I need to vent about FMIL -I'm going to explode- very long

I really don't care for FHs mother. She doesn't respect any boundaries. She makes arrangements and decsions about our wedding without consulting us. She harasses me -telling us what to do, then gets all pouty when she's not getting the attention she wants.

FH is her only child and she is single. Preparing for this wedding is her life.
She's making a stressful time worse and I don't know what to do about it.

To name a few recent ones:

she got mad b/c she didn't help pick out invitations

then she was upset that her name wasn't on them - I didn't want 7 names on an invitation (his father is remarried)- I did together with their parents

then she wanted her friend to bake the cake, I wanted a baker I know- she said fine we'll have 2??????

Everyday she calls me at work with something. We have both asked her not to call me at to work. We are going through a merger and I'm super busy. I literally had to hang up on her today b/c she just wouldn't stop trying to convince me to invite more people. You made the decision to invite your friends over family- now they are pissed- you deal with it

She literally said , she doesn't know what she's going to do after August because of how much the wedding consumes her. That is her choice- noone is asking you to butt in everywhere

I keep saying as a joke, she can wear my dress and walk down the aisle since she wants to do everything else

oh yeah- she's getting a dress made with a bustle

I just cant take anymore of her. I know I will never have a good relationship with her. She criticize everything and I jsut think she's pathetic.

She doesn't get subtle hints and FI is concerned about hurting her feelings.

Thanks for letting me vent.

Yikes- that is really tough.

Maybe her friend can make a groom's cake that you can surprise FH with at the rehearsal dinner or wedding? Then you can use the baker you want for the wedding cake. I know it's a small thing but maybe it will at least help you deal with one issue.

I have a slight inkling of what you are going through! We had to have our invites reprinted because my FMIL made such a big stink about her name not being on them. She wants to be involved in the planning in everyway. She keeps telling me that she is giving away her only son, blah, blah, blah. She complains about me to him and then when I confront her she claims he misunderstood her. She has criticized virtually every decision I have made including the color of my BM dresses! I just pray that after the wedding we will have some sense of noramlcy because she is driving me nuts!!!!! If u ever need to vent FM me.

I definitly feel for you b/c 99% of the time my FMIL is nasty and criticizes every little thing I do.... but niether one of our parents are really getting involved in the wedding.... and only say stuff when I bring it up... so I stopped bringing it up... in a way I wish I had parents who were a little more invloved... a happy medium between your fmil and mine

You have FM.

sorry...I got a pain in the butt FMIL too!

I feel your pain.

WOW sounds like she needs a life other than yours. I wish you luck with this one.

Eeeek! No advice but I wanted to say good luck and you are very patient to have not exploded already.

I am sorry! I wish I had good advice but I don't. Good Luck!

wow, is she paying for anything? that could be the bigest reason for all of the interference....hang in there august is around the corner

You poor thing!