When I first came to the site I told my story of a family member on my FH's side that I didn't get along with. For what ever reason she has she doesnt like me.
Well today me and my FH and some family were discussing wedding details and the cousin happened to be there. Were were discussing seating arrangements. When the cousin showed up she didnt even talk to me or aknowledge me. Then when we started talking and I made a point. She sacrasitcally stated Well you dont know the family like that to be making a judgement call like that. I got so offended the family looked at her and basically told her it's my wedding she can do as she please, all we can do is make suggestions. My FH just tells me in the kindest way possible for me to try! Try and talk with her. That she is really a nice person I just didnt get to know her.
All I want to do is smack her like in the movie Monster-in-Law! Am I wrong? What should I do? Should I try to sit down and talk to her face-to-face?
bride2b24
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Well IMO if she is your FH's cousin she has no say in your wedding whatsoever.....yeah be civil with her.....but why should you HAVE to talk wedding with her........she should mind her own bussiness......and you can a) kill her with kindness or b) put her in her place!!!!( p.s. thats what i would do....) good luck!
smurray
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Honestly IMO she's not an immediate family member so it's no reason for you to have to make firndes w/ her. What I would do though is kill her w/ kindness for the moment, but the next time she ticks you off to that boiling point I would flat out ask her *** is you problem! Sorry to be so blatant about it, but I have a serious problem w/ family memebers thinking they can do, and say anything to their family members mates and get away w/ it b/c they're family. It really bugs me. Is she and FH really close?
prettyprincess07
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Posted by smurray
Honestly IMO she's not an immediate family member so it's no reason for you to have to make firndes w/ her. What I would do though is kill her w/ kindness for the moment, but the next time she ticks you off to that boiling point I would flat out ask her *** is you problem! Sorry to be so blatant about it, but I have a serious problem w/ family memebers thinking they can do, and say anything to their family members mates and get away w/ it b/c they're family. It really bugs me. Is she and FH really close?
They were b4, but once he and i got together she started acting different. According to him she kind of changed.
lilqtpie2181
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Posted by bride2b24
Well IMO if she is your FH's cousin she has no say in your wedding whatsoever.....yeah be civil with her.....but why should you HAVE to talk wedding with her........she should mind her own bussiness......and you can a) kill her with kindness or b) put her in her place!!!!( p.s. thats what i would do....) good luck!
me too unless she really got on my nerves theni would just totally disregard her.. like not even acknowledge her when she is in a room, and then when I felt the time was right, I would take her to the side nd talk to her one on one and get to the bottom of the sillyness.
transamgirlie
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me too unless she really got on my nerves theni would just totally disregard her.. like not even acknowledge her when she is in a room, and then when I felt the time was right, I would take her to the side nd talk to her one on one and get to the bottom of the sillyness
I agree! I would defiantly take her aside and find out what right she thinks she has to be such a b**ch to you.
