i think i may have to demote my moh(bf) and let my top bm
miss nee
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i think i may have to demote my moh(bf) and let my top bm
take her place..she is dealing w/ a bunch of drama(self inflicted) and just doesnt seem to have the time and attn i feel as though i need to keep things together.and help where needed...i mean litearlly no help..how many chances do you get ..? no one will ruin my day
Soon2BeMrs
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Re: i think i may have to demote my moh(bf) and let my top bm
if shes your bestfriend i would first talk to her about how you are feeling and let her know that you are thinking of demoting her...if nothing changes than you have to do what you gotta do but if i was in her position i would feel a bit hurt to be demoted cause of personal reasons just my opinion i think the others can also step up to help
Hisforever
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Girl- I had to do just that- i had to replace my MOH- it was not working- to make matters worse, her son was supposed to be the ring bearer, so now that she is out, so is he. But I was able to replace both. It is your wedding and you have to do what will make this a special day, if it means shifting around your BP.... then i would doit!
miss nee
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thatsthe answer i wanted leslie .... i have a very low tolerance for stress
MrsBrags7706
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Going back, I WISHED I did that! MY MOH was horrible! I wished I picked my other cousin [bm] !! And I regret it EVERY DAY OF MY LIFE!
Go for it if thats how u feel!
miss nee
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thanks ladies...
MrsBrags7706
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reading this post brings such ANGER back... im STILL not over this and irs been 6 months! grrr!!!
just dont make the same mistake i did! thats all im asking!!!!
KellymKuehn
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I think whatever makes it less stressful is the way to go ..it is YOUR DAY. I am having a similar problem: I choose my best friend of 16 years and she was completely honored and surprised when I chose her (because I have 3 sisters, but they arent really old enough to take on the responsibility). Now she has had a lot of problems in the past few months but she acts like I am bothering her when I ask her about the wedding. I am giving her time because my wedding is far away (more than a year and a half) but if in May, when I start to really get planning she still has a bad attitude I am going to pick someone else. I don't know who because so many people are already offended by my decision but whatever.
ellebelle1
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As a former bride, I say pick the most responsible and generous friend. Period. My MOH was the friend I knew the least amount of time, yet was closest with. Before I was even engaged she was talking about throwing me a shower. How could I resist? I knew she was the one to be my MOH. She was amazing
Autumn08
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Demote? Is she your friend or your employee? I would talk to her about whether or not she feels the need to step down. Make the decision together.
ETA: Also if she's going through a tough time then maybe you should be a good friend to her and talk to her about her problems. I think it's a little cold to give a friend the brush off.
KellymKuehn
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Ok, well now I feel like a total Biotch. A few hours after I posted I spoke to my best friend MOH. She is still having problems and she is going through a crazy time but then we were talking about her coming to visit me in Jersey this weekend and she said, ' I am going to get a binder to keep all of my MOH duties organized' and I told her that I thought that she was going through a stressful time and thought maybe she didn't want to be MOH anymore and she said,'I would never leave you like that' So, who has the big mouth now? It's me!
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Re: i think i may have to demote my moh(bf) and let my top bm
Posted by KellymKuehn
Ok, well now I feel like a total Biotch. A few hours after I posted I spoke to my best friend MOH. She is still having problems and she is going through a crazy time but then we were talking about her coming to visit me in Jersey this weekend and she said, ' I am going to get a binder to keep all of my MOH duties organized' and I told her that I thought that she was going through a stressful time and thought maybe she didn't want to be MOH anymore and she said,'I would never leave you like that' So, who has the big mouth now? It's me!
I'm so glad!!! 16 years is to long of a time to risk losing for the day. I'm so glad it worked out and she's getting excited!
