ok here it goes. my best friend asked me to be in her bridal party last week and i said yes. i live in fl and she lives in ny. i found the dress that she wants me to get. only thing is her back round. she has been engaged to her fh for 4 1/2 years. 3 times already they have made deposits and planned everything for the wedding and cancled it 5 months before and one time it was 2 months before. luckily those times we got our dress deposits back. this time we will not be able to. i really think i am taking a big risk with this. she is so on and off with her fh that im not sure if i should be in the bridal party. i have to spend $175.00 on the dress plus alterations, $200.00 on plane tickets, money for a rent a car for my fh and a hotel, plus a gift for the bridal shower, and the wedding. that is alot to spend money on, and then she decides to tell everyone that she isnt getting married anymore because her and fh got in another stupid fight or something. im not sure what to do. do i take the chance or get screwed in the end??? help girls. what do you think?????
CC59
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For your best friend I'd say take the risk. Maybe she wasn't ready before but is now. I would give here the benefit of the doubt! When is she planing on getting married? Can you hold off on the plane tickets for now? that would help cut down some of the expense for now.
salsbride06
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shes getting married on october 1st.
salsbride06
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i have to order my dress now though...
hmpena
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I think that you should do it. I agree with CC59 that you should try to hold off on as much as you can. This way if she decided to call off the wedding, you won't be hurting as much.
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I would UNFORTUNATELY put down atleast the smallest amount of deposit and that's it! No plane tix or anything else yet.....if she does do it one more time (hope not!) you'll be able to atleast get out of it the next time. Does that make sense? Hope it helps!
salsbride06
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thanks girls
psf80
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I also think you should hold off on the plane tickets and hotel reservations. Put down a small deposit on the dress... is it atleast a dress that you could wear again to something else?
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you should totally take the risk. This is a best friend, and as a bridesmaid you are there to support her. I would suck it up and just go with the flow
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I would only risk it if you want to consider a vacation to New York in October. THis way yeah you've lost money on the dress but you can still look at the trip as money well spent for vacation.
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Posted by Capulet72
I would only risk it if you want to consider a vacation to New York in October. THis way yeah you've lost money on the dress but you can still look at the trip as money well spent for vacation.
Very true...i know she is my best friend but she has already canceled on 24 of us(the whole bridal party) before about her 'wedding'. its such a tough situation.... i think i will just take the risk...she will just owe me big time when my wedding rolls around
