treatments yet!!! She just has the thought in her head that she will soon be starting it and that it will cost her and her DH money. So she is assuming that by the time of my wedding she will be prego. And if she is prego I will be sooo happy for her b/c I know she really wants a baby.

OH... Well then that changes things... I'm so sorry!

DonnaMarie7 Posted: Feb 11, 2011 07:09 PM

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I'm sorry!!

Sometimes people can be so stupid. I mean obviously she has had her moment to be a bride and everyone was happy for her- she should remember that! Was she someone you were planning on asking?

I had a friend SHOCK me as well! When FH proposed, it was 3 1/2 weeks after my father was in a plane crash. It was such a happy moment for my family after everything we had been through. I had one friend say 'wow, thats great' when I called her and then later on text me and was like 'how's the ring?' so I told her and then she text me back, 'well you just have all the luck, don't you?' I know that she is upset that she hasn't had successful relationships, but like really???

I hope this friend comes around for you!!

ddms7870 Posted: Feb 11, 2011 07:34 PM

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some people are just MISERABLE and it sucks. I know I'm always to happy to hear great news about engagements, pregnancies, ESPECIALLY people i'm close with.

Those negative comments are enough to make you just want to distance yourself from people like that. To quote one of my 'friends' when she found out I was buying my condo a couple of years ago...'I'm sorry Debbie, I just can't be happy for you right now'.

Can you imagine????